AIBU?
To think how sex is usually portrayed in TV/Film between women and men is awful?
abacucat · 06/10/2018 15:47
Yes there are exceptions, but most TV and Film portray sex between a women and man as a bit of kissing/snogging and then penetration. That is it. I know if that is how I had sex I would never orgasm at all. It seems as if TV and Film are largely unaware of all the different kind of things a woman and man can do in sex.
DolceFarNiente · 06/10/2018 22:35
At the risk of this being too TMI, I have a practical question for those who don't need foreplay: how on earth is he able to get it in? If my DH tried without warming me up first and getting the old, err, juices flowing, I'd probably end up tearing! Or is it that you're already 'ready to go' down there after just a quick snog?
I'm like AnotherCareerThread, I'd love to be able to have a quickie but it wouldn't physically be possible without a lot of warming up. Am I doing it wrong?!
DoYouLikeHueyLewisandTheNews · 06/10/2018 22:37
I find it unrealistic that they rarely pause for a condom yet don’t do an awkward post coital bathroom relay after to sort out the aftermath. We can’t be the only people that want to get clean and have another wee before bed rather than basking in each other’s arms?
Annandale · 06/10/2018 22:41
Dolce in my experience it depends on the fit between you. If the woman is relatively big and the man relatively small then it"s unfortunately often possible to go straight to penetration without much in the way of lubrication. Particularly if the woman doesn't have much idea of what arousal feels like, or just wants to get it over with.
Squidgee · 06/10/2018 23:07
I orgasm through PIV.. its all about the motion of the ocean rather than the guy just pumping away though.
Some women have a lot of nerve endings in the first couple of inches of their Vagina, the right kind of friction can produce orgasm. It does feel rather different to clitoral orgasm, and tbh, even better is orgasm via nipple stimulation... now that is good and worth being a tad sore afterwards... and I know that last one is apparently really rare so i'm lucky xD
Howhot · 06/10/2018 23:23
If I orgasmed before PIV I think I'd get bored. That sounds bad but I find PIV very pleasurable and me and OH usually finish simultaneously. If I was already done before we had even started then most of the anticipation would be gone. Most of my PIV orgasm's are clitoral.
I'm not fussed about TV sex, why drag it out even further
Sethis · 06/10/2018 23:30
The sex isn't portrayed accurately because they need to cater to the most common denominator, and often they can't assign a lot of runtime to an action that doesn't effectively advance the plot. It would be great if more variety was on display though, you're right.
But the real burning question I have is how many of you ladies wake up in the morning with perfect makeup, perfect hair, and wearing a bra under a vest top? Because that's how y'all wake up in TV shows and the media, but I've yet to experience this with my DP. Is she doing it wrong? 
Gwenhwyfar · 07/10/2018 00:01
"how many of you ladies wake up in the morning with perfect makeup, perfect hair, and wearing a bra under a vest top? "
I'm just glad you can't smell through the TV because most people have morning breath. I can't watch people kissing in the morning because I always think of the awful breath.
BoomTish · 07/10/2018 00:02
Whatever about the actual sex, the aftermath is usually very unrealistic.
Recently, after we’d had sex, my husband was doing the post-coital penguin shuffle to the toilet, and I was using my knickers to wipe some semen from my thighs, while setting my phone alarm for the following morning.
They don’t show you that in the films...!
JazKish · 07/10/2018 01:04
@abacucat
Surveys are not always accurate,plus there are communities who would not share sexual information. There are two ways to orgasm,stimulation of clit or PIV which is way more intense ,the only thing more intense than that is PIV while stimulating the clit. The reason some women don't experience orgasm by PIV could be down to variety of reasons,main one is that the man doesn't last long enough for the woman to get there. Forplay isn't always necessary, because if you are in the mood and want the main meal,you will skip the starters. Also wanted to add that I come from a culture where 90% of the women have undergone FGM so they are missing the clitoris,they are able to have an orgasm (except those who have trauma) through PIV.
BitOfFun · 07/10/2018 01:46
My understanding is that the clitoris is much larger than the visible part, and it's actually shaped a bit like a wishbone, with the 'arms' extending around the vagina. So "vaginal" orgasms come from indirect pressure on the clitoris regardless, and therefore ALL orgasms are clitoral in that sense.
Casperandme · 07/10/2018 05:41
I recommend the book 'Come As You Are' about women's sexuality - it talks about many of the things talked about here, including how the movies etc have done a disservice to women. It's really interesting and empowering for women.
It also has the stat that only 20% women orgasm reliably from PIV and that it's to do with physiology, specifically how close together the clit and the urethra are which of course differs from woman to woman.
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