Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

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AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

Considering the numbers of fag ends I had to pick up form my garden after a party the other wees, coming form just 3 smokers they are not being U.

Fuck knows why smokers can't be fucked to put their disgusting fag ends in receptacles provided. Disgusting habit.

Sorry for your loss palomapaer

I suppose they're doing people a favour by letting them know in advance.

I stopped smoking full time a while ago but enjoy a couple of cigarettes with a drink when out.

Even as a full time smoker I would never smoke in church grounds as despite being non religious I would feel it's quite disrespectful.

I'd be miffed about not getting a cigarette in the evening though.

YANBU

I think it's a brilliant idea. Non-smokers will be able to enjoy the grounds without getting stuck in a cloud of smoke.

I cant imaine there being much of a problem at the church. Its later on problems might show - Loads of people do smoke after a few drinks.

I can imagine the party splintering up and half of them based too far from the venue to be part of the party. The dance floor might be quiet enough.

It's probably not what should happen, its probably what will happen though.

Great idea. Obviously the smokers will completely ignore it as usual, but great idea nonetheless.

Sounds fab. At least everyone know ahead of time. And as they saying goes, it’s an invite not a summons so if people are really that upset about not being able to smoke they can decline the invitation

I don't see why someone can't go outside the reception venue, not the church gardens.

I imagine that no venues allow smoking on the premises but people will sneak outside for a sly fag & I doubt anything will be said.

The venue might, but I imagine the church wouldn't have a rule about it!

Why not? Who do you expect to clear it all up?

I just thought it was a rather bold request!

So do I. I think stopping people from smoking outdoors is bloody ridiculous. If I were still smoking, I would decline the invite for this reason - in fact, even as a non-smoker now, I'd still be tempted to decline, just because it pisses me off so much when people insist on policing other people's behaviour in such petty ways.

Bit tacky to smoke at a wedding/christening

What's tacky about it? I feel I need to know because I will be a tacky smoking bride in a few weeks.

Good for them. Smoking is repulsive.

When I rule the world I will ban it altogether.

Drunk smokers/occasional smokers would walk barefoot across broken glass to get a cigarette

The church can definitely have a rule on this, along with confetti, at my DDs holy communion they requested no smoking. It is pretty standard now, lots of jobs have no smoking outside the building or company grounds .
I wouldn't take it personal. You can still have a cigarette you'll just have to walk further to have it.

If it's a barn I can see why!

It's possible that someone in the wedding party has a smoke allergy (and I type as a smoker). My good mate's wedding was perfume and deodorant free because her father's severe asthma would have been triggered by them. And trust me, after a couple of hours of Scottish country dancing, you could cut the atmosphere in there with a knife

second hand smoke even outside, (yes and that includes paramedics under the canapy of the ambulance entrance to the hospital a and e) cause dd to have an asthma attack.

I work at a no smoking venue, we used to have a designated area but people ignored it and gave staff hassle when they were politely asked to move. I spent at least an hour extra wandering around picking up other people's fag ends, especially annoying when they're dumped in plant pots and put out on nice wooden furniture - and we had wall mounted ash trays and a shelter for smokers. And I'm a smoker so always got that job and didn't mind as it must be truly horrible for non smokers.
A lot of people used to complain at having to walk through the cloud of smoke (we may have a few different things going on on any given day) so management took the decision to ban it on site as a designated area didn't work.
I don't think it's unreasonable at all, yes we still get the odd person who has a strop but there's signs up everywhere so people see on their way in if it hasn't been put on the invitation already. And repeat offenders are asked to leave (only happened once afaik)
And no one should be smoking in church grounds either really, I don't if I go to a wedding and anywhere else go to the designated area if there is one or a corner out the way if not. Smokers need to realise that just going outside isn't enough nowadays.

Good for them! If anyone has a problem with it they can stay home and smoke all they like.

Ffs like people can’t go for a couple of hours without a fag. It’s not policing behaviour, it’s policing litter and stench in their grounds! Imagine turning down an invite because a religious establishment and an old barn tell you not to smoke and throw your butt ends in their area 😂

Who on earth would need to light up outside a church? Shocking that it has to be requested not to do so.

The venue is a bit more unusual. Does the B or G have anyone in their family with serious lung conditions or on oxygen maybe?

It will be a request from the venue

It wouldn’t have occurred to me, but also one of my guests managed to burn a hole in one of my bridesmaids’ dress by waving her fag around so perhaps it should have

Hello,

Yes, the Church could have a rule about it. It was the case for the Church we got married in and other additions such as the kind of confetti, no rice thrown...etc

Imagine going outside the church doors to enjoy the air and then getting a mouthful of someone else's smoke. Good on the venue!