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Original poster

Holiday fall out

484 replies

Starleaf · 26/09/2018 18:32

Ok so I'm on holiday abroad with a friend and her two late teen children. It was my friends birthday yesterday, I packed birthday banners and ordered a cake and a bottle of fizz for her from the hotel. We went on a special day trip that I knew she wanted to do. Got back to hotel got ready for dinner and a night out, maybe a dance bar. All good so far. We had a lovely meal and decided to have a walk and find a bar. We passed several that were either showing football or boxing. Almost at the end of the strip we came to a place that was busy, playing music with people dancing. Just as we went in a song I love came on and I went to dance beckoning for my friend to follow. She didn't so when the song finished I went back to join her and asked if she'd like a drink. She said she didn't like the bar and was leaving.
I'll admit I wad pissed off at this point and walked out with my friend and kids following. I didn't walk fast but she hung back and the three of them stopped at a market, so I was on my own. I got back to our room (2 bed apt) and went to the bathroom. When I came out one of her kids was sleeping in her bed, and she'd gone to the other bedroom. I asked her why and she suddenly became very angry. She said as it was her birthday I should have done everything she wanted.
She has since told me she doesn't want anything more to do with me, I spoiled her birthday and that our friendship is finished.
I told her she was behaving immaturely. We haven't really spoken since, and they've now gone out for dinner leaving me in the room.
AIBU to think she'd had the whole day doing what she wanted, could she not have stayed at the bar for one drink, and has she over reacted?

OP posts:
GiraffeObsessedBaby · 30/09/2018 17:50

Please don't post drugs! It can get traced back to you. Just destroy it because tbh from what you've said I wouldn't put it past her reporting you.

So sorry your holiday was ruined.

LoniceraJaponica · 30/09/2018 18:53

“Don’t think the weed explains anything really.”

It probably does pictish. It affects different people differently. Also, if she is used to smoking it all day every day she will have been suffering withdrawal symptoms on holiday.

Starleaf please destroy or get rid of the weed and email the ex friend to tell her you have done so

ferntwist · 30/09/2018 18:56

OP you sound lovely. You’ve handled it all with such dignity. I wonder if the weed makes her paranoid and if she’s also projecting onto you about drinking because of her mother? She’s punishing you when really she wants to hurt her mother.

Original poster
Starleaf · 30/09/2018 19:08

Left the mug there, upset me the way she'd left it in the middle of an almost empty dressing table in my bedroom.
Now home have been told she's also blocked members of my family on social media she was friendly with.
I find it all very strange...

OP posts:
TemptressofWaikiki · 30/09/2018 19:13

Just throw her shit away. The last thing you need is to have what is still illegal stuff in your house.

Chocolala · 30/09/2018 19:21

Throw away the drugs and if anyone asks about her just put on a concerned face and say she started vehavyoddly on vacation and you’re worried that all the weed she smokes has had an effect. Grin

Chocolala · 30/09/2018 19:21

Behaving oddly

CottonSock · 30/09/2018 19:25

I had a crazy angry house mate at uni.. weed addict.

BathroomLights · 30/09/2018 19:31

That sounds very hurtful about the mug as it was a personal one with photos etc.

Squirrelblanket · 30/09/2018 19:41

She sounds unhinged. I think you dealt with it in a very dignified manner OP. I'm glad you got home ok.

Charley50 · 30/09/2018 20:06

But if she had withdrawal symptoms on holiday she would have been horrible to everyone.

whatwouldkeithRichardsdo2 · 30/09/2018 20:32

Glad you're home safe. Put this all behind you now and don't waste another minute on this woman.

BewareOfDragons · 30/09/2018 20:52

Get rid of her weed immediately, preferably i a bin far away from your property. She sounds vindictive enough to anonymously report that you have illegal drugs in your house ... get rid of them!

LoniceraJaponica · 30/09/2018 21:10

Could you sneak the weed onto her premises and then send an anonymous tip off to the police? Make sure you wipe off your finger prints first.

I watch too many detective dramas

GabsAlot · 30/09/2018 21:53

sell it

lonicera they wont bother with personal use unless u say shes growing it

Tistheseason17 · 30/09/2018 21:55

Ditch the weed and stuff asap. She's a nasty, vindictive girl and has capacity to get worse. Don't let there be anything she can drop you in it for

Maisymoo22 · 30/09/2018 23:11

I agree with other posters op, get rid of the weed ASAP just in case she’s vindictive enough to send the police round.
Any sign of that email yet?

LoniceraJaponica · 30/09/2018 23:13

Selling it would be the stupidest thing to do Hmm

Just get ride of it in the ex friend's bin

CoughLaughFart · 30/09/2018 23:45

I’d love to know which police forces are sending officers out over a bag of weed.

Original poster
Starleaf · 01/10/2018 00:03

Just flushed weed down the toilet and stuck other bits in the bin.
No email yet, but who knows what tomorrow will bring?

OP posts:
GabsAlot · 01/10/2018 00:04

i was joking

Ginkypig · 01/10/2018 01:08

Glad your home safe.

She will be livid that she lost her weed and grinder Grin

BerylStreep · 01/10/2018 08:25

OP, my question about the amount of effort you had gone to for your friend's birthday was not a criticism of you, but I was wondering if it was reciprocated or if it was indicative of a dynamic where you felt the need to do more and more elaborate measures to stroke her ego rather than face the fall out. I see you have answered the question.

It seems to have hit a nerve with some other posters. Hmm

BerylStreep · 01/10/2018 08:29

And OP, I honestly wouldn't hang around waiting for an email. She will just try to twist things to justify her appalling behaviour to you.

I'd try to set up a rule that it goes into spam or auto forwards back to her as some other pps have suggested. I really like the idea of the auto reply.

KathDayKnight50 · 01/10/2018 08:47

Just flushed weed down the toilet

I hope she comes asking for it so you can tell her to go to the police if she's not happy Grin