Beer Fear - WTF do I do?!

[GotTheBeerFear]

Posting for traffic, and looking for guidance as to what I should do as I'm in no fit state to make a sensible decision.

Have name changed too as I don't want to out myself.

Got massively drunk last night, not proud of it & paying the price this morning although truth be told I still feel pissed.

Must have text an old 'acquaintance' last night... cut contact months ago as I fell for him (I know, I know) and despite him getting in touch several times I've just ignored him.

Changed phones and deleted his number in fact, so the temptation hasn't been there.

Anyway, wake up this morning to a text message from him asking who it is... wtf do I do?! Got proper beer fear and scared to even open the message and read what I must have sent him last night. I was transferring photos from my old phone yesterday and came across his number so it can't just be a coincidence :-(

Do I ignore, or own it and admit who it is? Read the message or just straight delete (and block so there's no repercussions)!

Tbh it did sting a bit to read him asking who it is but we've never ever text before so he can't have my number stored and he'd have known who it was over messenger or WhatsApp.

Please tell me what to do!

Omg brave op!
Ij was going to suggest something more subtle but to the point is good too.
At least you'll know by his reaction, like you say. Fingers and toes crossed this time.

Yes, ask him that.

Can you say something joking like “sorry for never messaging, playing hard to get possibly went too far! I should probably make it up to you?!”

Oh god ignore me, I’m terminally single - I am so excited for you!

Say “well, I messaged this morning. Incoherently but still counts.”

Then maybe ask if he’s suffering today too? If he says yes tell him you’re ordering pizza as a curer and he’s welcome to join you!

I'd reply 'there's a first time for everything' with a wink emoji (in response to you never message me!)

This is so exciting! You're keen...he's keen!! I agree- arrange to meet for a drink (date) so it doesn't go straight back to FWB.

Oh god I literally feel like a kid and have butterflies!

I've replied but gutted @IvanaPee as your reply is a cracking one! I'm gonna try and squeeze it in somewhere if I can!

Oh I'm so excited for you, I felt as though it was me waiting for a reply to the message you sent. I know that feeling all too well 😂.

Don’t worry about it, you’re doing just fine! 😂

See? Sometimes drunken texting is worth it

Awwww.

I miss having fun and butterflies and hangovers.

And I'm pre digital dating.

This is the part of being single that I miss.

I was a great signal dropper in my time (5000 years ago).

Eeek so he said he'd like to see me and asked when I'm free.

Currently arranging a date to meet.

This now feels like the east bit... the seeing him and trying to instigate "that" conversation is going to be so much harder isn't it?

This is all encouraging. He’s clearly flirting by mentioning his bed. My advice would be meet up with him and assess the lie of the land from there, but be honest this time round that you are looking for a proper relationship so if he isn’t then you wish him all the best but you’d better not start up the FWB bit. Whether you do this before or after shagging is up to you, I’d probably go for the shag myself but after at least having some semblance of a drink/meal so you can chat properly. Good luck!

If you want something more serious don't make it all about the bed/sex talk

Say something along the lines of 'It's been a while what's new with you?' You could ask him him if he's hungover too and that if was a shame you didnt bump into him when you were out or something.

Flirty but subtle Also you're asking about him making him think you want to talk about him and not sex.

Oh that's great! And you are older and wiser and aware of how you feel and can probably judge the situation better this time round!
Perhaps he's been pining for you!

Oh God you're way past my suggestion, sorry!

Arrange a proper going out date, you'll know if he just wants FWB or a relationship from his reaction or location he suggests xx

See that's the thing... the sex IS great with him, not gonna lie. But it doesn't feel like it's just all about that.

In the build up to whenever we've met things like "ripping your clothes off straight away" have been said, and yet we're still up chatting on the sofa at 2AM or go to a pub for a drink without even a hint of getting it on.

We just get on so well and enjoy his company just as much, if not more than the sex.

I am coming out of lurking to say that your thread is giving me vicarious butterflies. Please keep updating!!! God I miss hangovers without kids and flirty texting

Good luck OP - I hope it all works out for you.

(As an old boring married I've really enjoyed reading this thread!)

Right don’t overthink it.

It doesn’t have to go straight back to FWB.

Have the date. Enjoy it. You know you get on. You know you’re compatible.

If he makes noises about going back to FWB you tell him you’re not really looking for that sort of arrangement any longer.

That chat can happen organically. It doesn’t have to be a cards on the table thing.

Again, if he’s not up for something more then you haven’t lost anything!

Aw lovely thread! Let's get it on................ooo ooo.............

Thanks everyone for holding my hand literally all day on this thread! 😂

It's made what would otherwise have been a pretty crap day into quite a good one!

I'm seeing him again! Yay I'm so happy!

Would being FWB make life harder for you again? If so maybe being straight with him now would save you any future heartache?
This is said as someone who did the same thing.
Good luck OP!