Why are some families so loud!!

[Childlessstepmum15]

Why are some families so loud? I mean why do yet have to shout when speaking to each other and generally have no regard for others? We’re staying in a lovely quiet self catering house in south devon, there is a large garden and shared pool with two other cottages. The people in the middle cottage are like us, a family of four, enjoying themselves,having fun but not shouting at the top of their lungs. Family in end cottage, three pasty kids singing loudly, screaming, unable to have a quiet conversation.

It’s the same in restaurants, we’re always sitting next to the loudest people in there 😂😂

God help me! AIBU and a grouchy old cow?

Because theyre not as good as your family

We stayed in a hotel/apartment complex in Spain a few years ago, and it was full of noisy shouty families who just yelled at each other the whole time. It wasn’t a cheap week away either. Our neighbours at home are really noisy as well so we deliberately book very antisocial holidays now it means self catering all the way, but I don’t mind. We even check properties on google earth to see how overlooked they are before booking.

My sister's family do this. The children shout rather than talk, she talks very loudly and so does the dad. Everything they play on tv or phone is really loud too. I think they're all deaf.

My family is blended and therefore far from perfect but we do have respect for those around us. We’re staying in one cottage of three on a remote farm, what’s the chances?

50%

I don't know, but I've got a load of them staying in my house right now. My anxiety levels are through the roof, they literally scream morning, noon and night.

I dunno but my boys have inherited DH’s ‘why speak normally when a shout is so much better’ mentality!

They are currently having a conversation from the pool (about 70 meters away) and mum in the front garden about coming in for tea. I’ve just taken a call from a woman in Edinburgh asking them to keep it down as they can’t hear their tele.

My son has a loud voice, as do I. No idea why. DP is kind of loud too.

DHs family are like this. It’s very stressful. Nobody listens to each other do they just get louder and louder. Nobody notices that I just don’t speak when I’m there.

@ariawa you’re funny

DH's family are loud. They all shout/talk over each other. They're not nasty, just used to talking like this. I have to tell DH to turn it down sometimes when we're out, he's totally unaware.

And when I say scream I mean blood curdling someone is being murdered screaming. Not just regular kids noises.

Also the constant dad dad dad dad dad dad dad... to get his attention. They don't pause between words to give him any chance to respond.

@sexnotgender that sounds terrible. I hate house guests, I’m officially an anti social recluse who much prefers quiet and a good book.

We are on holiday in Corfu at the moment in a lovely, small apartment with a pool. 2 residents bring the 13 members of their family every day who take over all the beds, shout and scream all day. We feel your pain. They remarked how quiet our kids were. I had to bite my tongue to stop saying it was because they simply had respect for others.

@childlessstepmum15 I hear you (forgive the pun) - but its people in general not just families!!

It is pretty dreadful! I'm really struggling but as they're my husbands family I need to smile and play nice.

Did I mention they are staying for 3 weeks?!!

3 pasty kids who sing?

My Dad and brothers all shout instead of speak! It drives me and my DSM mad. If I'm on the phone to my Dad DH can hear him down the line from the next room.

I've no idea why they do it. None of them are elderly (Dad mid fifties, one brother early thirties and the other early twenties) and none of them have hearing issues. They just speak loudly and have deep voices that really carry. I don't have this problem.

I'm forever saying 'I'm right next to you, you don't need to shout' at the dinner table but have yet to have an effect on them!

Some people are just noisier than others I guess.

As luckycat007 says, there are loud people in generally.
I totally agree with you though, I really dislike loud people.

I’m a quiet person and I hate noise and often ask myself why people are so loud in public places. But then I’m not a massive fan of people anyway!

My worst nightmare having noisy people around me. On holiday next door shouted 'it's raining' from inside their room. So I shouted back 'thanks for letting us know' they kept it down since.

I live in a cottag in south Devon in a very similar set up to described . If it is us (and my dc’s very definitely fall into the pasty category!) then I apologise. Dc1 is autistic and dc2 copies everything he does so they do make an absolute racket. Also we were trying to put our tent up in the garden this afternoon too see if it’s all still there whilst also trying to stop dc1 and 2 running into the sides of it while we were erecting it.

Sorry if it is us! We are the only residents here though and half the time there’s no one in the cottages so it doesn’t matter if w make a racket.

three pasty kids singing loudly, screaming, unable to have a quiet conversation.

YANBU op, I haaaaate loud, uncouth fuckers like this. We have a family of them three/four doors down. They also have a yappy little dog, a warbling teenage girl and always some kind of annoying thing in the garden (a trampoline, an inflatable pool thing) around which they all congregate and happily roar at each other for hours.

I burn to turn the hose on them.

I’m sure there are plenty of other areas in South Devon that have a similar set up though aren’t there? Probably?