AIBU?
To think how sex is usually portrayed in TV/Film between women and men is awful?
abacucat · 06/10/2018 15:47
Yes there are exceptions, but most TV and Film portray sex between a women and man as a bit of kissing/snogging and then penetration. That is it. I know if that is how I had sex I would never orgasm at all. It seems as if TV and Film are largely unaware of all the different kind of things a woman and man can do in sex.
IfNotNowThenWhen1 · 06/10/2018 19:36
Yanbu OP. I shout this at the telly everytime a couple have their first (FIRST!) snog, and in seconds it's knickers off and he's up there like a rat up a drainpipe.
I mean, I like a quicky sometimes, and God knows I have often gone all the way on a first date, but this fast forward version you ALWAYS see is sort of showing young people that that's how it's supposed to play out with every time.
There's never any foreplay, giggling, shifting of positions, discussion of condom, nothing resembling actual first time sex.
Piv can be amazing but frankly if I'm not ready I might as well be having a smear test.
Djnoun · 06/10/2018 19:39
It's my firm belief that first time sex is always a bit crap. You don't really know the ropes, do you? I mean, it can be exciting. But truly amazing? No.
And although I said I can orgasm through PIV, I really need to have formed a bond with the other person so I've got the oxytocin levels up and I feel safe enough. So it's not going to happen the first time.
Pebblespony · 06/10/2018 19:44
Do we really want to see lengthy foreplay, questions about how that feels, stopping because his elbow is on your hair, changing positions because you're getting tired etc? If I see sex on the tv it's fantasy land. I want entertainment. If I wanted the alternative, I'd watch a documentary. Much like every other aspect of fiction on tv.
affectionincoldclimate · 06/10/2018 21:00
Totally.
It ruined my teenage and young adult experience of sex as I thought I was doing it wrong and genuinely thought that there was something wrong with me for not orgasming from 5 thrusts by my equally inexperienced boyfriends who clearly saw the same movies.
Annandale · 06/10/2018 21:46
The nearest thing to any form of realistic sex scene I have ever seen is in The Big Easy. Trainspotting had something, but apparently in some markets they censored the sex scene because Kelly Macdonald looked like she was enjoying herself too much. That's a problem for me with film sex - that the women remain in a kind of glacial calm throughout even if they do quite a lengthy sex scene. So for a very long time I did think it was normal, even right, that I was feeling so little pleasure that I might as well have been washing the floor. But I'm not sure looking at other people's actual sex faces is that appealing.
EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 06/10/2018 21:58
The one sex seen that I can watch and think is realistic and funny is Carrie with the Jack Rabbit guy it’s hilarious and totally can relate to it
But most are totally unrealistic but then again I don’t really want to watch half hour of fumbling about
7Days · 06/10/2018 22:11
Why show it at all? I d live to watch a good bank heist movie in an overstuffed room at Christmas without fretting about FIL and 13 year old nephew. Excruciating. A bit of kissing to move the relationship along. Showing sex is supposed to make you horny isn't it. Who wants to share that with great aunt Beryl
ShackUp · 06/10/2018 22:30
I think we need to define orgasm here!
It is impossible for me to climax through PIV sex. Penis angle prohibits anything from rubbing against my clitoris.
Is there such a thing as a caginal orgasm? Those of you who climax through PIV sex, can you also have clitoral orgasms? (Tbh I thought they were the only kind 
).
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