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To think how sex is usually portrayed in TV/Film between women and men is awful?

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abacucat · 06/10/2018 15:47

Yes there are exceptions, but most TV and Film portray sex between a women and man as a bit of kissing/snogging and then penetration. That is it. I know if that is how I had sex I would never orgasm at all. It seems as if TV and Film are largely unaware of all the different kind of things a woman and man can do in sex.

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WTBE · 07/10/2018 10:41

Djnoun - Oh good times all round 😂 maybe carrying a baby jiggled our insides around abit!

It did happen before but almost all the time now, my circle of friends have experienced it as well, I didn't think it was that uncommon to orgasm from PIV apparently it is!


HoppingPavlova · 07/10/2018 10:44

Tv/movies in no way represent real life. No one wants to watch a film where a character announces they are off to the loo and returns after 20mins of film time. Someone goes into the shower then steps out sparkly clean with completely washed hair 30sec later, we are not subjected to the boredom of starting the shower up, shampooing, conditioning, soaping, rinsing etc. Thank god. Same for sex scenes, no way do I want to sit there watching 25mins of foreplay, just the 2min roll in the sack indicating two characters have gotten it on us fine. If you want any more than that go find a porno made by a woman for women I guess.


calamitycake · 07/10/2018 10:45

Helmetbymidnight - if you actually saw the thrusting then yes that would be graphic but you don't it's usually undercover anyway whereas it would be difficult to show that foreplay is going on without showing close ups of genitals and we really don't need to see that.


cushioncovers · 07/10/2018 10:50

I wish it could be like this sometimes;

Man: Is that good for you baby?
Woman: No
Man: what?! Why?
Woman: Because you just stuck it in without even a by your leave and quite frankly it chafes.



Zaccheryquack · 07/10/2018 11:36

I just watched a Simple Favor. A few sex scenes, all very brief. One of them showed just the guy going down on the girl. Very quick and you knew what had happened but did not show the PIV. YANBU OP - you can have a brief sex scene without it being a false representation of what makes good sex for (most) women!


Vitalogy · 07/10/2018 12:10

I find it funny how easy it is to slide it in.

Orgasm is possible without being touched or touching oneself.


ZanyMobster · 07/10/2018 16:03

Totally agree with HoppingPavlova. I don't see it as an issue at all to be honest, they show a small amount to give us the idea of what has happened and that's enough IMO.


crispysausagerolls · 07/10/2018 16:29

Sex scenes aren’t realistic as we’ve never seen someone use a penis beaker 😂


Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 07/10/2018 16:51

I wish second be implied more in tv and film.
I get a bit bored.


Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 07/10/2018 16:52

*sex not second Hmm


Gileswithachainsaw · 07/10/2018 16:58

I wish they'd shower more. O be minute they are working all hours -with the help of 24 hr daycare the next they some how have the energy, clean underwear, up to date personal grooming and non smelly sweaty privates ready for shagging.

And they all breathe all over eachother far too much.

Not sexy at all


TrickyKid · 07/10/2018 17:05

It would drag on a bit if they showed foreplay. Anyway what's wrong with a quick snog and PIV. Plenty of women can orgasm like that, especially when it's with a new partner and it's all new and exciting.


PuppyMonkey · 07/10/2018 17:12

Agree with Pavlova. Have always found sex scenes cringey myself - would much prefer they show a bit of a snog and then they cut to the next morning.Grin


tinytemper66 · 07/10/2018 17:41

No one ever has morning breathe either 😂


tinytemper66 · 07/10/2018 17:42

Sorry breath!


Curioushorse · 07/10/2018 18:15

If you look at Tom Whipple’s book, ‘X and Why’, it looks at the different attitudes between men and women towards sex. It confirms that many studies indicate that the majority of women don’t orgasm through PIV sex. It also says that between 5 and 10% of women never orgasm at all. A further load of women say they orgasm, but in tests they didn’t appear to in the way that scientists understand. There’s a chapter on the purpose of the female orgasm, because from an evolutionary perspective it’s not necessary. There doesn’t appear to be a conclusion amongst the research!


Helmetbymidnight · 07/10/2018 18:23

That's wrong. The women of MN don't need hands or mouths or even any contact at all for the most stupendous orgasms and regards TV they would prefer to see a man thrusting a woman to orgasm than any other kind of sexual interaction at all.


WitsEnding · 07/10/2018 18:29

Late back to thread (sorry, on hols). Yes I'm a woman and reliably and preferably orgasm PIV. Didn't realise this wasn't the same for everyone for quite a few years.


April2018mom · 08/10/2018 00:34

I’ve always wondered how accurate they were too. For example I’m curious about sex scenes in arts and literature too. How accurate are they generally speaking here?


strawberrisc · 08/10/2018 06:13

I think women need to understand their own bodies before being with anyone else. I can climax both ways and sometimes even in my sleep!

When I see a sex scene on TV or in films I always wonder how they can lie in their own juices afterwards!


straightjeans · 08/10/2018 09:26

Seeing the women with their bras on is annoying and unrealistic but if the actress is not comfortable being topless, then that's her choice.


Gileswithachainsaw · 08/10/2018 09:32

I keep my bra on alot Blush I sleep in a sports bra


straightjeans · 08/10/2018 09:48

@Gileswithachainsaw Shock

Maybe it's because I'm part of the itty bitty titty committee.


Gileswithachainsaw · 08/10/2018 09:50

So am I. Hence the sports bra Grin I don't have enough to make the vest tops I sleep in tight enough to prevent "falling out"


straightjeans · 08/10/2018 09:53

@Gileswithachainsaw This is interesting!

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