Aibu to be angry than in laws snooped around the house

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Me and my husband went out for the 1st time Saturday night since having our baby. My in laws came round to baby sit while we were gone which was nice of them.
Before leaving I shut our bedroom door because it looked like a bomb had hit it after we had got ready and also shut the spare bedroom door because I had piles of dirty washing laid out plus all of the Xmas presents are in there (there's included) I left the babies bedroom door open incase they needed to go in for anything. Plus the rest of upstairs was generally untidy compared to downstairs and not exactly in a state of want people to see. On returning home and going upstairs all of the doors had been opened so this means one of the in laws had been snooping around which has annoyed me. There was no need for them to go upstairs.. we have a downstairs bathroom, we left spare clothes, nappies etc downstairs and told them they didn't need to put the baby to bed just let him sleep downstairs in the carry cot until we got home. AIBU to be annoyed?
They also had their dinner round ours (which we said was fine) but kindly left the washing up for us to do & polished off a whole box of Christmas biscuits!! This also annoyed me.

I'd be annoyed too OP, but this is MN where people will always tell you you're wrong just for shits and giggles. Always the same names too

Of maybe, just maybe, we think she is wrong and wouldn't have a problem with it?

Mind blown eh?

@GreatDuckCookery - does it really matter whether the Christmas biscuits were upstairs in a room or downstairs in a kitchen cupboard? The crux is that they weren't left out for the inlaws to eat, end of. The OP had left out other snacks for them to enjoy. The fact that they were upstairs and not in the kitchen certainly gives the OP and her DH sufficient reason to approach the inlaws and ask them what the hell they were up to? When they were upstairs who was looking after the grandchild? Were they both upstairs at the same time?

OP I'd be cross too. I couldn't let it sit over Christmas as you'll be wondering what was behind their behaviour over the very time you should be able to relax and enjoy yourself.

I don't think the biscuits were upstairs, I think they were in the kitchen in a cupboard.

I thought they were in the kitchen cupboard too.

It's just some bloody biscuits, not encapsulated unicorn farts.

Of maybe, just maybe, we think she is wrong and wouldn't have a problem with it? Life's too short to have a family row about bloody biscuits. Perhaps make a joke of it.

I don't think having a glance behind closed doors in a family member's house and eating a packet of biscuits from the kitchen cupboard is a big deal.

I think not doing their washing up is rude.

I think going into a closed room, hunting out a packet of Christmas biscuits and eating them is a pretty big deal.

But I am no longer sure which of these things happened, so I don't know how rude the pils were- on a scale of not very to very much indeed.

Well my luxury Christmas biscuits and chocolates etcetera are in my spare bedroom. I won’t even let family members who live me open them yet and if they did I tear them a new one.

Why are posters going on about where the biscuits were anyway. It isn’t relevant, they were put away and shouldn’t have been touched.

Imissgmichael exactly!

The main point to the OP is the unnecessary snooping about the house. Wherever they snooped (it's irrelevant where/which room/which cupboards) they found and opened something which was not for them (also irrelvant whether it be biscuits or something of more worth)

There is a big difference between someone looking in a kitchen cupboard and going upstairs and taking something that was amongst other gifts.

You had the perfect opportunity to speak to them and call them out on going upstairs in your rooms. I don't understand why you let that slide.

“Why are posters going on about where the biscuits were anyway. It isn’t relevant, they were put away and shouldn’t have been touched.”

Of course it’s relevant!

It definitely isn't relevant unless of course you are this type of person to rummage through people cupboards when there is no need

YANBU and I personally think it's really rude to leave your washing up! They'd been asking you to babysit so it's not as if it's a huge favour they were doing for you anyway.

I would ask them "was there anything you needed that we didn't leave ready, as I noticed you had been in the bedrooms upstairs? Were you looking for something?" And then if you allowed them to babysit again I'd expressly say "please don't go in our bedroom" beforehand.

They sound awful.

“It definitely isn't relevant unless of course you are this type of person to rummage through people cupboards when there is no need”

So no difference between in the kitchen cupboard next to the kettle and behind a closed door upstairs with the stashed Christmas presents? Don’t be silly.

Why didn’t you say “Hey, those biscuits were upstairs with the Christmas stuff- what were you thinking about, going in there!”

The person being silly isn’t the OP.

I would have expected anyone with a modicum of common sense (and manners) would have realised that an unopened box of luxury biscuits in a cupboard near Christmas time were for Christmas and not to be opened.

Well they wouldn't have found much in the cupboard next to the kettle considering it's got the mugs, glasses and plates in it so bit pointless looking in there so that wouldn't have bothered me

Why didn’t you say “Hey, those biscuits were upstairs with the Christmas stuff- what were you thinking about, going in there!”

OP?

I can't imagine anyone not saying the above.

Because they had gone when it noticed the rubbish in the bin and I was busy feeding and putting my baby to bed

Oh come on, obviously if you have been left speicfic things to eat it’s rude to then go rifling through cupboards (or rooms) and helping yourself: it’s also clear which biscuits are fancy and which aren’t! My mother would’ve gone spare if we touched her hidden Christmas Day biscuits before the day. Also, they weren’t helpfully babysitting in a way which means they are entitled to act like dicks - OP didn’t really need them to babysit, they insisted and fine. It’s not one of those “free childcare so put up with it” threads people love on here.

Having said all that, I would have absolutely said wtf where did you get those biscuits from? Why were you in my room?

I remember last year somebody ate the chocolates that where in a bag.That where wrapped and everything.And people where still saying that op was unreasonable.

If they biscuits where downstairs i could understand maybe.But upstairs in a different room.No thats just wrong.It doesnt matter if its biscuits or a bottle of wine.They where not left out.So they had no right eating them.

A packet of biscuits from the biscuit tin is slightly different to a box of expensive biscuits that have been clearly put out of the way for an occasion. We had left them drinks, crisps & dip, their fave chocolates and nuts

in laws had been snooping around

They are cheeky fuckers and I wouldnt ask them to babysit again, if they ask why I would tell them exactly why

Maybe the 2 people on here who seem to be consistent in telling me I'm unreasonable are my inlaws 👀

Very rude. And who eats dinner & leaves the washing up? Also who eats all the Christmas biscuits? CFs indeed!