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No one acknowledged my 60th birthday

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Radley60 · 24/02/2019 17:04

I'm new to this so I hope I'm posting in the right place but I just needed someone to vent to I guess. I just had my 60th birthday. I was looking forward to having a nice day but my family never even acknowledged me. No happy birthday, no gifts, no meal nothing, zilch, zero. I know most people would just say "you're 60 get over it" but I can't stop the tears coming. I just feel so unwanted. My daughter lives abroad so I eagerly checked my email but there was nothing from her. My husband left for work that morning and that was that and my son although he was home, said nothing to me. I stupidly waited all day until my husband came home thinking they would maybe order a meal in for us but no nothing. I was so angry at first, then that changed to tears. I'm on crutches at the moment because of a knee injury so it's not like I could even go out just to get away. I always make sure Christmas and birthdays are celebrated and they never wake up on the morning of their birthdays without cards and gifts and we always go out for a meal. I knew going out was a no go for me this year but I feel like they simply see me as the hired help and not worth bothering with. I'm sorry if I'm rambling and I know it's only a birthday but the lack of any love and affection is really hurting me.

OP posts:
Hepzibar · 27/02/2019 22:12

Has the OP ever actually responded?

ssd · 27/02/2019 22:16

Not really

Makes you wish you hadn't bothered getting invested

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 06:30

Same here.
I am not going to bother posting on these sort of threads any more.

ferntwist · 28/02/2019 07:34

Hoping you’re okay OP. Probably got no idea so many of us have posted and wondering how you are!

Etino · 28/02/2019 07:49

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Kittykat93 · 28/02/2019 07:51

Bit odd the op hasn't been back. Obviously no one is obliged to but why start a thread if you're just going to ignore everyone and not come back?

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 08:25

Thanks for that @Etino

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 08:27

You have no idea.

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 09:04

There are trolls on MN.
There are some people who read OP then do not RTFT.
OP might now be planning a FABULOUS 61st.
Let’s hope she is .

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 09:48

Oh and everyone have a lovely day !

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 28/02/2019 10:01

I read that as 61 stone!

PregnantSea · 28/02/2019 10:07

Stop making excuses for being upset - it is a big deal and they've been absolute shits. Any normal person would be upset.

I hope they make it up to you.

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 10:20

Ate all the birthday cake! haha @LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD
Love your name , Lord ...I have secretly admired it for some time.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 28/02/2019 10:22

It would be longer but there’s a username length limit! Was going to throw in a few more titles!

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 10:27

I name change a little bit ( festive spirit and all that ! ) I have been on a few threads with you @Lord.
I am sure OP would not mind if I derailed the thread slightly.

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 10:30

Mmmm.
We could organise a Fantasy Birthday Party for OP .

How about a marquee to start?
Bands anyone ?
Drinks?
Food?

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 28/02/2019 10:34

It was plain old Fekko not that long ago!

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 28/02/2019 10:35

Anyone else getting a KrispyKreme donut ad? They are yukky bit we need cake and gin.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 28/02/2019 10:36

No balloons. They are evil.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 28/02/2019 10:36

Can we have a marquee full of puppies and kittens?

Jux · 28/02/2019 10:57

Kittykat, sometimes people post just to vent and having vented move on.

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 11:04

Birthday Girl could have a party dress with a big train with the said puppies , kittens , and bunny rabbits on it ....tribute to The Favourite , ( Olivia Colman , and did you see the Melissa Mc Carthy dress ?)

Absolutely ..stuffed toys ( for those with allergies ) and a separate area for other cuties.

CharlyAngelic · 28/02/2019 11:07

I had the Krispy Kremes ad earlier .

Welcome drink of champagne , or elderflower spritz .

Stevie Wonder or Altered Images for Happy Birthday song ?

Imperfectsusan · 28/02/2019 12:41

Happy birthday.

@Drum2018 has my vote.

AreYouJoking66 · 01/03/2019 09:11

Sorry to hear how painful this has been for you. I would be in tears too. However I think this is a turning point for you to make some changes. First of all tell them how disappointed you are with them all. Go on strike - if they want food they can shop and cook, if they want clean clothes they can wash and iron (assuming you do all these thing for them normally). Buy yourself something lovely for your birthday...you deserve it. Start sending yourself flowers once a month with a note saying 'from a secret admirer'. Book yourself a spa day - if you have no one to go with thats ok I've been plenty of times on my own to Centre Parks spa and no one notices if you're on your own - take a book. If you're going to spend at least the next 20 years together they need to start taking you seriously and not take you for granted.

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