Beer Fear - WTF do I do?!

[GotTheBeerFear]

Posting for traffic, and looking for guidance as to what I should do as I'm in no fit state to make a sensible decision.

Have name changed too as I don't want to out myself.

Got massively drunk last night, not proud of it & paying the price this morning although truth be told I still feel pissed.

Must have text an old 'acquaintance' last night... cut contact months ago as I fell for him (I know, I know) and despite him getting in touch several times I've just ignored him.

Changed phones and deleted his number in fact, so the temptation hasn't been there.

Anyway, wake up this morning to a text message from him asking who it is... wtf do I do?! Got proper beer fear and scared to even open the message and read what I must have sent him last night. I was transferring photos from my old phone yesterday and came across his number so it can't just be a coincidence :-(

Do I ignore, or own it and admit who it is? Read the message or just straight delete (and block so there's no repercussions)!

Tbh it did sting a bit to read him asking who it is but we've never ever text before so he can't have my number stored and he'd have known who it was over messenger or WhatsApp.

Please tell me what to do!

Otherwise, you clearly are interested in re-kindling things!

That sounds fine. Casual enough that he doesn’t feel the need to keep his pet rabbits secure, but open to picking up a conversation if he wants.

Remember that even if you chat for a while and you find you’re not on the same page, you can stop talking to him. Again! 😉

Sounds good. Now send it :)

God fucking help me.

I've sent it.

Handhold majorly needed haha

I would change my WhatsApp photo to something generic just in case and text him back and said “it’s Sarah. Xxx”
And when he texts back asking Sarah who i would just not reply.

And then I would block him on WhatsApp and in my phone.

Pardon me asking but if this guy was the 1 how come you split up?.

If it was THAT good, then surely It would have worked then??

Omg you need to text him! From the replies and actions you have put on here to him, it comes across imo that from his view, your not into him as much as you really are.

You can't hold it over him that he hasn't told you how he feels as you have done exactly the same thing. I think you'll regret it if you don't find out

Yay! Hand holds.

Let’s talk about hangover food until he responds! What’s your poison?

I love a wee real-time thread!! Good luck!

@Justaboy we were never together in the first place... not officially anyway. It was a relationship of ahem, convenience that met both our needs at the time.

But I fell for him, and didn't believe it would go any further so cut him off.

And I've messaged him! Over text which I did at stupid o'clock this morning. No reply as yet...

I feel a wreck

So happy you messaged him definitely the right choice!

@IvanaPee hangover food... now we're talking! Pizza Hut large super supreme pizza stuffed crust with extra cheese, Ben & Jerry's cookie dough ice cream and a bottle of full fat coke. With a Bloody Mary on the side.

I've just had a bit of Easter egg and some water and feel sick.

Still no reply

"Still no reply"

You only sent it 10mins ago!

Yeah chocolate is no good before the stodgy!

The pizza - that’s the stuff!

Have pizza. At least ordering it will occupy your mind for a few minutes.

@diddl I know, but I'm so impatient!

Thank goodness it's over text. I think waiting for the blue ticks on WhatsApp or seeing him online and not reading it would tip me over the edge today. I know I need to get a grip! The hangover is not helping.

Put your phone somewhere and watch two entire episodes of something on Netflix before looking at it again.

And have some monster munch and a can of coke while waiting to order your pizza 😉

I'm debating opening my POF profile after having countless emails sent from about 3AM onwards

😂😂😂

If I was you I would've added a direct question to that reply. Yours almost reads as though you don't want him to reply. Very straight to the point.

You remind me of my friend....and I don't even know you. I imagine you're very guarded, independent and not that emotional? I mean that in a good way.

Try and open up a little bit more to him.....

I hope you are feeling better and have got that pizza ordered!!

20 seconds of insane bravery OP, tell him how you feel. He’ll either feel the same or not. But at least you’ll know and you won’t spend forever asking ‘what if’

No pizza ordered as yet. I've taken a massive turn for the worst and feel 🤮

All self inflicted so not expecting sympathy... although it would be welcome as HE STILL HAS NOT REPLIED 😭😭😭

@Russell19 yes you're not far off the mark there, I've been really open on this thread (for me anyway!) so i find it interesting that you've picked up on those few points.

I've always been quite a closed person, I find it's easier to not get hurt that way.

When I'm drunk though it's a completely different story! I won't shut up.

Fingers crossed for you.

All self inflicted so not expecting sympathy... although it would be welcome as HE STILL HAS NOT REPLIED 😭😭😭

You took like 4-5 hrs to reply to him though. Relax.