Aibu to be angry than in laws snooped around the house

[ER1992]

Me and my husband went out for the 1st time Saturday night since having our baby. My in laws came round to baby sit while we were gone which was nice of them.
Before leaving I shut our bedroom door because it looked like a bomb had hit it after we had got ready and also shut the spare bedroom door because I had piles of dirty washing laid out plus all of the Xmas presents are in there (there's included) I left the babies bedroom door open incase they needed to go in for anything. Plus the rest of upstairs was generally untidy compared to downstairs and not exactly in a state of want people to see. On returning home and going upstairs all of the doors had been opened so this means one of the in laws had been snooping around which has annoyed me. There was no need for them to go upstairs.. we have a downstairs bathroom, we left spare clothes, nappies etc downstairs and told them they didn't need to put the baby to bed just let him sleep downstairs in the carry cot until we got home. AIBU to be annoyed?
They also had their dinner round ours (which we said was fine) but kindly left the washing up for us to do & polished off a whole box of Christmas biscuits!! This also annoyed me.

I'd have left the luxury/expensive/posh biscuits out for them to show my gratitude

Good for you master but the OP didn’t.

This thread is ridiculous. A door was opened. A packet of biscuits was eaten.

Ooooh the fury!!

Well I'd have signed over the deeds to my house to show my gratitude master

You obviously have little boundaries Earth. And it was hardly a packet of digestives was it.

Are you the MIL.

Fortunately not Imissgmichael.

It’s certainly fortunate for the OP Earth.

Probably. Because she'd be looking for a new babysitter. And it'd cost her alot more than a packet of biscuits.

But at least a professional baby-sitter wouldn't overstep boundaries and steal from her so it's win win all round.

This thread is ridiculous. A door was opened. A packet of biscuits was eaten no the OP's privacy was invaded and her biscuits were stolen

Earth they kept asking to babysit and it wasn’t just a packet of hob nobs was it.

Tell me do you go snooping in your relatives bedrooms and cupboards as a reward for babysitting? I thinks that’s awful.

I babysit my GC and manage not to snoop and have more sense than to open luxury packets of biscuits. It’s a very entitled attitude to do otherwise.

Thanks earth but it rather pay for a babysitter than someone as rude as you who would obviously invade my privacy and take food you aren't entitled. You are defo the MIL

How on earth do you know what a 'professional babysitter' does when you're not there. I used to snoop around people's houses when I was a teenage babysitter. I know! I'm just so nosey!

Oh wow you definitely overstepped the mark then as this is certainly something I never used to do as a paid babysitter. Some people have no morals

I love the suggestion of leaving an application to emigrate to Australia lying around for them to find!

I know, I am bad to the bone.

I'm glad we agree on something

I love the suggestion of leaving an application to emigrate to Australia lying around for them to find!

Nice.

OP are you going to speak to them about them going in your spare room and bringing the biscuits downstairs to eat?

My husband has asked me not to say anything incase it causes a rift over the Xmas period. He's also annoyed by it but he doesn't like conflict and I respect his wishes. So a rant on here I thought would make me feel better turns out people are happy to make others feel bad

Sorry, I would definitely NOT pay for a babysitter - a stranger - over loving grandparents, if I had a choice.

Choose your battles OP, it’s really no big deal.

And don’t let anyone on here make you feel bad. That’s how you feel at the end of the day, but perhaps try and focus on the fact that what they did was reallly no big deal.

Perhaps next time you’re round IL’s take yourself off for a snoop of the bedrooms and eat their biscuits.

Put the locks on the doors or tidy up the rooms when you invite people over. That saves from the unnecessary embarrassment but rifts.
Also, your in-laws could be just too old and don't register where to go and where not, what to eat and what not to. My dad is like that. You tell him one thing and he looks like he listens but then does his thing. He is 80 though. Mum is younger but same - it goes into one ear and goes through another.

I cannot ever imagine being annoyed at such a close immediate member of our family being up around my house. We also go in and out my in-laws and my dad's bedroom without anyone freaking out. Granted not to snoop but I think people only do that if they think there's something to see.

Keep your rooms tidy and you won't be so stressed out by it.

Give them the empty box as a Christmas gift