DS5's friend caught me on the toilet - WWYD

[comebackmargaret]

Long-time lurker, and finally I have a reason to post in AIBU.

DS and his friend (both 5) had a playdate at our home yesterday. All was well, they were playing quietly with Legos downstairs so I went upstairs to read Mumsnet go to the loo. I hadn't been there very long (5 mins max) when the door burst open (old house, broken toilet lock) and DS's friend was standing there looking as surprised as I was. I said, oops! and he shut the door and ran away. I went downstairs and he was back in the living room with DS.

I asked friend if he needed anything, like the toilet, and he replied that no, he had been exploring the house. All seemed ok, boys played well, friend's mum came to pick him up on time, I made no mention of the toilet incident, everything ok.

At night friend's mum texted me to say she'd heard about the toilet incident from her son. It was "inappropriate" for her son to have found me in "such a compromising position" and that she would have to "think carefully about any future playdates."

I was literally sitting on the loo with nothing visible apart from cellulitey thighs!

I am now sitting on my hands because I just want to text back all sorts of rude words, but the boys have turned out to be really good friends and I am hoping their friendship won't be affected by something like this. WWYD?

Really? Who talks like that?

Nothing. It's not a big deal.

No way!
I can't believe anyone would think that nvm text it.

I'd text back saying 'I agree, perhaps its best to teach your dS now that its not appropriate to wander off and explore someone lse's house uninvited and it might stop him putting himself and adults in inapropriate situations'

Nope.

Tell her you agree because her son can't be trusted not to wander about the house.

Flippin' 'eck.
It's a natural bodily function.
Has he never seen her on the toilet?
She needs to get a grip!

If this is true then she's mental.

Everyone finds me in the loo - DD, DDs friends, the dog, the husband, random visitors. I have been conditioned by a clingy child and a clingy puppy to never properly shut the door. I might soon have to actually start locking as DD is now 7!

Maybe this is misplaced embarrassment that her son walked in on you. She sounds weird though, surely everyone has walked in on someone or been walked in on, it doesn't make you some kind of sexual predator.

This is the kind of thing I would always mention just in case of that reaction (though I would never expect to see it!!).

You could pretend to misunderstand her and say you're not upset about being caught in a compromising position, or you could just say 'meant to mention it, sorry, hope x not too traumatised!'

Either way you can guarantee if you make it a big deal she'll make it a bigger one, I'd be as dismissive as you can while remaining polite.

She's an idiot. I would text back 'What?? He burst in on me when I was on the toilet and caught a glimpse of my legs - please explain in what way this was compromising? I would hate for this to damage the boys friendship but I'm very uncomfortable with your take on this'

I would have mentioned it, incase he told her, but other than that you did nothing wrong. She;s being OTT!

Just say he was nosing around your house and caught you on the loo because he opened the door without knocking!!

She sounds very very weird.

Does she expect you not to go to the loo in your own house for the duration of her child’s visits?

If she really said that, you should reply that, yes, she needs to think about whether she can send her DS in play dates until she has taught him not to go off exploring other people’s houses uninvited!

It was inappropriate that she were having a shit in your own toilet. Granted it doesn't take much but I'm .
Am I missing something.

He didn't find you, he went looking and exploring, he's only 5. I'd just say sorry, maybe it would be better if he didn't go round looking in rooms where the doors are shut and you hope they can still remain friends, get a lock for the door and forget about it. She's being a bit precious. You don't know what he told her, probably just said he found xx mummy on the toilet.

I think I would explain that it was an accident and that her son hadn't knocked before entering. Ultimately you were only doing what any other normal person does on a toilet!

However I would of mentioned the incident to her when she came to collect her son, by not telling her she only has his side of the story to go on and she may find it odd you didn't tell her.

What a coincidence. I was also thinking the same about future playdates. Do I really want someone who disregards privacy that they barge into rooms without knocking first? Or someone that decides to wander around my home scouting the place out instead of playing with my dc.

I'd ask 'exactly what did he tell you happened?'
It may have been different from what actually happened and that may explain her overreaction.
If it is the same as what did in fact happen she's nuts! It's something to laugh about surely??

Wow.That woman has issues.
Maybe someone will be along soon with a pithy or numerous response.Id have been in the phone and asking why her son hasn't been taught to knock.We had no locks on our toilet door after dd locked herself in when small and we had to take the door off to get her out.

Maybe text back "I hope that was misplaced embarrassment that your child thought it was fine to wander through someone elses home nosing in other peoples toilets while they had a quick wee. He saw nothing. I hope lesson learned he won't be opening toilet doors on his next visit"

She's a loon, block her.

Get a door stop for when you have visitors if your locks dont work. What a silly Mother.