That a friend shouldnt do this?

[IAmNotPatientOrPregnant]

So I probably am being unreasonable.

But basically a few days ago, I told my friend I had found the car of my dreams but I couldn't afford it at the moment. She asked me what I wanted and what colour. I told her the colour choice was for a relatively sentimental reason.

She messaged me today to tell me shes bought a new car and us picking it up this evening. The car I told her I wanted, in the same colour.

I'm probably acting spoilt and bitchy but there was a reason behind my colour choice and I absolutely love the car.

What annoys me the most is the car wasnt even at the garage, she specifically went there and asked for that car in that colour.

It's not the first time shes done it, but it's always been with little things, not a bloody car.

She knows I've been feeling down lately and this has just stopped it all off.

Certainly don’t tell her you’re going to try for a baby, or share baby names!

Christ no. If she doesn't like kids, she'll be a terrible mother. We see enough posts on here about people with narc mothers, and the damage they cause.

Yes Photoshop could come in very useful here! Paste some "tasteful" pampas grass onto a photo of your front garden, make a picture of yourself on your "new motorbike", of yourself catalogue model with your face wearing your unflattering "favourite new outfit" and "taking part" in random new hobby.

I like the idea of watching single white female with her. Invite her round to watch a film one evening then near the end of the film start laughing, point at her and say "omg she's just like you isnt she!" and list off all the things she's done in the past to copy you.

Weird and she's done it on purpose. She is not a friend.

I agree with this though : You should go over to look at the car, tell her it's lovely, really suits her, then declare how relieved you are you decided against that colour! Something along the lines of Phew...I'm glad I didn't as it's not as I thought it would be, but it suits you!

Don’t get a tattoo. Clearly it irritates her that you haven’t got tattoos when you don’t. Just say you wouldn’t like tattoos on yourself but hers look lovely 🙂

**when she does

I gave my 'friend' some advice to become self employed like myself (same area but different specialist part) ...Next thing we know, she's stolen my business idea that I confided to her in private (over wine) and launched it complete with business cards, advertising etc etc. She's not even qualified to do it, that's the worst bit, but I can't say that as I will look like the bad person..even had mutual friends saying what a great idea she's had, how come I didn't think of it etc .

I'm just waiting for karma to do its part.

Some people are just nuts. I keep my distance from this 'friend' now - she's no friend.

There are some bloody crazy people out there! She's nuts. Ditch her! Oh, first thing, pay for a decent bolted garden gate, keep her out of your property. That's just bonkers.

Bit too much.... not a true friend, you're more of a fixation for her.

It is weird and odd, but I never understand in situations like this why you don’t point it out? You get post upon post about revenge and passive aggressive ways of dealing with her, but if she’s such an irritant why can’t you just say ‘I’m sorry but you’re really weird. Who hears someone likes a specific thing, then buys it for themselves to rub in someone’s face? I don’t really want to see your new car, and I’m not sure I want to see you either - this is the straw/camel’s back in a long line of your odd behaviour’.

Let’s face it, op - I doubt you’re going to do anything to address her behaviour. The only way to deal with this is to tell her straight how the things she does aren’t ok, or to break off the friendship.

Christ bin her off, she's a psycho. If you're oh is sick of her letting herself into your garden and house then you need to put a stop to it. She loves one upping you and having control, and you have no boundaries. You absolutely can cut her off completely, she's no friend. In 9 months you'll be back here saying she's using your baby name.

Send her a copy of Single White Female with note saying 'hey, I didn't know that they made a film about you'
Then tell her you've rented out your house and are moving to Outer Mongolia for 12 months at the weekend. Arrange for someone she doesn't know to hang around at your house at the weekend pretending to be the new tenants. Send her a goodbye text. All being well you'll be shot of her for a year come Sunday night (if not Friday night).

@IAmNotPatientOrPregnant please tell her you're saving up for a feature stone for your garden...

www.pavingsuperstore.co.uk/slate-hollolith.html

A nice 6ft one...then once it's bought you can look at it and declare you're rather glad you didn't go ahead and buy one after all unless you're already a feature stone kind of person

And lock your door!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't forget to tell your new friend about how you're considering building a sauna onto your house OP. And how you and DP have decided to have IVF. And how you want your nipples pierced.

@BeachBody is spot on. Discuss the fact you'd love a really big tattoo (perhaps of something really ugly?), but you can't afford it. Then buy a MASSIVE fake tattoo... and see what happens...

Don't know why anyone would flame you for this... it's pretty obvs that she's done this to you either because she is insanely jealous of you and was waiting for an opportunity to get one up or she did it just because she can. Neither reason makes a decent person.

So YANBU - a friend wouldn't do that, but a showboating little cunt would.

Don't give her the time of day

Start sending her pictures of the most hideous things - fushia pink rooms with velvet drapes, zebra print rugs and 8 foot tigers and start talking about how you're saving up for it and how excited you are because its always looked like the most luxurious opulent look...

Or just become the most fickle person that's ever existed. Every week you have changed your mind on where you're going on holiday. Announce it, wait for her to book, change your mind, over and over. Create a smokescreen so she can never tell whats really booked and what isn't.

"When her boyfriend left her she actually tried to convince me to leave my OH so we could be single together. "

If you had she would have been on him within a week.

Yeah, it’s really weird... I would ditch her if it were me. Not through jealousy, it’s just an extremely odd thing to do.

Sounds like she doesn't know who she is, lacks confidence in her choices, so chooses the same as you or others,

Oh and I agree with @DoneLikeAKipper I don't get this stunned silence malarkey. If it were me my immediate response would have been "are you fucking kidding me, you know what Sandra you really are an asshole"

I would txt her and say: I don't need to see your new car seeing as its the exact one I have been raving about wanting for ages but cant afford to buy so I know it inside out but of course you know that already don't you. See what she comes back with.

She's actually your stalker!
You're going to have to be quite ruthlessly determined to get her out of your life. Don't contact her, if she contacts you just say, "Can't talk now. Bye." If she turns up at your house block her from entering and tell her you're expecting someone. Don't let her in.
And keep your door locked!

She has major issues. You should pity her for her weird and rather obsessive behaviour.

Let her come and show you her car, stand there, look at it and say “hmmmmm, I’m really glad I didn’t order one now, I’ve really gone off the colour, it doesn’t look as good as I thought it would”. Then ditch her as a friend.

I wrote a post last week about a friend doing similar (buying the same vehicle as me, a very specific, not your average vehicle). It made me feel really weird as she had copied other things that I do too.