AIBU to be annoyed with DH about Mother’s Day?

[Diplodoci]

DH: (this morning) What do you want for Mother’s Day?
Me: A rest! (I’m exhausted from constantly looking after DC, reading books, playing trains, cooking meals, shoving spoons in mouths, washing up, changing nappies, wiping faces, getting up at night, etc)

Tonight DH announces that he’s booked a zoo trip and a meal on Sunday for himself, MIL and DC. So I can rest all day because they’ll be out from 9am.

AIBU to be annoyed by this?! Obviously I’d like to spend Mother’s Day with my own DC. My DM will expect to see DC when I take her gift. I’m happy for DH to take DC to visit MIL when he takes her gift, but not for the entire day.

DH has defended himself saying I asked for a rest! But “a rest” doesn’t mean “take DC away for the full day”. Does it? I was thinking more along the lines of me not lifting a finger all day while DH cooks and does everything for DC.

Apparently it’s now too late to cancel because he’s booked tickets and told MIL who is excited about it. And I can’t go with them because MIL and I don’t get along.

Foot down now.... this is not right. Ask him if he was including grannys where was your mother's invite... can not get out of that fucker

I’m on the fence with this one. You said you wanted a rest and he does seem to have taken that on board but then it should have occurred to him you might want to spend some of Mothering Sunday with your child. Does he usually take things literally? He has basically just done what you said. Communication problem I think.

Was going to say can you (and your mother?) go to and make a day of it

Perhaps you should have been a bit more specific. He's taken you literally at your word. And tbh I think it would be a bit unreasonable to make hime cancel.

I’d be bloody delighted if DH did this! Gosh all that sleep.....

I would consider a day without the dc to be a rest tbh. I’d love it, I crave time to myself.

I think your DH has taken you at your word, and I suspect he feels that he has fulfilled his brief perfectly. It’s just that you don’t like his interpretation.

Hmm. I agree communication problem. Tbh I think it sounds great and may suggest the same time my DH!

Can you rest on Saturday instead and then join them on the zoo trip on Sunday?

Tbh he has given you what you asked for. Ok, he may not have read the small print but I am not sure you should be so upset with him.

I’m sorry but I think he’s really done nothing wrong, in fact he’s been thoughtful - he took you at your word...He asked you what you wanted and you wanted a rest!

YANBU to be annoyed, but he wasn’t unreasonable either.

Be careful what you wish for!

Maybe he thought if you were at home with them, even if he was doing it all, they would be trying to go to you?

Agree with AliceRR I'm on the fence too. As much as i wouldn't like dd not to be with me on mother's day I can imagine he may think he was doing the right thing & you'll have the full day to relax. Why don't you and your dm go for a nice lunch or something?

Oh my God. I think this is the most perfect present ever. Your dh is amazing.

Enjoy your fabulous day of rest, as requested (presumably after being given a card by your dd at breakfast?) and welcome your dd back in the evening, when you will feel a lot more motherly for a decent break.

Then give that man a blowjob. A good one.

Mixed views on this.

Yes, he has done what you have asked, and given you a day off.

However, a trip to the zoo and a meal,out sounds a nice family day out.

Plan a nice day for yourself.

YANBU It was insensitive of him. I would feel sad if I was left alone all day on mother’s day. What ages are your kids? I wonder if a trip out is easier for him staying at home but doing most of the ‘caring’ work while you rest in their presence.

He's given you exactly what you asked for! You'd hardly be having a rest if the dc were in the house with you, even if you'd DH was supposed to be doing everything. It just wouldn't work in real life, you'd end up getting drawn in. Make the most of your time off and enjoy the rest that you asked for!

Perhaps not very thoughtful, but he probably genuinely thought he was doing what you would like....or rather what he would like if he fancied a rest from the children. Honest mistake?

Umm I think YABU sorry OP.. Your DH asked and delivered.. I don't think you can blame him.. I'd make Saturday a busy one with the DC and then have yourself a pamper day on Sunday..make the most of it, Its what you asked for!

Im also on the fence. I sould assume you meant you wanted waiting on all day. He obviously decided taking them out would be easier!

Temporary 🤣

Give him a medal and book your self in a spa

Eh? This is what you asked for you should have been more specific if there were conditions attached. Poor bugger.

Sounds bloody perfect to me.

You did say you wanted a rest, he was being thoughtful.
Tell him what you want, rather than expecting him to guess.

I'd feel excluded, the zoo is expensive and not something we do regularly but is really fun and exciting for kids so is not something I'd want to miss out on. Surely doing fun things together is the best bit of parenting!