To think how sex is usually portrayed in TV/Film between women and men is awful?

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Yes there are exceptions, but most TV and Film portray sex between a women and man as a bit of kissing/snogging and then penetration. That is it. I know if that is how I had sex I would never orgasm at all. It seems as if TV and Film are largely unaware of all the different kind of things a woman and man can do in sex.

Tv sex the woman is always writhing around ecstatically on top

Yanbu OP. I shout this at the telly everytime a couple have their first (FIRST!) snog, and in seconds it's knickers off and he's up there like a rat up a drainpipe.
I mean, I like a quicky sometimes, and God knows I have often gone all the way on a first date, but this fast forward version you ALWAYS see is sort of showing young people that that's how it's supposed to play out with every time.
There's never any foreplay, giggling, shifting of positions, discussion of condom, nothing resembling actual first time sex.
Piv can be amazing but frankly if I'm not ready I might as well be having a smear test.

It's my firm belief that first time sex is always a bit crap. You don't really know the ropes, do you? I mean, it can be exciting. But truly amazing? No.

And although I said I can orgasm through PIV, I really need to have formed a bond with the other person so I've got the oxytocin levels up and I feel safe enough. So it's not going to happen the first time.

Has anyone watched Outlander? That’s a fine sex scene!

The sex scenes in 'the affair' wee always quite awkward and realistic I thought. More realistic than most tv shite anyway

Do we really want to see lengthy foreplay, questions about how that feels, stopping because his elbow is on your hair, changing positions because you're getting tired etc? If I see sex on the tv it's fantasy land. I want entertainment. If I wanted the alternative, I'd watch a documentary. Much like every other aspect of fiction on tv.

Agreed, it does most women a disservice to depict it this way.

Another one here who isn't a fan of dragging out the foreplay and orgasms from PIV. I've always been under the impression that I'm unusual in that though.

I really can't bear sex scenes but quite often the man is seen sliding down the covers, to go down on the woman. It's not all PIV, PIV, PIV.

I can also come from PIV, but mainly by DP kind of bumping on my clit at the same time. Does that count?

Agreed.

Most sex we have is DH touching me until I've orgasmed enough and then PIV.

You don't see that on telly ever.

Basically with telly sex hands never touch genitals. Shame for them really.

Do none of you use toys to enhance the piv?

It's how fast they go from kissing to shagging that annoys me. Where's the anticipation? ! It does explain many rushed encounters with men though.

I have to agree I prefer PIV orgasms, much better than any other kind. Depending on how horny I am, I don’t need foreplay at all.

Snap. I guess Mumsnet must be big enough to have a lot of us here as the 20%; if the surveys were right!

I think you're going to get a hell of a lot of respondents telling you how easily they can orgasm through PIV, Ignoring the fact that it IS harder, because there's probably an underlying sense of superiority that they can and most can't.

There's no superiority at all. I couldn't orgasm through PIV for the first three years I had sex.

We are all individuals. I actually couldn't have an orgasm from masturbation until I was 28!

It’s not about superiority. People are just different. I’m not interested in foreplay myself. I prefer the main event.

I've never orgasmed through PIV, and I've been with men I found massively exciting (not all of them) it just doesn't happen. Feels nice and all that but nope. I like it but the playing around is much more fun.

Totally.

It ruined my teenage and young adult experience of sex as I thought I was doing it wrong and genuinely thought that there was something wrong with me for not orgasming from 5 thrusts by my equally inexperienced boyfriends who clearly saw the same movies.

@AnotherCareerThread I laughed so much at your post I woke the dog - I hear you!!

I’m a bit weird. I hate foreplay, some kinds just make me uncomfortable or tickle. Some kinds are just too intense. I’m very happy to go straight to the main act which I enjoy.

The nearest thing to any form of realistic sex scene I have ever seen is in The Big Easy. Trainspotting had something, but apparently in some markets they censored the sex scene because Kelly Macdonald looked like she was enjoying herself too much. That's a problem for me with film sex - that the women remain in a kind of glacial calm throughout even if they do quite a lengthy sex scene. So for a very long time I did think it was normal, even right, that I was feeling so little pleasure that I might as well have been washing the floor. But I'm not sure looking at other people's actual sex faces is that appealing.

The one sex seen that I can watch and think is realistic and funny is Carrie with the Jack Rabbit guy it’s hilarious and totally can relate to it

But most are totally unrealistic but then again I don’t really want to watch half hour of fumbling about

Why show it at all? I d live to watch a good bank heist movie in an overstuffed room at Christmas without fretting about FIL and 13 year old nephew. Excruciating. A bit of kissing to move the relationship along. Showing sex is supposed to make you horny isn't it. Who wants to share that with great aunt Beryl

I mentally add at least 3 points to my review score for any film or show that features enthusiastic cunnilingus.

I think we need to define orgasm here!

It is impossible for me to climax through PIV sex. Penis angle prohibits anything from rubbing against my clitoris.

Is there such a thing as a caginal orgasm? Those of you who climax through PIV sex, can you also have clitoral orgasms? (Tbh I thought they were the only kind ).