Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

[Busholive]

AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

But not berating all those drivers and happy to inflict your exhaust fumes on other people. Do you not detect a hint of hypocrisy there?

Bluelady Some of those drivers will be emergency medical services. But let's replace all ambulances with pulled rickshaws - what's that little Maisie is having an asthma attack? Don't worry we will be with you in 8hrs, hang in there!!

Everyone who drives is a paramedic. All of them l. You're quite right.

SOME of those drivers will be emergency medical services

Arnoldillo I put the first word in block capitals this time as you clearly missed it the first time you read it. Maybe your glasses were too fogged up with fag smoke?

I'm only hear to scoop up a few more fascinating details about MrDarcy's wedding. And her house, natch.

Yep, every vehicle on the road is an ambulance, fire engine or police car. How could that possibly have escaped my notice?

Although personally when I got married (in a much bigger stately home, in fact, it was a castle) I got the venue to move the smoking area to a field in Shropshire, with the guests to be transported there by rickshaw. No asthma for my Maisie.

PS my house is fucking massive. Did I say?

@Arnoldillo 🤣

You literally want to have us living in the dark ages where paramedics use rickshaws and leeches and that, bluelady.

Of course I do. Much better then. 😁

Tsk, MrDarcy and I would still thrash you on the 'Who's got the biggest buboes?' front, you chain smoking luddite.

I don't drink and hate the smell and the way people change after just a small amount. They do change immediately even if not for the worse, so ebulliant. It really grosses me out, but i would serve alcohol because so many people just can't sit through anything without drugging themselves. It's disgusting, give me e-cigarette vapour any day.

Completely agree with this

My great uncle smoked his roll ups at my mum's house whilst we were getting ready for my wedding! Didn't have the heart to tell him as I love him to bits but my chief bridesmaid was going nuts!

I can understand no smoking near the church but maybe a designated area at the venue wouldn't hurt. It's a bit extreme to ban it from the wedding full stop.

I find it a bit mind boggling, "I drive and add a fuck ton of carcogens to the atmosphere, a fuck ton more than any smoker will, but that's ok, because it's me, and it makes my life easier, but could you not add a tiny percentage by smoking please? My pollution is acceptable, but yours isn't"

It's quite astonishing really, the people saying this crap would probably drive to the venue to.

No one is saying you can't smoke @Bluelady. They are saying you can't smoke within the grounds.

Get a grip. No one is banning cars, but there are places you cant drive your car just like there are places you can't smoke.

Or is it also a human right to do wheel spins around someone's rose garden?

“I don't drink and hate the smell and the way people change after just a small amount.”

And it would be absolutely fine if you had an alcohol deee wedding.

Premises (including churches) are entitled to make their own rules about what goes on in the building and grounds. It sounds like the bride and groom were wise to state the rules in the invitation if it is going to be a problem for some guests.

I see my point has sailed over your head @Labellesauvage (great name). I don't smoke.

E cigs, ,vaping etc are IMO worse than cigarettes. I was driving to work after dropping dc to school looked across the road and honestly thought a man was on fire! He was vaping and was incased in smoke (or vapour) It was a sight to see..

Would you like to go and visit your relative's grave and find fag butts scattered round and about?
Do you smoke in someone else's private garden and just chuck your dog ends down anywhere?
How do you know i dont have a personal ashtray or find a bin. I dont even chuck butts out car window as here in Aus its a fire risk over summer.

I think the point she was making is that she has no respect for church grounds.
I'm with her on that.
I just wouldn't go.
Exactly. I dont get this whole cant do this or that its offensive to the church. Religion is offensive on the whole. I have no respect for it and feel it should be questioned and called out for its major failures in equality, discrimination, sexism and child protection

Would you say the same about a bride and groom who had chosen to have a dry wedding? Would you demand alcohol? What if they wanted a vegetarian or vegan wedding? Would you walk into the reception with a bag of McDonald's and sit and eat your burger just to show that they can't dictate anything to you?
Id eat in car on the way but would probably still have my drink in hand or buy a coffee with real milk too. So what i dont wanna be hungry.
Alcohol, thats why hip flasks were invented

Gah stupid bolding issues on phone....

I'm confused by what you are quoting and what you're saying yourself squeekums

Brilliant. Because popping out for a fag inevitably means standing just outside the doors so cancer stick fumes waft into the venue and everyone has to walk through the carcinogenic fog to get in or out of venue. Go stand on the road side to feed your drug habit and let people breathe the greasy air they’re entitled to.

Yeah, love that greasy air.

You honestly won't get cancer by walking past someone smoking a fag, you know. Just to put your mind at ease.

You honestly won't get cancer by walking past someone smoking a fag, you know. Just to put your mind at ease

Maybe not, but inhaling second hand smoke has caused my sister multiple asthma attacks.

She’s got through them all so far - but who knows if she’ll survive the next?