AIBU to leave an 8 week old to cry?!

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I've been rocking him in a swing chair on and off since 7pm. Not to mention the hellish day.

I only breed arsehole children that don't sleep. Though I love them very very much.

I've tried countless things.
White noise
Black out blinds
Routines (I paid £34 for one!)
Something that smells like me
Various swing chairs
Rocking chair
Patting
Shush and pat
Etc etc etc etc

Now he's ridiculously over tired and I'm ridiculously pissed off.
My first child was the same.

The ONLY way he sleeps is in the car.

It's not sustainable to do every nap and bed time in the car.

He's next to me screaming.

I'm not asking for suggestions.
Believe me, I've tried it.

Maybe a next to me crib. He likes the big bed.

I can't offer any advice op but wanted to say what a beautiful, cute bundle of lovely cuddles.

What a beautiful baby!

It’s so hard isn’t it? I remember walking away and leaving my first born for a few minutes a couple of times because I felt like I was losing my grip on reality and reason. Just enough to take a deep breath.

You’re doing great.

The super cute ones are always the naughtiest
You'll both get there, I know that's no help, but just try and tick off the days and definitely see your gp about cmpa/reflux, and check for a posterior tongue tie.

He's a beaut!

We've had similar problems with our 5 week old. I've switched to bottle feeding formula and it's like night and day the improvement is so immense. Also infacol before each feed. Not suggesting you do the same but I know how bloody hard it is and wanted to share.

you're doing a great job, ignore the outraged on here, they have obviously never been screamed at in quite the way some of us have.

Ear plugs? Not for you to sleep in obviously, but just to dull the sound, for the sake of sanity etc?

Ear plugs in, swaddled to high heaven, and rocking like a fucker was the only thing that worked with dd! It might be the weight of the blanket

Your little velcro boy is absolutely adorable OP

I’m sorry about your situation and the flack you seem to be getting from a few posters OP. There are a lot of good suggestions upthread re: ruling out reflux/allergies etc but if you’re feeling overwhelmed and coming to your last nerve, my last Health Visitor told me it would be better for you to put baby down somewhere safe (in cot) and go take a breather for ten minutes somewhere nearby. Pop into the garden for five and take a few deep breaths. I didn’t ask her for this info she volunteered it so I can only assume it’s a more common problem than some people realise. Short breaks every now and again will help you keep your cool and you can head back in a bit more refreshed and able to cope. Ofc it’s not abuse to leave your baby to it briefly, your sanity is of paramount importance to being able to look after a baby well. Look after yourself X

He is gorgeous Op 😍
I've been there with my first dd, she was an arsehole baby too. I found with a fast flow, lying down to feed really helped, you've probably already tried though.She had a tongue tie and sounds very like your little fella, can you get anyone to check? And a pp mentioned a lactation consultant being the best money she ever spent, I second that, they are worth their weight in gold.
Hope you are OK xx

for you OP... feels like it’ll never end at this stage doesn’t it? I found the 2 month mark to be hellish as the newborn excitement has worn off and the insane sleep deprivation is holding you in its grip!

As suggested by pps my two had reflux which peaked around that age so might be worth checking out? Otherwise can you get a break for a day or so? Maybe some rest will make you feel a tiny bit better and somewhat “refreshed” so you can get through the next week or so?

Ohhhhh he's just adorable OP.

Awww, he's so cute!!

I wish I'd seen this last night to sympathise, I could totally have written your post at 8 weeks. Now at 19 wks and it's got better each week. Still not an easy baby, but it's not non-stop holding and crying and patting and vomiting hellzone. I can even put her on her playmate on her back on her own for, ooohh, 12 whole minutes sometimes?! And I don't feel like an angry raging zombie (and shit mum to my eldest) any more.

for you.

Oh, and anyone who kicked the OP last night on this thread should take a long hard look at themselves.

My silent reflux baby liked laying on his side with me rubbing his back hard when he was having a bad day

I used to have an over supply and used to express by hand before giving a feed, it helped ever so slightly. My daughter has CMPA and as a baby would sleep on my chest with me propped up in bed. This meant I could only sleep when my husband was around. It can be really fucking difficult, hang in there!

Ah he looks so content. How frustrating when they don't sleep when they're tired and so are you! I find tiger in the tree hold can sometimes calm DD down and I then try feeding or soothing her to sleep. Doesn't always work but it's something to try.

I hope today is better

Babies are so hard work at times! My dh actually said to me the other day he had a customer in with a baby and as part of making conversation he said to the mother, does she sleep? The mother said yes she sleeps great! So he came home and said to me why have we had three babies that haven't slept, whys that? Everyone else's baby sleeps!! Errrrm, no they don't you've just asked one person. Dickhead.
Op it will definitely get easier these times are the toughest. You will look back one day and think how the hell did I get through that!!

Hang in there OP! The baby will sleep one day. It's so so hard when they're not sleeping and I completely understand if people are struggling with sleep issues. Although I was over the moon when I had my baby, the first 10-12 months were a bit shadowed by sleep deprivation and utter stress. It really is pot luck whether you get a chill baby or a stressy baby, and often parents of chill babies tend not to understand why people like us are having a hard time. I was told by lots of people that I was doing something wrong, and given constant advice on how to get my son to sleep or mellow out, but the only thing that really helped was time. They will grow out of it and you will get your life back eventually. 😀 It's just a case of finding coping methods in the meantime. Hope you find something that works for you OP. Good luck!

Hi OP, first of all I'm totally feeling your pain. My first had reflux and CMPI, my second was/is a Velcro baby. But mostly I popped on to say I'm pretty sure you can give calpol at 8 weeks. If he's in pain from reflux it may help.

What a beautiful baby

Sorry it’s been so tough. This time will pass quickly. Is anyone helping you through this? It sounds like you could do with some support. Sorry if I missed this upthread.

Hi OP

I can’t believe some of the shitty things people said to you last night. I think every parent (except the ones last night obviously 🙄) has been there. Exhausted, worn down, hopeless. Especially in the early days when you are so tired and recovering from pregnancy and childbirth and sleep deprived. I’m glad you managed to get him to sleep, how cute and cosy does he look?! Hope tonight is better for you. We all have bad days/nights, I’m having a few myself this week. Hold in there, things will get better. This too shall pass

OP Im genuinely sorry if I upset you last night.... I wasn’t trying to say something unsupportive but I realise my first comment might have come across that way, I accidentally pressed post before I’d finished adding in what was in my second post.

I was only responding to your thread title- I wasn’t sure if you actually did mean CIO at that point - because I’ve read threads on here before where posters have genuinely meant CIO with a newborn. In fact my own MIL went on and on —and fucking on— about how we should put DD in her cot, walk out, shut the door and leave her to scream herself to sleep until morning. Because that’s what she did with all 3 of her babies () (MIL is batshit though and myself and the DC are NC now for various reasons - that fact that she abuses and neglects children being no small part of it!)

So sorry if I was projecting there...!

Anyway, I definitely recommend a trial of omeprazole and strict dairy and soy exclusion diet. Also getting baby checked by lactation consultant for posterior tongue tie and block feeding to help slow down the flow for baby

Also google safe sleeping guidelines.... as adorable as your baby is, it’s not safe to cosleeping with duvet covers and pillows like that.

and and it will get better x

*adorable as your baby photo is

This is a good place to start with how to create a safe bedsharing environment

kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/cosleeping/

You know the song You cannae through yer grannie off the bus? We had a version about drop kicking the baby. Obviously you couldn't sing such awful words about such a beautiful baby as yours is.