No one acknowledged my 60th birthday

[Radley60]

I'm new to this so I hope I'm posting in the right place but I just needed someone to vent to I guess. I just had my 60th birthday. I was looking forward to having a nice day but my family never even acknowledged me. No happy birthday, no gifts, no meal nothing, zilch, zero. I know most people would just say "you're 60 get over it" but I can't stop the tears coming. I just feel so unwanted. My daughter lives abroad so I eagerly checked my email but there was nothing from her. My husband left for work that morning and that was that and my son although he was home, said nothing to me. I stupidly waited all day until my husband came home thinking they would maybe order a meal in for us but no nothing. I was so angry at first, then that changed to tears. I'm on crutches at the moment because of a knee injury so it's not like I could even go out just to get away. I always make sure Christmas and birthdays are celebrated and they never wake up on the morning of their birthdays without cards and gifts and we always go out for a meal. I knew going out was a no go for me this year but I feel like they simply see me as the hired help and not worth bothering with. I'm sorry if I'm rambling and I know it's only a birthday but the lack of any love and affection is really hurting me.

welcome to the real world luv ,people more interested in there I phones than a important milestone birthday .Considering the amount of communication apparatus out there ,acknowledging bthdays Xmas it's gone worse not better.sorry for your demise but you are not alone a sad fact today .Hear this all the time especially the amount of love and generosity that's been shown by one .

sorry for your ‘demise’ but you are not alone a sad fact today

I really don’t think the OP has died! Well I hope not!

I notice that the OP didn't post anything at all today. I hope it means that her family did redeem themselves by treating her.

We'd love to hear from you, OP.

Well that sucks. I'm so sorry. I hope that they have all pulled their heads out of their bums and remembered that you exist and what you have done for them, but I very much doubt that. It's time you start treating them with the same respect that they have treated you.

When you are up and around, you need to book yourself a lovely week away somewhere you've always wanted to go - without any of them - and without any notice. Have a holiday from your life. Be someone mysterious and treat yourself as you would someone special. Get used to it and start to expect nothing less when you get back.

I'm really disappointed and angry on your behalf.

Happy Birthday, btw!!!

Happy birthday xx

Did you not even get a card off dh? I do hope so.. If not id be throwing a mini strop. Let him know your hurt dammit!! Theres absolutely no excuse!! Happy belated Birthday btw. 😊🍰🎂🥂

Happy belated birthday .Truly zero about everything really hope you Will find time to talk to your family in about how hurt you feel.Some people will never have have a good heart like you they just need to be told off.

That is terrible! Happy birthday.

My mother has ‘forgotten ‘ my birthday twice and my sister once.

When my sister failed to acknowledge my birthday I deliberately ignored hers to let her know how it felt. The point was got across immediately. She never did it again.

I suggest that, instead of the loving pile of cards and presents your mean and selfish family receive from you, that you just ignore their big days. Also ignore Christmas if they do not respond to the birthday treatment.

Men think they are a little unbothered by celebrations and festivals but the truth is that, while women are the keepers of the cultural flames, men do not like to be ignored. As for your daughter - words fail me.

My sixtieth went exactly how I wanted it to go because I made it clear that anything less was unacceptable. You simply cannot expect others to treat you as you deserve if you suffer in silence.

If this sounds mean I should assure you that I make my family’s birthdays and Christmas a real celebration. I spare no efforts with the time, effort or money. I am also sounding rather stroppy because I am so cross with your miserable family. They need a collective kick up the backside.

Grrrr! And, again, happy birthday.

A very very happy birthday for Last Sunday. This happened to me this year (51’st) and it’s really really hurtful especially when my mum asked me to come and help her plant a rose bush in memory of my sister! I was actually silly enough to think that was a cover to get me over for a birthday treat. I, like you, make sure everyone gets what they want for birthdays and Christmas and vowed I wouldn’t do it again (I did though, even though I was angry with myself !)

Bless you OP.
We do massive celebrations for our milestone birthdays.
With the lack of update, I'm really hoping they did something nice for you in the evening!?
Happy birthday!!!

Radley60 trouble is, anything they do now, assuming they didn't pull anything off after your last post, is going to feel grudging because you'll have made a fuss.

Ignoring their birthdays this year gets the point across more effectively.

(Been there done that, he's an ex.)

I'm so sorry, I hope you update us soon xx

Just a further couple of thoughts.

Firstly, it might be the case that your men have no idea what is expected for a birthday, which, I admit, is a long stretch of the imagination. With your daughter abroad, there was no one on the spot to nag and remind them. I freely admit that it is the females in my household who remember birthdays and other occasions requiring greetings, congratulations and presents. I know my daughter sends emails and nags the boys to play their part. You could send a hurt email to your daughter to tell her of the boys' terrible omission which will jolt her into realising she should have played her part.

Secondly, what about sending a link to this thread so your family can see in what esteem their behaviour is held by the general population? There is an outside chance that they do not know what they have done.

THERE HAS BEEN AN UPDATE
ANOTHER POSTER POINTED IT OUT TO ME

YES. THEY DID NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THE BIRTHDAY.
THERE WAS NO SURPRISE PARTY

for OP

They must know that they are in the dog house.

Where is the update? I've looked through the thread and not found one. What time was it at?

Obviously that's totally shitty of them to do nothing.

No update? Interesting

Teacher no man is unaware that its standard practice to say 'happy birthday' on someone's birthday.

And it is the most zero effort thing to do in the world.

Tell them. Especially your OH

No update? Interesting

Yeah I thought that.

Maybe there’s no update because there is nothing to update?

^^^^UPDATE DETAILS ^^^

I’m confused Charly.

OP did update, once, on Sunday.

There have been 19 pages of good wishes, with no response, other than a brief update...