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Holiday fall out

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Starleaf · 26/09/2018 18:32

Ok so I'm on holiday abroad with a friend and her two late teen children. It was my friends birthday yesterday, I packed birthday banners and ordered a cake and a bottle of fizz for her from the hotel. We went on a special day trip that I knew she wanted to do. Got back to hotel got ready for dinner and a night out, maybe a dance bar. All good so far. We had a lovely meal and decided to have a walk and find a bar. We passed several that were either showing football or boxing. Almost at the end of the strip we came to a place that was busy, playing music with people dancing. Just as we went in a song I love came on and I went to dance beckoning for my friend to follow. She didn't so when the song finished I went back to join her and asked if she'd like a drink. She said she didn't like the bar and was leaving.
I'll admit I wad pissed off at this point and walked out with my friend and kids following. I didn't walk fast but she hung back and the three of them stopped at a market, so I was on my own. I got back to our room (2 bed apt) and went to the bathroom. When I came out one of her kids was sleeping in her bed, and she'd gone to the other bedroom. I asked her why and she suddenly became very angry. She said as it was her birthday I should have done everything she wanted.
She has since told me she doesn't want anything more to do with me, I spoiled her birthday and that our friendship is finished.
I told her she was behaving immaturely. We haven't really spoken since, and they've now gone out for dinner leaving me in the room.
AIBU to think she'd had the whole day doing what she wanted, could she not have stayed at the bar for one drink, and has she over reacted?

OP posts:
Starleaf · 09/10/2018 16:53

No email, looks as though she's not going to send one, unless she's waiting until I least expect it!
I marked her email address as spam. Just checked, nothing.
No I think she's not going to send one now, but if she does I'll post and let you know.

OP posts:
SpoonBlender · 09/10/2018 17:25

Thumsb up for that - I'm still intrigued anyway!

flowergrrl77 · 09/10/2018 17:31

Thanks for the update xx

Tinkerbell1980 · 10/10/2018 05:29

Thanks OP, hope you're ok x

honeyrider · 20/10/2018 01:10

OP has she contacted you since or have you heard anything about her from mutual friends?

Starleaf · 20/10/2018 13:10

honeyrider no there has been no contact from friend, or her 19yr old daughter who called me her second mum.
I messaged the 21yr old earlier today explaining that it would possibly be for the best if we were no longer friends on FB.
I know my friend and feel she may ask daughter for info about me. That would put her in a difficult and unfair position, which is what happened on holiday when she was made to share a bedroom with me.
I wished her luck in the future and asked that I hoped she understood my position.
She has replied thanking me, wishing my family well saying she understands.
As for mutual friends, there are none. Friend fell out with our two other close friends last year, and has lost touch with others I still see.
I do feel sad when I think of her, we'd been through a lot together, but it is what it is and she is now in my past.

OP posts:
cushioncovers · 20/10/2018 13:26

Thanks for the update op.

Maisymoo22 · 20/10/2018 19:50

Thanks for the update Starleaf.
Such a shame when a friendship comes to an end but it seems it’s for the best considering her appalling behaviour on holiday.
It’s good that her daughter understands but I feel sorry for her as she’s stuck with her mother and her antics.
All the best for the fabulous holidays you’re going to have minus your ex friend.

beanaseireann · 21/10/2018 09:03

I echo Maisie Moos sentiments.

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