Why are some families so loud!!

[Childlessstepmum15]

Why are some families so loud? I mean why do yet have to shout when speaking to each other and generally have no regard for others? We’re staying in a lovely quiet self catering house in south devon, there is a large garden and shared pool with two other cottages. The people in the middle cottage are like us, a family of four, enjoying themselves,having fun but not shouting at the top of their lungs. Family in end cottage, three pasty kids singing loudly, screaming, unable to have a quiet conversation.

It’s the same in restaurants, we’re always sitting next to the loudest people in there 😂😂

God help me! AIBU and a grouchy old cow?

I think maybe they watch too much Eastenders! Everybody shouts on that programme. I can’t watch, it’s too shouty.

It depends on the loud doesn't it?

Loud in restaurants - not ok.

Shouting arguments especially if aggressive - absolutely not ok.

But kids singing loudly outdoors on holiday? Objecting to that is beyond churlish! Do you tell your kids not to sing incase it annoys someone, when out in the garden during the day? I'd hate anyone to tell their kids not to make happy noise outdoors in a holiday cottage garden in the day because of me. Joy sucker doesn't even begin to cover that, that's not respecting others it's nasty.

Presumably they're pasty because they have pale skin or live somewhere they can't usually play outside. The poor sods might be bubbling over with excitement at the space and fresh air and comparative freedom of the holiday cottage location, not knowing their neighbors is pursuing her lips about pasty kids singing...

I know a family who do this and the parents are loud also. i think the kids have to be loud to make themselves heard! Of sort of join in...

At least it sounds like they are enjoying themselves

Op it's blueskies, she's your neighbour

DH's family are like that. There is a bit of an underlying arrogance in there that is "well of course people don't mind us because we're so wonderful".
I sit there and wince.

But part of it is that the people round them are noisy, so they increase the noise to be heard... and no one ever tells them to be quiet. If it's ever commented on then they just say "oh we're just noisy, can't help it".
If anyone discovers a volume control/off switch that can be added to adults I'll happily pay for that for them.

Queen I'm not on holiday, and my kids have dark Mediterranean skin, so I'm happy in the knowledge that she isn't!

about somebody pursueing their lips

The people that annoy me the most are LOUD SHOPPERS. It's so unnecessary to stand in front of the freezers, shouting ' WE NEED MORE LOLLIES! DO WE? NO NOT THOSE ONES! HOW ABOUT THE OWN BRAND ? OH LOOK ! ROCKET LOLLIES!' I really did not need to know this at 9.55 am whilst innocently buying my petits pois.

I am a teacher. Kids are getting louder, Definitely. I also think it's regional. People talk loudly where I live. I reckon it's traffic noise and higher population density or something... I have certainly never heard my NDNs say 'shush'

Curious as to why the fact they are 'pasty' has anything to do with noise levels ?

Pasty? Pale?

My neighbours a few doors down are like this. The mothers screeches like a banshee at all hours. Most often fighting with her boyfriend and yelling obscenities at her kids.

It’s draining. We’re totally unable to sit in our garden and have any type of peace. She likes to have phone conversations outside also and the other day we were treated to her shouting and swearing at her ex who was on the phone.

I don’t want to hear her airing her dirty linen for the street to hear, I don’t want my dc learning such choice language. Even DH (the most placid and laid back person ever) has nick named her “the foghorn”

Oops user but presumably she's pursuing them as they flee, singing loudly, desperate to escape being clamped disapprovingly together for the rest of their lives...

One of the running themes of my childhood was my mum telling my dad “I’m right next to you, you don’t need to shout” and he would always shout say “I’m not shouting!” in his head he was just talking but he was so loud it was painful to Be right beside him. I am really noise sensitive which doesn’t help. I love peace and quiet.

You should try camping - i honestly dont kniw whats worse. The pasty shreiking kud family or the loud parenting hipsters!

I honestly would holiday atop mount everest if i thought i could get away from people - its just a shame i have to consider other members of the family!

You don't have to be loud to enjoy yourself. It's not churlish to wish noisy fuckers would shut the fuck up once in a while and have just a smidgem of consideration for other people who don't want to hear their every waking thought from morn till night. YANBU or a grouchy cow!

The kids at the end of my garden SCREAM constantly on their frigging trampoline. The kids on the other side of the fence just laugh and giggle like kids do, but there's a world of difference. One is kids being kids, no problemo. The other is borderline anti-social behaviour. I have every sympathy, OP.

We had a family like this on holiday. All talked loudly and incessantly and over each other. They took ages to make the simplest decision because all of them were talking and nobody did any listening. Except us...

This was my exact thoughts yesterday. In a supermarket. The whole family shouting & causing a scene for absolutely no reason. Just talk to each other normally. It was so attention seeking. Even my LO rolled her eyes. I like to blend into the background so it's such bizarre behaviour for me. They made complete fools of themselves but they literally don't see it. It's like they are proud of everyone staring bewildered at them.

On holiday next door shouted 'it's raining' from inside their room. So I shouted back 'thanks for letting us know' they kept it down since.

I'm from a loud family. One of my Mums friends remembers me and Dsis standing on chairs to shout (over v loud Ddad, loudly holding forth) eg: "CAN I HAVE SOME JUICE PLEASE"
As PP have said, it's a case of having to be loud to get heard over everyone else.
Ddad later got diagnoses as deaf and it all made sense.

What does them being pasty have to do with anything?

YANBU. I hate it when people are unnecessarily loud.

I swear some people do it because a) They think they are so super important b) Literally don't give a fuck about others c) Don't realise (or care) how noisy they are

It's so fucking rude

Sounds dreadful. Even with a big family I was always working on the assumption that my lot were driving everyone else mad and so kept them in order . They probably think you should be delighted that their little darlings are so spirited.

I like this post !!!

We are a loud family. Loud DH with a loud noisey job he sometimes does from from home, loud dogs, excitable children and I am loud, and also always shouting at dogs and everyone else to be quieter. The thing is though, we do try really hard to be considerate (purposely saved up hard for a detached house to try and spare neighbours) and make huge attempts on holiday and in restaurants and in public etc to be quiet. But it’s draining and not relaxing sonspouls holdiay. But I am partially deaf anyway and can’t hear a thing in a restaurant or pub unless everyone else speaks up and looks directly at me. And also unfortunately it’s just our personality and it’s really exhausting trying to be someone we are not all the time. So sometimes we just want to relax and be ourselves, in our own home. We do try and go to places we can be loud, such as the beach or walks in woods etc. Luckily we are outdoorsy. If anyone had a solution to change our personalities to be ‘quiet’ then do tell me.
For what it’s worth I struggle with very softly spoken people, I can’t hear them or lip read as sometimes they are mumbling or not looking at me. And no matter how many times you explain you are partially deaf and can they speak up, they tend to do about 1 word louder word and then fade out again. (Because it’s just who they are) It takes so much of my concentration to understand them, (like it takes so much of their energy to speak up and clearly) I usually just end up zoning out as I can’t maintain that level of concentration for more than a few minutes.