Why are some families so loud!!

[Childlessstepmum15]

Why are some families so loud? I mean why do yet have to shout when speaking to each other and generally have no regard for others? We’re staying in a lovely quiet self catering house in south devon, there is a large garden and shared pool with two other cottages. The people in the middle cottage are like us, a family of four, enjoying themselves,having fun but not shouting at the top of their lungs. Family in end cottage, three pasty kids singing loudly, screaming, unable to have a quiet conversation.

It’s the same in restaurants, we’re always sitting next to the loudest people in there 😂😂

God help me! AIBU and a grouchy old cow?

I don't care if people are 'naturally' loud or not.
It's common courtesy to respect people around you.

Loud people who consider themselves to be oh so jolly and exuberant might remember that others around them might find the noise stressful or they might be in poor health and need some peace and quiet. Nobody expect others to be as quiet as mice, but it is very rude and inconsiderate to be so loud, particularly during the night or by playing loud music everywhere.

When I was on holiday in wales recently, there was a group of extremely loud, excitable people walking down the high street towards the castle. Passers by were 😮 and stopped to watch, they were that loud. They were Americans and lived up to their reputation 😂 their poor tour guide was having a hell of a time trying to herd them into the castle.

It’s a sign of disrespect and lack of manners and awareness of others. Everyone has the choice some just choose not to exercise it.

I find people to be very brash nowadays. Music volume in shops is increasing as well. It used to be low key muzac type stuff, but now it dominates.

I left Next today because of the music volume in the changing rooms, was like a bloody nightclub. I almost complained as I left but decided maybe I’m just a grumpy old cow.

I think you're considerably richer than them OP

This is why my family always lived / holidayed at the end of a dirt track in the middle of nowhere.

At least we are considerate, loud people...

I would also say that we aren't really intentionally loud, we just have, erm, 'carrying' voices and think that we are far more interesting than anyone else in our family and therefore try to talk over them while they try to do the same to us.

I think this is getting more and more common (and "common") people shouting at each other or speaking REALLY loudly. I can't stand it and hear myself muttering to myself on a daily basis "shut the fuck up"

I used to live next door to loud people. They had only one volume, and the mother would have her phone conversations in the garden at top volume.

But the best bit was her DH who used to shout "Tina - where's me trousers" from the loft room down to her in the garden. And she would shout back.

They then got a yappy dog, who barked at my cats all day and they shouted at the dog "Fucking shut up" which would work for all of 2 mins, before he started barking again.

They suggested I train my cats not to sit by the fence as it drove the dog mad .

Well yes some people are too loud but then I have to say
I find people who speak really quietly really bloody annoying! I know one lady who I have to lean in towards her and frequently ask her to repeat what she said because I she's so bloody quiet. A grown woman. An l lovely nice intelligent woman. Like a bloody mouse. WHY?????

Lorelai - this is me and DH! We are loud, we just are. And so are DC. We are not inconsiderate or unaware or rude, or aggressive and sweaty. We are just a loud, excitable, gregarious, enthusiastic, busy family who have lots to say to each other. It’s just who we are and I can’t repress our personalities 100% of the time.
But we do try really hard to be considerate, to the extent you do. Like saving hard for detached house away from neighbours as much as we can afford, and trying to take DC’s to outside places where it is appropriate to be noisy.
I don’t have loud music though.

I think this is getting more and more common (and "common") people shouting at each other or speaking REALLY loudly. I can't stand it and hear myself muttering to myself on a daily basis "shut the fuck up

Me too regularly thinking to myself this font get to me people on their phones with volume up watching videos ect.

People are are alike it's ok I'm loud no it isn't quiet down and respect others please.

Sweary! Not sweaty 😁

We are a family of introverts, except for my eldest, inexplicable social butterfly daughter. My idea of an excellent vacation would be a cottage in a cemetery.

I'm partly deaf in one ear and make a serious effort to keep my voice down, particularly on the telephone. I know how awful loud people are as I have to wear headphones at work to concentrate. I deliberately try to make my voice low and if I need to go somewhere where I need to hear, rather than ask someone to speak louder, I wear my free NHS hearing aid. I live in a rural cottage but still use subtitles on the TV as I don't want to deafen the dogs! 😂

My DH’s family are from North Africa and their set point is shouting. I can’t bear it. Inside voices are anathema to them.

Apparently I insulted some of DH’s friends and family because they came to see us the day I came out of hospital after having DS 2 (by c-section) and I withdrew upstairs for a lie down after an hour. Well perhaps it wasn’t so much the withdrawing as me shouting from the top of the stairs at DH “I don’t give a shit if they’ve come to see us, I can’t stay in there if they won’t shut the fuck up”. Sorrynotsorry, I had asked numerous times for them to keep it down and request fell on deaf ears pun intended and I was not in the best way so fuck’um.

Everybody can modify the volume of their speech if they choose to. Their is no excuse to be inconsiderate.

There not their- sheesh.

I once taught a kid with a loud carrying voice over 3 years. Each combination of class he was in was painfully loud as everyone else ended up projecting loudly in order to have a conversation with the person next to them. One very hot day when the windows and doors were all open to prevent us all steaming to death, my colleague got fed up of the sound of his voice (even though he wasn't being particularly loud by his standards) and came and fished him out to their classroom on the opposite side of the block, their voice carrying so far.

Hearing impairment being a factor is understandable, although I struggle with Auditory Processing and shouting, like whispering is harder to understand than clear talking as the sound and lip movements distort.

The world is getting louder. I recently had a bloody boring meal out as apparently the loud music in a restaurant was on 1 as low as it would go and the staff weren't allowed to turn it off Yeah, great fun sitting in your own conversation-less bubble because you can't follow the conversation of the people on your table. I so love going out with people to be left unable to chat with them.

Phone conversations frequently amaze me too. So often people walk past my house on the opposite side of the road (plus generous verges) and I can clearly hear their side of the conversation. Worse are the people who pull up for calls in their cars, and I can hear the whole lot being broadcast on hands free

I've now dredged up the ancient memories of having a thin wall between me and a foghorn housemate in halls... it was a long year!

@Ploppymoodypants

Sounds familiar! I really do try to keep it down at work but it feels unnatural, like whispering all the time!

Of course, they love it when they need someone to give a presentation to a large group!

I always wonder why some families are so quiet! I'm jealous! Our dc are very noisy, talking seems to be shouting or shrieking, there's seldom any quiet ever. It's exhausting and we do keep trying to keep the noise down. Dd1 has ASD and no volume control, also she doesn't stop talking so everyone else speaks more trying to get a word in. We are working on it - I don't want to be a shouty family.

Honestly I would just be grateful your family are so lovely and well behaved!

Lorelai - yep always at work. Someone needs to give a presention to a large group, or round up the children in the play park, call the dogs from far away, general outside communication etc. Then I am your women. They all want me then 😁

So it's definitely not always a bad thing as long as we live far away from civilisation and use our powers for good!

awful. I don't know why people are like this.

however, the idea of being louder to ask people to quieten down is batshit.

We're really shouty at home, yelling from room to room, sometimes arguing and often playing loud music. It's just the way we are but we're never like this in public. I share your irritation.

This is my life; daily; with my normal neighbours
They hold conversations - shouting - from the garden to the front room - and don’t even get me started on the 5am garden playtime from their 2 children ..... I itch to switch the hose on every weekend! Ha
Wouldn’t dream of letting my dd disturb the neighbours like they / their kids do