Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

[Busholive]

AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

Its probably the venues stipulating this like lots of places do.

Those strictures probably come from the venues, not her, don't they?

Some venues specify no smoking on the their grounds. My wedding venue specified no smoking, you had to go off site if you wanted a fag

Sounds great, I wouldn’t have had the balls to do it.

That's a very weird specification! I can see the point at the church, it's horrible to go through clouds of smoke and everyone is usually standing around there for ages after the ceremony so it makes sense to ask smokers to light up away from the church grounds. However, the venue thing is odd unless most of the reception is going to be held outdoors.

Sounds brilliant! What a good idea.

It’s probably the venue’s rules. They don’t want the job of picking up cigarette butts

The venue might, but I imagine the church wouldn't have a rule about it!

I suspect th4 venue has insisted mainly because they don't like having fag ends ground into their lawns and patio.
For some reason many smokers don't consider discarded cigarettes as litter as long as they are safely extinguished, but they ARE litter.

Reception is a big barn type room with grounds around it.

Bit tacky to smoke at a wedding/christening - hate it when I see brides/mums with a fag in the gob . Not noticed the men but same judgement applies

Would you really smoke in the grounds of a church though?

So who is going to pick up the fag ends around the church.
I'd my parents were buried in the churchyard I wouldn't want afg ends discarded by their graves.

Perhaps someone has personal reasons? Cancer in the family or similar.

Big barn room = fire hazard = no smoking

Is it really necessary to hang around outside the church puffing a fag though? You’ll be there for two hours at most, surely.

And yeah, smokers are mostly a bit shit about cleaning up their fag butts.

I wouldn’t be surprised if the Church does have rules about smoking in the grounds - they often have rules like this. Many don’t like confetti being thrown around the grounds too

Great idea. It always smells horrible and I can see why you wouldn't want that anywhere near your wedding celebrations. If people can have child-free weddings, why on earth not smoke-free ones?

I wouldn't, I only smoke when it's dark but I imagine older family members might want to.

You're all right about the litter aspect of the church though, it's not nice.

I just thought it was a rather bold request!

Good on your cousin!

Would love to attend a wedding with no gross second hand fag fumes wafting about the place ruining the serenity of the occasion.

I actually think it’s pretty canny of them to let people know on the invite.

That way, if it’s going to be a problem for anyone, they can plan accordingly.

DH was a 40+ a day smoker when we met, and if we’d arrived somewhere for an all day event which was strictly non-smoking it would have caused him a lot of stress, as his cravings would be so strong.

At least a heads up would allow people to either decline or to bring patches/nicotine gum or a vape pen.

Good, my sister died from lung cancer leaving 3 kids behind.
I'd make smoking illegal

Good on her! When we got married 20 years ago, before the no smoking ban, we had all the ashtrays removed from inside the venue with strict instructions for them to be refused to anyone who asked for one, so they had to go outside. We also had a 'no smoking' message on the menu cards. We did not want to smell like ashtrays on our wedding day!

Good for them!
Wish I’d had such a ban at mine instead of enduring other people’s fag breath 🤢

Great idea