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No one acknowledged my 60th birthday

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Radley60 · 24/02/2019 17:04

I'm new to this so I hope I'm posting in the right place but I just needed someone to vent to I guess. I just had my 60th birthday. I was looking forward to having a nice day but my family never even acknowledged me. No happy birthday, no gifts, no meal nothing, zilch, zero. I know most people would just say "you're 60 get over it" but I can't stop the tears coming. I just feel so unwanted. My daughter lives abroad so I eagerly checked my email but there was nothing from her. My husband left for work that morning and that was that and my son although he was home, said nothing to me. I stupidly waited all day until my husband came home thinking they would maybe order a meal in for us but no nothing. I was so angry at first, then that changed to tears. I'm on crutches at the moment because of a knee injury so it's not like I could even go out just to get away. I always make sure Christmas and birthdays are celebrated and they never wake up on the morning of their birthdays without cards and gifts and we always go out for a meal. I knew going out was a no go for me this year but I feel like they simply see me as the hired help and not worth bothering with. I'm sorry if I'm rambling and I know it's only a birthday but the lack of any love and affection is really hurting me.

OP posts:
Sheffmum1 · 25/02/2019 19:10

Hi- copy this onto your computer- print it off. Leave it around the house for everyone to see how upset you are and then book yourself a spa day or something with a mate. They need to know how you feel!!
Happy birthday lovely lady ! X

Jux · 25/02/2019 19:12

I got a lot of ribbing for my 60th! It was acknowledged greatly.

Happy birthday, I hope your family pull their socks up 🎁🎂🥂🍭

Tell them the takeaway is on them and that you expect to be taken out when you're able.

sallyc06 · 25/02/2019 19:13

This happened to me in work, I made sure everyone knew, but got nothing even though I am the one who always do the collections, never again!

Honeypickle · 25/02/2019 19:15

Happy Birthday to you! I hope you manage to celebrate with friends and that your family have belatedly stepped up too xx

Myst97 · 25/02/2019 19:19

Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you dear Radley, Happy Birthday to you!!

Flowers
Celledora · 25/02/2019 19:22

I'm sorry that I haven't RTWT but...

It's Shirley Valentine time.

It would be for me.

ravenmum · 25/02/2019 19:26

OP posted again Sun 24-Feb-19 17:48:50

AutumnCrow · 25/02/2019 19:33

Sorry also for everyone else on here who got the birthday bum's rush from family or colleagues. 💐 Bloody hell, some people are unthinking tossers, who really don't get the concept of reciprocity.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 25/02/2019 19:36

Well they can whistle next birthday!

CammieKennaway · 25/02/2019 19:36

Wishing you a wonderful belated birthday and a huge virtual hug xxxx

DuchessOfPhysics · 25/02/2019 19:37

Happy Birthday! Buy yourself something you REALLY want and enjoy it all the more for having chosen it yourself.

I like the ''from me, to me'' presents the best.

Carrol · 25/02/2019 19:38

What a selfish family, what you do is send yourself a massive bunch of flowers or box of expensive chocolates to be delivered to you at home when family are there. You can offer them a chocolate - or not - when they ask say they’re from a friend who was outraged that no-one had acknowledged your 60th.
On their birthday ignore it and I bet 100% they’ll let you know how miffed they are. Good luck.

NoIsACompleteAnswerSometimes · 25/02/2019 19:46

MercedeBrexit you could be right, he's of an age where dementia is likely, but the point is that he didn't apologize or acknowledge that he'd stuffed up, even though he knew I was upset.
Sorry to derail your thread, Radley, and happy birthday

CharlyAngelic · 25/02/2019 19:53

Thanks @ravenmum

CharlyAngelic · 25/02/2019 19:56

Missed that update.
That is rubbish.

MissKittyBeaudelais · 25/02/2019 19:59

Happy Birthday love xx

MrsMaisel · 25/02/2019 20:05

I think you should plan a weekend away by yourself somewhere you will enjoy and just leave a note saying you're fine, just heading off to celebrate my birthday. Fuck them all.

daisychain01 · 25/02/2019 20:11

💩

sassafras123 · 25/02/2019 20:16

A very Happy Birthday to you! Your family don't deserve you!

alliwantforchristmasis · 25/02/2019 20:21

Happy birthday Radley, it was my birthday as Saturday and my son's today thankfully all of my kids and his siblings acknowledged both of us and fingers crossed in a couple of years they will organise something for my 50th but as they get older I can see them forgetting them more and more.
Tell them all how you feel and tell them that for the next year of birthdays you'll be celebrating their birthdays by yourself and the money you would have spent spend in yourself. I haven't read the full thread but I felt for you. Happy birthday again

stix96 · 25/02/2019 20:30

I rail against social media and the negative influences it can have, but aren't you lucky that you can vent your spleen on here about a family that seems not to care; that's very hurtful. I have an elder brother who lives in The States and he's always saying 'oh it's just another day, I never worry about my birthday.' I always make sure I wish him 'a happy birthday.' So yah boo sucks to your family, and Happy Birthday!

Pawsandnoses · 25/02/2019 20:38

Happy Birthday! Hope there was a big surprise x

bobstersmum · 25/02/2019 20:40

I've scrolled through but can't see an update I was hoping to see a post from op saying she'd had a surprise party that evening or something, so shitty if they all just didn't bother, even on a normal birthday would be bad enough!
Happy belated birthday op!

Ladystarbar1 · 25/02/2019 20:40

I'm really hoping after reading your post that your family have planned a surprise birthday party for you at some point when you're not needing crutches? But to not even wish you a happy birthday on the day is so sad and I can understand you feeling upset. Wishing you a happy belated birthday. Why doesn't everyone on here that's commented including me send you a belated birthday card??? 😁 Maybe then your famy will be embarrassed into celebrating your birthday properly, one would hope.

Sending you lots of love xxx

Footloose80 · 25/02/2019 20:45

Belated Birthday wishes. Any update op?

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