DS5's friend caught me on the toilet - WWYD

[comebackmargaret]

Long-time lurker, and finally I have a reason to post in AIBU.

DS and his friend (both 5) had a playdate at our home yesterday. All was well, they were playing quietly with Legos downstairs so I went upstairs to read Mumsnet go to the loo. I hadn't been there very long (5 mins max) when the door burst open (old house, broken toilet lock) and DS's friend was standing there looking as surprised as I was. I said, oops! and he shut the door and ran away. I went downstairs and he was back in the living room with DS.

I asked friend if he needed anything, like the toilet, and he replied that no, he had been exploring the house. All seemed ok, boys played well, friend's mum came to pick him up on time, I made no mention of the toilet incident, everything ok.

At night friend's mum texted me to say she'd heard about the toilet incident from her son. It was "inappropriate" for her son to have found me in "such a compromising position" and that she would have to "think carefully about any future playdates."

I was literally sitting on the loo with nothing visible apart from cellulitey thighs!

I am now sitting on my hands because I just want to text back all sorts of rude words, but the boys have turned out to be really good friends and I am hoping their friendship won't be affected by something like this. WWYD?

Entirely the fault of the nosy boy who should not be opening doors in someone else's house. What has he told her? Probably something stupid like you were sitting there with the door wide open, just so that he can excuse himself for something that he must have known was wrong. Mum sounds rather hysterical for such a trivial incident.

My friend's dd unlocked or bathroom door from outside whilst i was doing a pee. I wondered wtaf was going on when the lock twisted itself around apparently of its own accord - i thought we were haunted.

I squawked and she quickly realised the error of her ways and disappeared off but locks aren't infallible. I think she used a toy coin to twist it.

I too wpuld like to know how batshit mum has gone to the loo unaccompanied. I tried to shut myself in today and my 3 year old had the screaming abdabs outside "but i just neeeeed you mummy". She then proceeded to come in and stare at me as i teinserted my menstrual cup. I'm quite an open parent but i found that a little uncomfortable and could have done without the necessary accompanying biology lesson. Sigh.

Or maybe you do have an odd bottom and this is the wake-up call you needed to find answers.

There's really not much to be seen when someone is sitting on a toilet, surely? And is someone sitting on a toilet in a compromising position!

All very strange.

😂😂😂@Notan

Tell your friend to get over it. Can’t believe this is even a thing!!!

I would find out exactly what he said, as thats not a normal reaction. If she is upset that he walked in on you, I wouldn't have a go at her, she either has issues, or assumed something else happened. I really wouldn't let my son go to his house if I were you.

I think the mum is over-reacting; I told you one of my children's friends saw me naked as I came out of bathroom (we only had one bathroom then), I calmly walked the few paces to my bedroom and made no comment or reaction. I daresay he told his mum when he got home but she knew me and I never had any feedback. I was more careful after that of course but it was just something that happened and no doubt he had seen mum and dad naked which is not the same but still, he wasn't very old.

It's very unfortunately that the mum is making more of a big deal out of it than it was.

I can even vaguely remember a grown up or two in the toilet when I was small and ran in. Nobody ever said anything - they weren't abusing me or deliberately exposing themselves.

Now I'm curious as to what religious underwear looks like.

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Sikhs have Kachera but usually only worn by Baptised, and therefore adult Sikhs and it can be considered an outer garment.

Adult male Jews sometimes wear Tallit katan but it's not strictly speaking underwear but worn under a jacket or waistcoat.

"compromising position" what on earth did he tell her? Maybe he said something like "I saw x's mum with no knickers on" and omitted to mention that you were on the loo and he was wandering about the house uninvited. I would say "Sorry in our house people know to knock before going into the loo as we have no lock.I am sure if you explain to him that this is the appropriate thing to do it wont happen again"