Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

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AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

Sounds wonderful. I’m sick of cleaning up fag ends, every time I visit my husband’s grave. Apparently the people visiting the grave next to his, think fag ends don’t need to go in the bin, while they’re tidying their loved one’s grave.

Perhaps they don't want people to stink

I'm a bit amazed it has to be pointed out TBH. Don't people leave the grounds of places anyway rather than clog up entrances and chuck fag butts on the ground?

Sounds a great idea.

A deodorant free wedding?
I understand not spraying the stuff around him, but my pits after 4 hours deodorant - free would hospitalise anyone!
I'd have to decline that invite!

I dont smoke and have a lung condition so cant have smokers round me. However I have no issue at all with other people smoking - its your choice. This will be the venue rather than your cousin's decision I would imagine, and I admit I would be irritated if I was a smoker to be 'told what to do' , but at least they told people in advance.

As long as they have a big bin for cigarette ends outside their gates - and no one is sufficiently self-righteous and precious as to try to prevent the smokers from stepping out of the protected zone whenever they want to go for a smoke ...

It isnt policing behaviour. It is policing grounds, which the venues have every right to do. Nobody is being prevented from smoking at all.

I wouldn't have had the balls to do it but it really kicks off my asthma and am pleased more places are bringing in smoking bans on the grounds.

That's fine if you want to smoke but don't inflict your habit on others.

I think it’s brilliant

If people are really petty enough to decline an invite because they would have to leave the grounds to smoke then are those people you want in your life at all? Nobody is saying you can’t smoke, just that you can’t smoke in the grounds.

Perhaps if smokers stopped leaving cigarette butts behind then there wouldn’t be a need to ban them from the grounds. But as PP said there seems to be a wilful ignorance of the fact that it’s litter.

Fantastic idea!

Couldnt get worked up about that and I enjoy a fag.

Great idea!

We specified no smoking at our wedding. I'm asthmatic. It was my day. I wasn't spending it having an asthma attack. But I wouldn't have been offended if any smoking friends or relatives chose not to attend - their loss, my gain (and would have saved on food/drink!).

I think it sounds like a great idea. It makes me wonder if any of the guests we’ve invited to our wedding are smokers. Just my future SIL & her husband I think, and even they only smoke once per day or something. I think I’ve only seen her smoke once in the 6 years since I’ve met her.

This is excellent! We’ll have an essentially smoke-free wedding!

Perhaps the B&G have been told that they would have to clear up/pay a fee to have it done?

Maybe there are receptacles but they don't get used?

Are the grounds of either so big that walking off the would be a problem?

Bit tacky to smoke at a wedding/christening - hate it when I see brides/mums with a fag in the gob. Not noticed the men but same judgement applies

^This

I know i will get flamed for this but at the evening reception when id had a few drinks i would totally ignore this request and walk away from the barn for a cigarette.

At least she has prewarned you and you can get patches for a day.

Imagine you got there and there was restrictions everywhere that you couldn't smoke

I work for a church. We don't have a no smoking policy, but it would never have occurred to me that someone would attempt to smoke on our grounds (which are not extensive but there is a garden area). In all the years I've worked here I've never seen it. I have noticed a few people in weddings and funerals who stink of smoke, but none who have lit up on the premises. If people did start doing it we probably would put a policy in place.

I don't think it's unusual for churches to have 'no smoking' signs around. My church does.

A request on an invite is very different from a rule issued by the church/venue. Yes - smoking is foul BUT it isn’t illegal and still a human right if you’re an adult. It is also a human right not to have to put up with fag smoke as a non-smoker. This is why most places with an outside area have a designated smoking area - not sure why this isn’t the case here but I really can’t see the smokers being too happy with this request - surprised I’m saying this but a little condescending too!

Mumshappy You'd best avoid any nearby haystacks or you really WOULD be flamed!

I'm amazed people have to be told not to smoke outside a church for God's sake.