Aibu to be angry than in laws snooped around the house

[ER1992]

Me and my husband went out for the 1st time Saturday night since having our baby. My in laws came round to baby sit while we were gone which was nice of them.
Before leaving I shut our bedroom door because it looked like a bomb had hit it after we had got ready and also shut the spare bedroom door because I had piles of dirty washing laid out plus all of the Xmas presents are in there (there's included) I left the babies bedroom door open incase they needed to go in for anything. Plus the rest of upstairs was generally untidy compared to downstairs and not exactly in a state of want people to see. On returning home and going upstairs all of the doors had been opened so this means one of the in laws had been snooping around which has annoyed me. There was no need for them to go upstairs.. we have a downstairs bathroom, we left spare clothes, nappies etc downstairs and told them they didn't need to put the baby to bed just let him sleep downstairs in the carry cot until we got home. AIBU to be annoyed?
They also had their dinner round ours (which we said was fine) but kindly left the washing up for us to do & polished off a whole box of Christmas biscuits!! This also annoyed me.

Well you won't be inviting them back.

How rude !
Different babysitters next time?

The washing up and biscuits I would accept in return for their baby sitting services, and would not mention.

I'd ask them out right why they were in the upstairs rooms, and see what they say.

I agree, I would suck up the washing up and the biscuits but I would be asking why they were in your bedroom.

yes, i'd been interested in what they were doing,

I wouldn't say anything but wouldn't ask them to babysit again. If they questioned why or kept offering I would explain that I didn't appreciate them going in the bedrooms.

I agree with you, this is rude. My own Grandmother came when we had just bought our house and wanted to use the loo upstairs. Our bedroom door was shut due to moving mess and we told her not to go in, when she came back down she commented on the layout of our bedroom in a way which made it clear she had been in there. My husband and I were very annoyed that she would go against our wishes in our own home.
I never go snooping around other people's houses and my in-laws almost seem to expect me to, no thank you!

i think you need to lay down the boundaries and make it known this is not on. may be they were checking out their pressies or your er um, personal things still it's not acceptable.

When MIL babysits I leave my copy of toxic in laws in my private paperwork drawer along with my vibrator just for her. I sprinkle powder on the knob so I know when she's been prying almost always

The washing up and biscuits annoyed me only because I was already annoyed that I'd discovered they'd been upstairs so it put my back up even more. My husband doesn't want me to say anything about it but I have said next time I'll be asking my parents to babysit (we asked the in laws to do it because they'd been asking when they can since the day the baby was born)

That would really piss me off too OP
To those saying that they wouldn't mind about the biscuits, would you really help yourself to something like that? Without being offered? That's really rude!

Meh I couldn't get worked up over this. They were probably looking for something for the baby. Also who cares what have you got to hide? And at least they're willing to do babysitting etc. Get over it.

I bet if it was your parents that did it you wouldn't mind.

I agree, the biscuits and washing up- I wouldn't do it myself but it's not a big deal. I'd have to ask them outright what they were doing upstairs in my bedroom though.

So bloody rude!

People are so brazen too. My ex's aunt once announced to all and sundry that the window cleaner had been today and that none of "my" beds had been made. I actually said to her "Have you looked in all the bedrooms then?" and she said she had - no shame at all.

I also pointed out that I only slept in one bed - but didn't have the guts to tell her I didn't give a shit what the window cleaner thought - or her either come to that. There was quite a bit of eye rolling though.

You need to leave emigration forms for Australia on your bed next time but don't mention it at all and wait for them to incriminate themselves.

Yeah, I couldn't get worked up about this either, possibly they got confused looking for something for thr baby and who gives a shit, and a packet of biscuits? Seriously?

Uhuhuhdennis actually I would be annoyed at anyone who done this... it just so happens it is the in laws. The only difference is if it was my parents I'd be able to say something without upsetting my husband. I really can't think what they would have been looking for for the baby when everything they needed was downstairs or in the babies room. They could have sent us a message asking where something was if they were looking for it

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I cannot stand snooping people, but most people genuinely sound to be like that. Assume that everyone will have a peak everywhere and be pleasantly surprised when they don't.

Fair enough about the biscuits, they are doing you a massive favour, I do hope you left them enough snacks and to make tea/coffee and so on. If a family member cannot help themselves to snacks when they are babysitting for you, there's something really wrong in your relationship.

I do think you are a little bit unreasonable to expect them not to even go upstairs. I am many things but honestly not a snoop. It's still strange to expect for people to spend several hours in your house but not to be able to go up the stairs.

It would really piss me off. My mother snoops like this and isn't even ashamed of it. So I don't invite her to visit at all, unless I know I will be in the house with her at all times, preferably in the same room.

Thentherewascake.. I didn't say they couldnt go upstairs if you read the OP properly it says I left the door open on the babies room but shut 2 doors on rooms I didn't want them going in. Why go into rooms you don't need to? At least shut the door again so it's not obvious. Why would they need to be in mine and my husband's bedroom? Yes we left them snacks and coffee etc. But the biscuits they opened and ate were a box id put up out the way for Xmas

Unless you're paying them for their services I think you just need to suck it up. People are nosey. It's not a crime

Again, not my thing, but for some people, it's family so they have a right to have a peak at their son's bedroom. It really helps if you think that everyone will snoop. I do like my private space and not one to invite people for a tour of the house, but most people are nosey.

Same for the biscuits, it sounds rude to rummage in a cupboard to find something hidden, but some families are more at ease with each other than others. I am thinking about stealing food from my own kids when they have their own place, so they can understand what it feels when all the snacks disappear within 15mn of the shopping turning up