Why are some families so loud!!

[Childlessstepmum15]

Why are some families so loud? I mean why do yet have to shout when speaking to each other and generally have no regard for others? We’re staying in a lovely quiet self catering house in south devon, there is a large garden and shared pool with two other cottages. The people in the middle cottage are like us, a family of four, enjoying themselves,having fun but not shouting at the top of their lungs. Family in end cottage, three pasty kids singing loudly, screaming, unable to have a quiet conversation.

It’s the same in restaurants, we’re always sitting next to the loudest people in there 😂😂

God help me! AIBU and a grouchy old cow?

Urgh so many typos. Sorry. Good luck making sense of that!

Ploppy thank you for your excellent reply! You are right, of course.

Some people couldn't care less and never consider others. Hate loud shouty people. Even my 20+ sons remarked how shouty a family were whilst we had lunch out recently

Our kids are noisy. We have four kids and two of them especially are incapable of being quite. I really do try to get them to be quieter especially when we are out for dinner. Sometimes by the end of the day I feel like my ears are bleeding.

I thought about this thread this morning as my children were playing/screaming/laughing. They are so loud and tbh apart from telling them to keep their noise down and explain why, I’m not really sure what else you can do apart from constantly reinforce it. The children have acknowledged that they are loud and also show some understanding as to why (they are all quite young). But when the excitement kicks in then they have totally forgotten how to be quiet.
Families can be loud but remember most of those families are trying to keep the noise down. Also people have different ideas of what they perceive as noisy. If someone is used to living in a rural area and they visit an urban area they can’t stand the noise whereas residents of an urban area are used to it, for example an owl may wake me whereas a police cars siren wouldn’t phase me.

They are so loud and tbh apart from telling them to keep their noise down and explain why, I’m not really sure what else you can do apart from constantly reinforce it

No one is asking you to do more than that. If you’re constantly reinforcing it effectively, the message will sink in.

Respect is a very broad term, I've seen quiet kids be totally disrespectful brats, and I've seen loud kids be highly respectful but just loud. Now if you ASK them to quiet down after 10pm and they don't it would be disrespectful but otherwise I thinks it's disrespectful to try and control the actions of others when your on vacay ... But I get it.... No one likes screaming kids in the halls and rooms. I'd look for a VRBO for your next trip. That's the point of them . It's all I will stay in now after getting tired of noisy hotels and condos but honestly that's on me...it's their vacation too :)

I also dislike loud people 🤣 why can’t they just dial the volume down?