Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

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AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

Just go outside the grounds. Maybe it's the venue or maybe someone in the family has health issues such as COPD. Any smoke for some people can cause unpleasant symptoms/negatively affect their health. And standing just outside a door can mean that all the smoke comes back in which can be unpleasant for many people sitting inside!

I have Graves' disease and second hand cigarette smoke makes me significantly more at risk of thyroid eye disease which is disfiguring and could affect my sight. I have had to leave pub gardens or even indoor places where smoke was drifting in from outside. So no I don't think the couple are being U.

If you have to smoke please do it where it will not affect anyone else.

If I were still smoking, I would decline the invite for this reason - in fact, even as a non-smoker now, I'd still be tempted to decline, just because it pisses me off so much when people insist on policing other people's behaviour in such petty ways

Meh - so you can’t smoke at venue / the grounds?

Just like work then where you can’t smoke in building and environs.

I still go into work, human rights notwithstanding.

Why would it be any different for a venue + environs?

If it comes from the bride, great, but it could be due to waiting staff as it is illegal to smoke on working premises. The sooner someone in government has the balls to ban smacking everywhere public the better. My children's right to breathe clean air trumps anyone's perceived right to smoke.

Brilliant idea!

Bold is expecting other people to pick up your skanky fag ends tbh.

There being a couple of people on this thread who seem to find it a gross imposition explains why the couple are telling guests in advance. Because if it's that much of a big deal, people should be told in order to make the informed decision not to attend, should it be a deal breaker.

Property wide bans on smoking, including in vehicles parked onsite, are becoming more and more common.

If the smokers are called by their addiction to leave, that is just sad, but it is their problem, not that of the hosts.

I’d rather be surrounded by smokers than pissed up idiots but I suspect I’m in the minority there!

Why do you all assume people are going to throw their cigarette butts all over the place and expect other people to clean it up?

People that smoke aren't filthy animals you know. Drinking is pretty anti social but there will be plenty if that going on and possibly glasses left around. Maybe someone might even be sick.

It could be a venue thing but I did go to one once where the MOB was really annoyed about people smoking in the field

It’s a barn so pretty easy to see why the venue has stipulated this rule. It’s a great idea anyway, smoking is so last century.

So is drinking tbh. Just less smelly

As a smoker myself I wouldn't be too annoyed with this and would never smoke outside a church anyway.

The venue though, I would imagine it would be very hard to police outside

100+ pissed up people. Some who are smokers.
They won't listen and would just walk a bit further away
As would I.

Why would anyone feel that they can't go without a fag at the church? It's not as if they'll be there for all that long. And as far as the reception is concerned, it certainly makes sense to have a smoking ban if the venue is a barn.

The church has probably banned smoking because of the litter that tends to be left behind, which does happen. No one is saying that all smokers leave their fag ends on the ground, but there are a lot that do that, unfortunately.

As most people now hate smoking how do they feel about second hand e-cig and vape "smoke". I've recently given up smoking and am on e-cigarettes. I haven't tested my plumes on the public yet but I'd be frustrated if people can't put up with e-cigarettes and vaping. Surely it's a step in the right direction?

I vape & I've found that most places treat vaping just like smoking.

I think it’s a good idea, at my friends wedding all her family and guests (there was about 30+ of them) lit up literally the second we got outside the registery office - bearing in mind they all had one minutes before we went in and we only in there an hour. It was bloody vile, smelt disgusting and the smoke was just overpowering one of the bridesmaid (her sister) even smoked during the sodding photos. Never known anything like it all us none smokers had to hold our breath. Plus they all proceeded to then throw the cigarette butts on the floor looked absolutely terrible afterwards. I’d happily ban smoking at my wedding 🤷🏼‍♀️

Excellent. I don’t think any of my daughters guests will want to smoke and the venue is entirely non smoking. I can’t imagine anyone with even reasonable manners would smoke inside the churchyard.

As most people now hate smoking how do they feel about second hand e-cig and vape "smoke". I've recently given up smoking and am on e-cigarettes. I haven't tested my plumes on the public yet but I'd be frustrated if people can't put up with e-cigarettes and vaping. Surely it's a step in the right direction?

For you maybe, less so for the passive bystander

Can’t stand vaping either. It’s still a load of someone else’s smoke that I have to smell and breathe in.

*Why do you all assume people are going to throw their cigarette butts all over the place and expect other people to clean it up?

People that smoke aren't filthy animals you know.*

So do all the fag ends everywhere just spontaneously generate?

We had to put that on our invites too as the church and the venue for the receiption were explicit that smoking was not allowed on there grounds. Probably not the bride just demanding no smoking.

*Why do you all assume people are going to throw their cigarette butts all over the place and expect other people to clean it up?

People that smoke aren't filthy animals you know.*

So do all the fag ends everywhere just spontaneously generate?

Yes, much like dog shit. All the dog owners who post on here say that they always clean up behind their dogs, so quite plainly the dog shit my DDs and I have to dodge on the school run just spontaneously generates.

Obviously the anti-social culprits are not going to actually admit it in either case.

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As most people now hate smoking how do they feel about second hand e-cig and vape "smoke". I've recently given up smoking and am on e-cigarettes.

I hate that shit. Vapers are just as likely converted smokers so they still have the horrible habit of blowing their nasty scented smoke everywhere. Even worse so because they’ve been wholly convinced by the vaping companies that it’s “cleaner” than secondhand cigarette smoke. That bullshit still smells toxic and sickly, chemically sweet especially when it’s flavours like strawberry or whatever. 🤢

Our church had a no confetti rule so expect smoking would also be excluded.