That a friend shouldnt do this?

[IAmNotPatientOrPregnant]

So I probably am being unreasonable.

But basically a few days ago, I told my friend I had found the car of my dreams but I couldn't afford it at the moment. She asked me what I wanted and what colour. I told her the colour choice was for a relatively sentimental reason.

She messaged me today to tell me shes bought a new car and us picking it up this evening. The car I told her I wanted, in the same colour.

I'm probably acting spoilt and bitchy but there was a reason behind my colour choice and I absolutely love the car.

What annoys me the most is the car wasnt even at the garage, she specifically went there and asked for that car in that colour.

It's not the first time shes done it, but it's always been with little things, not a bloody car.

She knows I've been feeling down lately and this has just stopped it all off.

Just tell her you're fed up with the friendship as she just copies you and you find it tedious and weird.

ExSIL did the same to me, I had been saving for my first car for ages and she bought the exact spec of car I wanted the day after I told her about it... she had a different car within a year. Also copied the colour scheme/furnishings we were saving for for our lounge/dining room, anything I was saving for she did within a week.

I would make an Amazon wish list full of random and ridiculous crap like hideous yellow/gree hair dye, home perm kits (bound to go wrong!), rude garden gnomes, lace doilies, weird ornaments etc and 'accidently' share it with her! Seriously though it is a bit creepy but I hope harmless. I think after the wish list I'd see how many things she bought for herself, have a chuckle to myself, then back away from the 'friendship'.

(Sorry if wish list has already been suggested only read highlighted posts fully and skim read the rest)

Why don't you call her on it? You don't have to go crazy. You could just msg her, eg:

"Why on earth would you buy the exact same car I told you I wanted?"

I haven't even read all the replies

• lock your doors, she can't get in then
• stop telling her things
• take a step back from the relationship, it isn't healthy

I honestly don't see why you're SO wound up about a car, she has form for being odd, ordering stuff before you can etc so I just don't understand why you'd tell her this information. Or why you're SO damn upset. Put on your big girl pants and / or take steps to cutting her out of your life. She oversteps boundaries and you need to put her back in her box.

And the colour thing is odd IMO, there are probably loads of cars the same colour, you're making a mountain out of a molehill

You need to lock your door and get a garden gate as priority.

If you end up seeing the car, be really super enthused about it and then say "what make is it?" and then "What do they call this colour?" and then remark on how you "don't know this make of car at all, is it a good one? - but you are looking for a mid size car too - maybe a VW or Ford or a Kia - you're not too sure yet...you keep changing your mind as there are so many out there to choose from and you are finding it hard to keep interested in cars to be honest.....

Let her bring the car over and time it so that when she arrives your oh announces
“ ah bugger I owe you £100 now” .
You : damn I forgot about that
Weird friend : what? !
You :I’d rather not say
Weird friend : ack go on , go on , go on 🤪
You: ok but you won’t like it
Weird friend : try me
You or oh: we’ve been having bets between us for years that you’d go and do something like this eventually . Truth is I fecking hate those cars and that colour is just rank . Can’t believe you actually did it 😂

And bin the friend, she’s a biatch !

"Certainly don’t tell her you’re going to try for a baby, or share baby names!"

Oh, I am sure we could dream up some really outrageous names, @Jackfruit! Balonz is a MN classic for a reason.

All very funny to suggest horrible baby names, but you're not thinking of the child. OP said this woman doesn't like kids, so it would be a really bad idea to play with her like that, just in case she would go so far as to get pregnant if she thinks OP is TTC.

OP should either just tell her she doesn't want to be friends anymore, and why, or just fade her out, locking her doors, so she can't just waltz in, and not replying to messages.

Oh dear she's Clearly a nutter run OP I hope you get the balls to tell her.

I would do the same as a pp suggested and ask her why she got the same car you wanted?

Any updates OP?