Aibu to be angry than in laws snooped around the house

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Me and my husband went out for the 1st time Saturday night since having our baby. My in laws came round to baby sit while we were gone which was nice of them.
Before leaving I shut our bedroom door because it looked like a bomb had hit it after we had got ready and also shut the spare bedroom door because I had piles of dirty washing laid out plus all of the Xmas presents are in there (there's included) I left the babies bedroom door open incase they needed to go in for anything. Plus the rest of upstairs was generally untidy compared to downstairs and not exactly in a state of want people to see. On returning home and going upstairs all of the doors had been opened so this means one of the in laws had been snooping around which has annoyed me. There was no need for them to go upstairs.. we have a downstairs bathroom, we left spare clothes, nappies etc downstairs and told them they didn't need to put the baby to bed just let him sleep downstairs in the carry cot until we got home. AIBU to be annoyed?
They also had their dinner round ours (which we said was fine) but kindly left the washing up for us to do & polished off a whole box of Christmas biscuits!! This also annoyed me.

Fair enough, I guess we all deal with things in our way. I think I would have gone bananas personally.

I thought the snooping reference was regarding them going upstairs in your room not eating the biscuits.

Still - posh biscuits cheaper than a baby sitter. Who was meant to eat them any way?

Hang on- so they found the biscuits by snooping? I think i’m getting a bit confused!

Actually, the thing that would piss me off is the washing up. And if there was evidence of actually opening drawers and things. I wonder why they left the doors open?

Blimey! Some of the responses here are a bit extreme, to say the least! Having a few biscuits from your DIL's cupboard while babysitting is "stealing"? Good grief!!

But they were posh biscuits

My IL’s seem to think they have got a God given right to rifle through our stuff, so they aren’t invited in very much and when they are, one of us is in the house. They have even commented on not being left alone at ours. Funny they don’t want us anywhere near their house when they are away and we don’t even have a spare key in case of emergency (live close by). Obviously judge everybody else by their standards here.

It's poor snooping to leave the doors open. You'd expect them to cover their tracks better! I'm really private about my room and don't like people in.

The biscuits would have been found whilst snooping upstairs in the spare room where all the Xmas presents and pieces are being stored. Oh please stop with the 'posh' biscuits Jesus sorry you obviously are a posh twat all year round and can afford them

So the biscuits were upstairs now?

Why does it matter where they were the had to snoop to be able to find them

@MrsFassy

how is the OP entitled?

If someone does me a favour (looks after my child) I don't start a thread to whine that they've eaten biscuits, not washed up and opened doors. I'm grateful.

To me the whining smacks of entitlement

The biscuits would have been found whilst snooping upstairs in the spare room

Omfg

The drop feed

Or drip feed

@GreatDuckCookery - if I had left the bread and butter out for toast for my mother, no. I wouldn't think it was stealing. However, if I had bought a loaf of expensive, specialist bread (whatever form that might be) and it wasn't already open and available to be eaten, I'd say yes, that would be taking without asking especially if there was no indication that the loaf of bread would be replaced. I'd also have no qualms about saying "Mum, that loaf of bread was for Christmas day for French toast/whatever purpose. There was other bread available you could have had. Why did you go looking for that, it wasn't put out for you to eat?" so I would have said something either on the night or the day after.

My understanding is that the OP and her DH had put away some groceries to be eaten over Christmas and they were not left out for the inlaws to have. Inlaws snooped both upstairs (by opening doors and looking in rooms, for what we don't know) and downstairs by searching in cupboards for something to eat, even though options were left out for them but they didn't want those options, they wanted something else. Something that the OP and DH had put away and was not for general consumption on this particular evening. The inlaws haven't made any indication that they will replace these items so there you have it.

So the biscuits were upstairs in the spare room? I thought they were in the kitchen cupboard. I was about to suggest that maybe they heard a noise and went upstairs to investigate but unless the noise was the biscuits falling and spilling out, I don't have any excuses left to make for them.

I would have to say something.

Whatchamacallit thank you! I'm glad you understand

and if I should steal the box of luxury treats I'd found in the cupboard after having a root about you'd all be telling that i was unreasonable I assumed the biscuits were in a cupboard not hidden in a spare room from that sentence from the OP.

IF they were hidden in a spare room upstairs why didn't you ask them why they'd been upstairs?

Greatduck if you read the sentence from the start it says 'if I'd have asked if it was ok to go into the in laws bedroom and take the biscuits if found in the cupboard'

Yes I know what was written, they went into your room and took the biscuits, that could mean two separate issues you were annoyed at. I'm confused to why you didn't say in your first post that they took the biscuits from your spare room instead of saying that they took the biscuits that had been put away for Christmas.

You had proof they had been looking in your bedrooms which you could have called them out on.

Maybe it's a generational thing? I'd never dream of snooping anywhere!

Ha ha ha, so none of today's young parents will have a snoop around when they're the PILs? That's hilarious.

Of course they were rude. Fancy not even washing their dishes.

@BusyMum47 MIL does the cards thing too! I don't understand it.
DP got a phone call yesterday from his mum saying "the card you got your brother was nice but you didn't write xyz on it"

It's the first thing she does when we have birthday or christmas cards sitting out. She even read our anniversary cards to each other once.

they were left plenty of their favourite snacks so why was there need to look through the cupboards for extra things?

That doesn't read like the biscuits were in the spare room OP tbh.

I don't even like biscuits, posh or otherwise! Not sure that makes me a posh twat. I just don't mind who eats what in my house especially when they're doing me a favour.

Yeah they shouldn't have gone peeking, feels like they're judging your mess. My MIL once rearranged my whole wardrobe whilst I was on holiday, it felt so intrusive as that's where I kept sex stuff! Weirdly I moved it all before we left as I had a feeling she would go noseying.