Why are some families so loud!!

[Childlessstepmum15]

Why are some families so loud? I mean why do yet have to shout when speaking to each other and generally have no regard for others? We’re staying in a lovely quiet self catering house in south devon, there is a large garden and shared pool with two other cottages. The people in the middle cottage are like us, a family of four, enjoying themselves,having fun but not shouting at the top of their lungs. Family in end cottage, three pasty kids singing loudly, screaming, unable to have a quiet conversation.

It’s the same in restaurants, we’re always sitting next to the loudest people in there 😂😂

God help me! AIBU and a grouchy old cow?

YANBU - I can't bear unnecessarily loud people.

me, just I need to shout initially so he knows I am there

I’m sure that doesn’t happen constantly though, enough to constitute you being a loud family. Even if it a couple of times a day where you have to loudly shout his name to get his attention, that’s not a loud family.

I have a family like that living next door. Despite the fact their garden is quite small, they all - children, parents, friends, dogs - all yell, shout and scream at each other at the tops of their voices. All bloody day. The children are 11 and 13, so old enough to be able to moderate the noise at times, but the shrieking that goes on....dear God, it's ear-splitting. At some point towards the end of the afternoon, there'll inevitably be one of them that bursts into noisy wailing sobs as well. They broke up from school for the summer yesterday, and I'm dreading the next six weeks.

I don't know whether some people don't realise how loud they are, or if it's because they just don't care.

AWomen - no it’s not constant, but it’s a few times a day. I.e. ‘Dinner!’ Or ‘Leaving in half an hour!’ Or ‘your mum is on the phone!’.
That sort of thing. And kids are running around playing with the dogs. But I would rather that than indoors on screens.

We don’t swear or anything. But sometimes my mum thinks me and DH are arguing when actually we are just deciding something together 😁

Supercali - maybe we should try and move next door to each other and all be loud together 😊

Abbey - We do realise and We do care! I do what I can. Read my posts and I have hopefully explained why some families are louder!

We are quite noisy I'm afraid but it's nothing to the Greek family I was an au pair for when I was a student. I thought they were in danger of imminent divorce when I first arrived, then realised after learning some Greek that they were asking who wanted a cheese pastry.

Ploppymoodypants - point taken, but I was despairing at my own particular next-door bete noir. They don't have any of those particular reasons, they're just bloody loud and make no effort to moderate the volume. And it's constant. We're one day into the summer holidays and I have another six weeks of this ahead.

Urgh, I'm with you OP. Same with couples - if you're just talking to one other person across the table in a quiet restaurant there's no need to talk so that people on other tables can hear.
I had to move my blanket in the park the other day as 2 girls were just shouting their conversation at each other despite sitting a metre away from each other

Oh noisy people are so annoying!

I really feel your pain OP, especially as you are on holiday. It’s not just the noise it’s hearing the detail of their lives as well as the bad language.

Noisy people have noisy children as well, nightmare.

We had 'torture family' above us in a hotel attached to a pub in Betws-y-Coed in Wales a few years ago.
Creaky floorboards and one of them would pace up and down from 3am until 7am EVERY single day!
We couldn't move as they were fully booked and noisy family didn't want to move.
I could have cried!

I live in the West Country and read "pasty" as pastie (ie the food). 😜😂😂

Sometimes people are just loud and they don't even realise. We have a woman at work like this and it used to wind me up but now I've got to know her I can see she's not doing it on purpose and would be mortified if she thought she'd been disturbing my work.

Others know full well they're being loud and disturbing the peace but they're selfish and think that they have the right to enjoy themselves whether it inconveniences others or not.

When you are in close proximity to other people you need to be aware of how your actions affect others a bit so that everyone has a good time.

Noisy familes ruined our holiday in Menorca in June. We specifically chose that hotel because we went last year and it was quiet. It would have been this year too had it not have been for about 5 families. It was all too much for them to lift their arses off a sun lounger and actually walk to their kids in the pool who were screeching and shouting at the top of their voices. If that wasn’t enough one family would play football at midnight in the corridor outside our room while the mother shouted “SSSHHHHHH” at the top of her lungs. It was like being on holiday with my sister and her family but I choose not to spend time with them.

It’s so bloody selfish.

Noisy people absolutely rile me stupid!
It's called COMMON COURTESY people!!!!

I'm all for people having fun and stuff but I have ALWAYS told my kids to keep the noise down because not everyone wants to listen to them.

I'm looking at you neighbours 👀😡

The first time we went camping was the first time we realised how loud our oldest son was - voice like a foghorn.
Thankfully he’s learned to control it but he’s brilliant if you need to get someone’s attention. He can really project !
Can’t stand inconsiderate, needless shouting though.

We have friends known as The Whispering Family and that can be equally challenging especially in the car with them.
We used to do a lift share to school and my kids would find it really stressful as they couldn’t hear a word my friend and her children were saying.
My children were constantly demanding hearing tests as a result.

We've got neighbours like this OP. They've always got music on.... loudly. Gardening, in the garage, sat outside, cleaning cars..... boom boom boom. They've constantly got visitors...... who are either shouting in the garden over the boom boom boom or beeping their horns goodbye. And they love having BBQs that go on until 2/3am..... and guess what, their guests get louder and louder with the drink and so does the boom boom boom. The poor lady that lives behind them is tearing her hair out..... she's been very unwell with heart problems and she's finding it hard to deal with. She can't sit outside or have a window open as their patio backs onto the neighbours. I genuinely don't think they have a clue about how much noise they are constantly making. I'm all for enjoying the summer and your home but this is incessant.

My husband is so loud. He just plays loud and gets the kids so overexcited all the time. But they love it.

Stop being so judgemental.

I'm on the other end very quiet and cuddly with the kids. We're all different

Yeah, we don't have music on, the TV is never loud, and normal conversations aren't loud.
But DS is horrendously impulsive (SEN) so even if he's trying to be quiet he forgets and shouts.
DD is 4 and a drama queen (we went to a party today and she was crying her eyes out because the big boys were being mean - we saw them run past and shout to each other but no more than that)
And DH and I sadly are not immune to getting wound up.
Ironically DH has a very quiet voice normally!

I struggle with noisy people so YADNBU. Me, DH, and dc1 are quiet. Then Dc2 came along and his voice is lovely but so loud and clear. We were walking along recently and i realised we'd become a loud family as the rest of us were shouting to be heard over dc2. The horror!!

My family give my husband really and anxiety

We’re loud. 14 people in one house growing up so you can imagine the noise. My husband is an only child who was also very neglected so meeting my family was a huge culture shock for him.

Our kids have taken after me

Sorry I disappeared, I went and hid in the kitchen to feed my own less loud family. I have nothing against people enjoying themselves, as long as they're not spoiling others enjoyment for 10 hours a day!

As for pasty, not the food variety, sorry my annoyance at them turned into a mild criticism. I'm so glad I stopped short of my first thoughts, i'd have been hung out to dry by the mumsnet police!

Nothing worse than the show off mum in the supermarket/school run/wherever, talking loudly to child so everyone can hear about how "they must promise to do well in your Oxford entrance exam (aged 6)" or "darling would you like distilled horribly expensive sparkling water or just distilled horribly expensive still", either way look how horribly important we all are.

My kids shout, but they're a lovely brown colour, so can we come for dinner?

@OKMaybeNot - yes the more the merrier. I'll invite the pasty's in too for pasties, but no showing off that you're tanned and they aren't.

One of my neighbours is also a total foghorn especially when on the phone. It’s like a Dom Joly sketch, not helped by the fact he seems to conduct all phone conversations in the garden. Me and dd know the gruesome details of his testical issues now.

I find it wierd that loads of people are happy they are loud like it's a badge of honour.

Try living next door to you(I dont)

Respect your neighbours and try not to be too loud otherwise you might be the scumbag neighbour posted about on a future thread on here.