AIBU?
To think how sex is usually portrayed in TV/Film between women and men is awful?
abacucat · 06/10/2018 15:47
Yes there are exceptions, but most TV and Film portray sex between a women and man as a bit of kissing/snogging and then penetration. That is it. I know if that is how I had sex I would never orgasm at all. It seems as if TV and Film are largely unaware of all the different kind of things a woman and man can do in sex.
IcedPurple · 06/10/2018 18:18
I can't stand the beautiful young women paired with older men that would have no chance of being with a woman like that in real life.
That's my pet hate! I refuse to watch any film or TV show where there's a huge age gap unless there's a very good plot-related reason for it. Usually, there isn't.
YourDaughter · 06/10/2018 18:32
I get what you’re saying abacucat, but 1000’s of women doesn’t necessarily equal representative. Where the asked to take part in a study, did they know what it would be about, which parts of the UK were they from, how old were they, socioeconomic background etc? How were the questions worded? Was is a forced questionnaire, qualitative or quantitative data?
As this thread is showing when you have a vested interest in something you are much likely to respond as it grabs you. There is a chance that these thousands of women wanted to get off their chests that they don’t orgasm or find it hard to orgasm from PIV alone. If they’re very young there’s a chance they haven’t had a range of partners or found the confidence to tell their partner what they like etc (I am generalising here). If the questions were forced they may have had to pick from a range of answers that weren’t quite fit for purpose, but just had to do.
I think women find sex enjoyable in a huge range of ways, relying on questionnaire evidence (much like just taking the view of this thread 
) is not going to necessarily be valid.
AFistfulofDolores1 · 06/10/2018 18:39
I used to work in the field of sexuality and sex education, and, after that, I was much more inclined to spend a whole lot more time on foreplay - sometimes a couple of hours - and also PIV didn't always feature; sometimes orgasm didn't either, though that was rare.
I now find that I do love those kind of languid sessions, where we take our time. However, I also love a good quickie. (Had a lot of bad quickies too in my time, but I don't tolerate that anymore. Urgh!)
But I have yet to grasp the Holy Grail of PIV-Exclusive Orgasm :)
Sidge · 06/10/2018 18:39
You know just because it’s in colour it’s not real?
I don’t want to see realistic sex, if I wanted that I’d find one of those horrid webcam sites.
I don’t want to watch a film with a sex scene that shows fanny farts, wet patches, that awkward moment when you have to help him put it in as you’re not quite sure where it’s going, flabby arses, that peculiar noise when balls slap against the bum, etc etc...
HenryInTheTunnel · 06/10/2018 18:41
I hate sex on TV too. Characters pulling eachothers clothes off and kissing tells us that they are about to have sex without having to show these ridiculous scenes.
When they do show a man giving oral, the woman is always writhing about on the brink of orgasm after 3 seconds.
Mrsharper88 · 06/10/2018 18:43
Really surprised at the number of posters who have responded saying they can orgasm from PIV. I speak to friends quite openly about his and have only one friend who can and even she talks about how lucky she is as she is the exception to the rule.
I often watch tv/films and think no wonder men can be so shit in bed when they see this crap! They go from kissing to sex in a matter of seconds and don't even need to use lube....ouch!
Helmetbymidnight · 06/10/2018 18:46
I think repeatedly showing women only orgasm through piv on tv or film is unrealistic, unrepresentative and problematic.
I’d like to see women receive more head/handjobs, frankly. They don’t have to spends hours on it, just make a bit of an effort.
On tv, I mean.
In rl, they can spend hours on it!
Helmetbymidnight · 06/10/2018 18:58
It’s all part of the same problem - imagine a world in which 85% of tv/film writers/directors and producers are women. The versions of rewarding, satisfying sex would be very very different.
(Unless they were the women on this thread-then it would be exactly the same!)
RatRolyPoly · 06/10/2018 19:17
I actually think the world would be a better place if we did see more realistic mutually enjoyable on TV! I mean at least then the only visual depiction wouldn't be male orientated porn.
My dad, when we were young, would always pre-watch films and fast forward through the violence when we watched them together. He'd leave any non-misogynistic sex scenes though (think Ghost and Turner and Hooch). He said he never understood why violence would make a film a 12 but normal intimacy would make it a 15 or more. After all, sex is a normal healthy part of life that we will all become involved in at some point, but violence is not a normal part of life! And yet one we'll watch all day long on TV from a young age and the other we hide away in the shadows. That's no good for women!
Good old dad started me on the road to sex-positive feminism.
AnotherCareerThread · 06/10/2018 19:23
Jesus H Christ, sex would be SOOO much easier and quicker if I could orgasm from PIV.
I always feel vastly guilty with sex because OH can Get To The End via just minutes of PIV if he was so inclined, but I need touching, stroking, an 8 digit password with a number and a hyroglith, a marching band and the tail of a unicorn.
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