Aibu to be angry than in laws snooped around the house

[ER1992]

Me and my husband went out for the 1st time Saturday night since having our baby. My in laws came round to baby sit while we were gone which was nice of them.
Before leaving I shut our bedroom door because it looked like a bomb had hit it after we had got ready and also shut the spare bedroom door because I had piles of dirty washing laid out plus all of the Xmas presents are in there (there's included) I left the babies bedroom door open incase they needed to go in for anything. Plus the rest of upstairs was generally untidy compared to downstairs and not exactly in a state of want people to see. On returning home and going upstairs all of the doors had been opened so this means one of the in laws had been snooping around which has annoyed me. There was no need for them to go upstairs.. we have a downstairs bathroom, we left spare clothes, nappies etc downstairs and told them they didn't need to put the baby to bed just let him sleep downstairs in the carry cot until we got home. AIBU to be annoyed?
They also had their dinner round ours (which we said was fine) but kindly left the washing up for us to do & polished off a whole box of Christmas biscuits!! This also annoyed me.

I assume the people who are ok with this are the people who would also have a nose around other peoples houses

You would be wrong then. 😌

I wouldn't care about this but I also wouldn't do it myself. I also think that if they were actually snooping they would have closed the door again.

Eating the biscuits wouldn't have bothered me unless they were something exceptional.

“Also, your in-laws could be just too old and don't register where to go and where not, what to eat and what not to.”
Blunted- I hope not if they are looking after a baby......

@ER1992 I have snoopy in laws too. Ironically they actually lock all the rooms in their house with a key when visitors come round - including their own sons & grandchildren. I hate it - after one particular episode I now chose to stay home rather than have them babysit for a night out.

I wouldn't grudge babysitters eating biscuits and not washing up.

I would assume my in laws opened doors looking for something. Or even pacing the floor settling child. My mum would walk around talking about things as she passed.

Unless you have reason to suspect any different I would give benefit of the doubt. Why wohld they leave doors open if snooping?

Bedroom issue wouldn't bother me tbh.

OP I'd like to thank you for starting this thread. You are not being unreasonable. I'm a MIL and I'd never snoop, always do the dishes - but I'm sorry I'd probably not be able to resist the special Christmas biscuits.

I'd replace them though

ChikiTIKI Tue 18-Dec-18 20:56:43
Give them the empty box as a Christmas gift

Oh yes, that would be inspired. Make them think they've stolen their own present.

I wouldn't expect anyone to look in rooms where the door is shut. I'm quite nosey but if the door is shut, I respect the boundary. If it's open, I may take a peek 😁. I kind of assumed that was standard etiquette! Guess not.

As for the bikkies, bit rude to eat them when hidden away, I personally wouldn't have eaten any but if my MIL ate mine, I wouldn't mind as they do so much for us.

I think if they were really snooping they would have closed the doors behind them to hide it. (That's what I do)