Why are some families so loud!!

[Childlessstepmum15]

Why are some families so loud? I mean why do yet have to shout when speaking to each other and generally have no regard for others? We’re staying in a lovely quiet self catering house in south devon, there is a large garden and shared pool with two other cottages. The people in the middle cottage are like us, a family of four, enjoying themselves,having fun but not shouting at the top of their lungs. Family in end cottage, three pasty kids singing loudly, screaming, unable to have a quiet conversation.

It’s the same in restaurants, we’re always sitting next to the loudest people in there 😂😂

God help me! AIBU and a grouchy old cow?

I’m loud. I mean not always and not on purpose but my voice it comes out loud and I don’t even hear it as loud. My mum from a young age has had to tell me to lower the volume. I do try to speak quieter but I requires literally thinking about it constantly so in certain situations like in a church or a meeting etc I do think very carefully and make a huge effort to keep the volume down but when our socially I tend to forget and end up being loud. I am not deliberately trying to annoy anyone or be disrespectful and I am not actually full blown shouting but my voice seems to come out loud. It’s actually a horrid thing, I hate it because it makes me self conscious and not want to talk when I first meet people in case they think I’m one of those horrid loud in your face people. The only trade off is that it means I have some serious pipes for singing with but even then...I think it’d trade my singing ability for a quieter voice if I could.

We've got a neighbour in a house behind us (so not even our nearest neighbour by any means) that we always call Loud Dad because he is just that.

He's not angry shouty, just fecking loud and a bit of a performance parent too which makes me wonder if he does it on purpose.

You inverted snob !

My NDN are like this. All conversation is in high volume, the youngest child communicates almost exclusively in whiney-screech and both kids scream when playing out. I have never once heard either parent tell the kids to keep the noise down. We live in a semi-detached, I once answered one of the neighbour kids when they yelled 'Mum!!' thinking it was one of mine.

It's horribly inconsiderate.

The loud family in our street has gone off on their annual holiday. It's the best time of year!No kids shrieking in the garden from 6.30 am, no radio day and night in the garden, no stupid moped engines, no drunk shouting outside. God... it's amazing what a difference their absence makes. It's so nice just to hear normal volume noises from everyone outside enjoying their gardens.

They suggested I train my cats not to sit by the fence as it drove the dog mad hmm.

Because my oldest has partial hearing in one ear, the middle check has
ASD and the youngest child is 3.

And we have Italian ancestry.

Hope that helps. Sorry for ruining everything!

*child not check 🤦🏼‍♀️

You had me until you said “pasty kids”. You now sound like an arse

Pandarific - YANBU op, I haaaaate loud, uncouth fuckers like this

Oh the irony .......

lolll

loud uncouth fuckers . Ummmm.

You have my greatest sympathy. Bad enough having to put up with this if at home but on holiday - nightmare. Don't think there is anywhere nowadays where you won't find shouters and screamers. Where I live there isn't a child who doesnt scream when playing. Think the adults are too busy on their phone to notice. I certainly couldn't put up with my kids making that noise. It's all me, me, me. I want, want, want so no one can stop me doing what I want.

I'm a very quiet talker. I know because people often tell me me to speak up. I've always told my children to talk quietly when in public. I hate families who shout and yell at each other with no consideration for people around. Especially in restaurants. It's ignorant.

I think it’s arrogance too. It’s rarely people talking about anything other than THEMSELVES and what’s going on in their lives.i recently had to ask someone to please speak a bit more quietly. He was on the phone banging on about how important he was so loudly that we couldn’t hear each other speak on our table because of his noiise from the other side of the cafe.

YANBU.

Try living next door to a family like this. They dont talk, they shout, just make it more interesting, ever second word is a swear word, that includes the kids. The kids are out in the garden shouting and screaming at each other until midnight, when the kids give up and go to bed, the parents start arguing, this goes on until 4am most nights.

I'd welcome only putting up with this for a week or two a year!!

Maybe they are a little loud, maybe they’re having fun- pasty or not (does complexion matter).
Meanwhile, you’re on your phone- ignoring your family.
I know who’s group I’d rather be holidaying with.....

It is a bit common though. Nobody wants to hear a loud booming voice asking their kids what they want for tea ffs.

My Dad is completely deaf in one ear. He speaks very loud and therefore we learnt to speak loud too.
I’d just like to remind you,
If you can be anything, be kind.

DH's large family are like this, especially when all the siblings are together- it drives me insane.

A conversation can start out at a normal level, and then things just get louder and louder and LOUDER as people compete to be heard over their brothers and sisters shouting.

I agree with a previous poster that it comes off slightly arrogantly- as if what the loud person has to say is of course so important/amusing/intelligent that obviously it should be easily heard by neighbours in the next street.

My kids are very loud. We’re not inconsiderate though and do try our hardest to keep the noise down.
Pasty kids comment is totally unacceptable and seems as though you are attempting stereotyping them. Very nasty to comment on another child’s skin colour.

I suspect they catch it off TV presenters, particularly children's presenters. Lauren Layfield! Jockin' Hell! STOP SHOUTING YOU OAF

I think the world in general has got much louder over the last few decades. So people feel they have to compete with everyone,and everything else,to be heard.

@nice, can I ask why you speak quietly? Is it deliberate?

Because they are having fun. You might like to try it sometime. HTH.

We're probably quite a loud family. DP is partially deaf so naturally kind of shouts when he speaks, I do try to tell him but to him that's just normal volume. I tend to speak reasonably loudly and try to be quite articulate as otherwise he says 'what?' ALL the time. Also we have a nearly one year old who I'm constantly chatting to and playing with, and she giggled and yells 'dadada' a lot. So yeah, we probably are loud. Oops.