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No one acknowledged my 60th birthday

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Radley60 · 24/02/2019 17:04

I'm new to this so I hope I'm posting in the right place but I just needed someone to vent to I guess. I just had my 60th birthday. I was looking forward to having a nice day but my family never even acknowledged me. No happy birthday, no gifts, no meal nothing, zilch, zero. I know most people would just say "you're 60 get over it" but I can't stop the tears coming. I just feel so unwanted. My daughter lives abroad so I eagerly checked my email but there was nothing from her. My husband left for work that morning and that was that and my son although he was home, said nothing to me. I stupidly waited all day until my husband came home thinking they would maybe order a meal in for us but no nothing. I was so angry at first, then that changed to tears. I'm on crutches at the moment because of a knee injury so it's not like I could even go out just to get away. I always make sure Christmas and birthdays are celebrated and they never wake up on the morning of their birthdays without cards and gifts and we always go out for a meal. I knew going out was a no go for me this year but I feel like they simply see me as the hired help and not worth bothering with. I'm sorry if I'm rambling and I know it's only a birthday but the lack of any love and affection is really hurting me.

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Happynow001 · 01/03/2019 09:43

Totally understand OP - I have a similar problem. Just once a year it would be nice for someone to have the little "mental load" of acknowledging and doing something (card, Flowers etc) for your birthday when you've done it for everyone all year.

I'm assuming your birthday is the same day every year so they can all put an annual reminder in their smartphones? 😬

For your existing birthday I'd book yourself something nice for when you've recovered (long weekend at a nice spa either alone or with a friend?) and enjoy bring pampered for a while? Happy birthday OP! 💐 🎂 🤗 (💃🏽 for when your knee is better!)

GabsAlot · 01/03/2019 11:37

my dh doesnt do surprises or anything but he at least acknowledges it -i wo9uld stop making any effort from now on

Smotheroffive · 03/03/2019 23:38

I don't see the point in OP posting this at all. Unless she was whisked away for a holiday or something amazing, and is feeling ashamed of her rant now. Which isnt a rant and is perfectly valid, or its a troll

mantlepiece · 03/03/2019 23:43

I think the number of responses to this thread with no updates from the OP show people have great empathy with her dilemma!

Who knew birthdays caused so much angst.

MonkeyPieMama · 05/03/2019 10:23

Still no update?

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