AIBU to leave an 8 week old to cry?!

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I've been rocking him in a swing chair on and off since 7pm. Not to mention the hellish day.

I only breed arsehole children that don't sleep. Though I love them very very much.

I've tried countless things.
White noise
Black out blinds
Routines (I paid £34 for one!)
Something that smells like me
Various swing chairs
Rocking chair
Patting
Shush and pat
Etc etc etc etc

Now he's ridiculously over tired and I'm ridiculously pissed off.
My first child was the same.

The ONLY way he sleeps is in the car.

It's not sustainable to do every nap and bed time in the car.

He's next to me screaming.

I'm not asking for suggestions.
Believe me, I've tried it.

Yes YWBU and emotionally abusive too if you are talking about genuinely leaving a newborn baby to cry it out.

Have you ruled out silent reflux and or dairy protein allergies??

Can you get a sling and have him in there for naps, and to go off to sleep? None of the things you’ve tried seem to involve picking him up/holding him, which might be what he needs? He’s only 8 weeks, that’s so tiny, he just needs to know his mum is close by.

Where does it say I was going to leave him to "cry it out"?

Thanks for the accusations of abuse and not the parental support I was looking for.

👍

No, you can’t leave the poor little soul to cry. You’re his Mum. Suck it up.

My kid will only sleep in bed with me. Ewan the Dream Sheep helped too. Though I suspect you’ve already tried both.

None of the things you’ve tried seem to involve picking him up/holding him

Apart from the patting the shushing and every minute of every hour of every day holding him.
My stupid twat of a scoliosis ridden back can't handle slings which I'm gutted about. I've tried so many types.

Is it possible he’s hungry? Have you tried feeding him? You don’t mention that.

Read your title again, it literally says leave them to cry...
I would get him to the doctors, it sounds like silent reflux to me

I also breed arsehole crying children! My youngest is now 10 months and only now can I have some semblance of a normal day with her. The only difference is, mine fucking hates the car too...

8 weeks old I'd expect them to be like this tbh. I wouldn't expect them to "go down" at a set time.

Suck it up?

He's in bed with me. Does sleep anywhere else. He's currently in here with me. Crying. Both are.

Thanks for the kindness and support fucking hell

Believe me I’ve been there got the T Shirt but baby’s that are that unsettled are usually suffering from reflux or allergies.....

Does any of this sound familiar?

www.reflux.org.au/information/common-characteristics-of-reflux/

My DD was diagnosed at 8 weeks (of hell!!!!) needed 20mg omeprazole and a strict exclusion diet (I was BFing) before we achieved symptom control

With DS I recognised the symptoms straight away and got him on omeprazole 15mg pronto and he’s been much more settled since the medication kicked in.

for you OP it’s so tough

blackteasplease neither am I?!

I think you are trying to be a bit light hearted but it's coming across as literally you are going to leave him to cry.

It’s properly shit OP.

If you’ve ruled out reflux and allergies etc can you try a sling?

I’m sitting with a year old welded to me - being cuddled and close is all he wants but Christ it’s exhausting.

Yes.
Not CRY IT OUT.

It's a parenting forum. We all know what Cry It Out involves.

It's so hard when they won't stop crying OP don't beat yourself up and he's safe where he is take yourself off for 5 minutes, deep breaths and then come back in 5. Babies can sense when you are stressed so 5 minutes deep breaths then a new calm persona and a big cuddle for him when you come back might help.

Hi. You must be exhausted. Are you trying to get your baby to sleep in a cot/Moses basket or anywhere?

Leave him to cry for a few minutes while you compose yourself, of course, yes. But ultimately you know you can't just leave him to cry.

I think he's too young for anything other than close cuddles and not being put down. He's obviously a higher needs velcro baby. They are hard. Bloody hard.

Night time wise, the only answer is to probably cosleep, safely. Day times, naps on you?

When did he last eat?

Mine had ranitidine in various doses and I abstained from dairy (breastfeeding). My baby still screamed for approximately 8 months. I know some posters are trying to help, but unless you've had an arsehole baby, it's really difficult to understand.

Is there anyone else there who can help you out? You sound a bit at the end of your tether

He's on ranitidine and has an allergy appt and I'm on a restricted diet.
I thought we were getting there.

But this is fucking hell on Earth

Sorry - cross posted about sling.

Erm I know you are exhausted but you do use the title leaving an 8 week old to dry which suggests cry it out

Saying that ....that stage is fucking brutal especially when you have an older child

Step away for a moment if you can

Remember this...it does change...i don't know how old your eldest is but if they are sleeping through ...remember it does change

If not i absolutely promise it changes and that's what got me through

5 mins away is fine

A whole evening is not at 8 weeks is not but I think you know that

I honestly feel for you OP this is incredibly hard with two ..been there mine are 6 and 3 ....i promise it gets better

Last ditch attempt- baby shark video? Won't get him to sleep but might stop him crying.