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To think how sex is usually portrayed in TV/Film between women and men is awful?

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abacucat · 06/10/2018 15:47

Yes there are exceptions, but most TV and Film portray sex between a women and man as a bit of kissing/snogging and then penetration. That is it. I know if that is how I had sex I would never orgasm at all. It seems as if TV and Film are largely unaware of all the different kind of things a woman and man can do in sex.

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SnapAndFartAllDayLong · 06/10/2018 16:02

What I hate most is woman practically having orgasms eating yoghurt/washing their hair. That yoghurt ad with Nicole Scherzinger in makes me feel 🤢🤮

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vampirethriller · 06/10/2018 16:08

I hate yoghurt ad orgasmic faces too! Film sex lasts seconds but ends in mutual orgasm. Really?! And nobody ever wears a condom/has to go to the loo first/has a wash.

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AnotherCareerThread · 06/10/2018 16:10

I can understand why they do it from a appropriateness/sexiness perspective but YANBU.

Though why TV and Films see the need to include sex so frequently, when it has no bearing on the plot line is also incredibly annoying

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ElfridaEtAl · 06/10/2018 16:36

YANBU. How Ana Steele never had a UTI is beyond me.

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Racecardriver · 06/10/2018 16:40

What's so awful about a bit of snogging followed by penatrative sex? Blush

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abacucat · 06/10/2018 17:06

racecardriver Can you orgasm from that?

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itsbetterthanabox · 06/10/2018 17:11

Yeah it's ridiculous.
You could easily show foreplay too. It send the wrong message that mens pleasure is the only thing that matters and penetration is the only 'real' sex.

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Secretsquirrel101 · 06/10/2018 17:11

racecardriver maybe we’re doing it wrong 😂

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RiverTam · 06/10/2018 17:11

Because it’s what men want that matters. Never mind that PIV sex is often unsatisfactory at best and outright dangerous at worst for many women (by which I mean that it’s what leads to pregnancy). It’s also of course what results in so many women taking hormones for so much of their lives.

But hey! The chaps love it so who cares about the women, amirite??!

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cholka · 06/10/2018 17:13

Yanbu, I hate it too. Also sex is hardly ever awkward and a bit stilted when they’re just getting together for the first time. Does young people a disservice in combo with porn I reckon - shows sex as something slick and easy not a bit fumbly but really fun if you keep at it!

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MsOliphant · 06/10/2018 17:16

I wish it could be like this sometimes;

Man: Is that good for you baby?
Woman: No
Man: Shock what?! Why?
Woman: Because you just stuck it in without even a by your leave and quite frankly it chafes.

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HollowTalk · 06/10/2018 17:18

I've always noticed that! I always think, "Oh she must be having a BRILLIANT time."

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Bluelady · 06/10/2018 17:20

🤣 McOliphant.

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abacucat · 06/10/2018 17:21

HollowTalk Even when he just sticks it in, she nearly always comes.

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ConciseandNice · 06/10/2018 17:22

I’m just jealous. I wish I could have an easy orgasm through penetration.

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Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 06/10/2018 17:22

The older I get the more irritated I am about sex on tv.
I just get annoyed by it, it's everywhere, it's unnecessary and crap.
You are not wrong OP.

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abacucat · 06/10/2018 17:23

Concise Virtually no woman does.

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Batteriesallgone · 06/10/2018 17:23

The thing that bothers me is when someone is kneeling giving oral and the receiver is standing up on their phone or something Confused

I seem to have seen it a bit lately where the man is kneeling giving the woman oral (surely kneeling and standing isn’t good for angles? Maybe my clit is positioned wrong?) and the woman is on her phone, it’s bizarre, frankly.

Guess it supports the porno view that sex is just physical and requires no mental connection.

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Lichtie · 06/10/2018 17:26

Is it not because if they showed a half hour sex scene every time then there would be no other time for the rest of the plot?

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Flashingbeacon · 06/10/2018 17:32

I was just saying this. Knickers down (sometimes not even that) and straight in. Never mind she’s 4’8” and he’s 6’4” they go at it standing up. I am a big fan of PIV but there’s got to be a bit of a run up.

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BooMare · 06/10/2018 17:35

I don't enjoy foreplay, I just like PIV straight away. Do you mean 20 mins of kissing or something, or lots of touching beforehand? Sex must take ages!

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LunaLovegoodsRadishes · 06/10/2018 17:36

It's mostly men that script this shit do it's mostly a male fantasy that makes the screen.

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HollowTalk · 06/10/2018 17:38

Seriously, if you don't like foreplay, you're with the wrong guy!

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ashtrayheart · 06/10/2018 17:40

Must admit I like to get to the PIV bit and yes I do orgasm. Women are all not all the same!

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RatRolyPoly · 06/10/2018 17:42

YANBU OP! Bares no resemblance to deal life and does women a disservice IMO. Campaign for real sex on TV!

On the other hand I quite like an orgasmic shampoo ad, or even a yoghurt one. Perhaps that's just my sense of humour.

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