Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!? Continued

[Biscusting]

Lost the other thread, can’t believe it filled up so fast.
CF ex friend has sent further message to say how sad she is about the loss of our long standing friendship, all she can do is try her best under difficult circumstances...

Thank you everyone for helping me form measured responses.

Now is it possible to block someone from sending messages or calling?

Scrubs, you will notice that the op hasn’t posted about it for 4 days.

I agree completely with @Failingatforty

"I would not send her the link. You know she has mental health problems, which whilst not being an excuse for her nasty review, could result in a crisis if she feels publicly shamed.

She did something unpleasant that her your feelings but the whole thing really needs to end now. She could end up self-harming or similar otherwise."

The woman is now in a living nightmare, with the threads here calling her names, television discussing it like they know anything about the people involved and gutter press. This would destroy anyone, whether they had made a mistake or not.

MH is very complex and difficulties can manifest themselves in all sorts of ways. Who is anyone to judge? OP needs to take some action now, tell the friend maybe July is not a good idea after what happened, best for the friend to continue getting help and wish her the best.

If the friend is upset about the public outing and abuse that has followed, I think she has better reason to complain than OP! She made a mistake and she's dealing with complex issues, then the OP causes all this abuse and attack online, on television and in gutter press? What is worse? Which is more dangerous and out of proportion?

I agree, these threads need to be taken down, this has turned very nasty and dangerous.

@LuMarie The OP causes all this abuse? No, she didn't! It was the CF who went public with her own bad manners. She could just have taken it down and apologized immediately, then there would only have been one thread and a short one too. Stop victim blaming, please!

Unfortunately, it's become a form of grotesque entertainment, featuring in gossipy daytime tv shows, and trashy media which I'm sure the op never envisaged when she first posted. I'm surprised the thread hasn't been pulled.

Such is the beast of social media Harry
I don't blame the OP for this turning into a media spectacle but I don't agree with people claiming it's all this woman deserved.

I'm sure OP thought we'd all tut and agree her friend was rude and perhaps laugh at how ridiculous and ungrateful she was being. Then Boom it's viral and picked up by the press and morphs into a public shaming masquerading as entertainment.

It's turned into some sort of witch hunt almost far beyond the level of retribution for the misdemeanor.
I think most people underestimate the dangers of putting their life in the public domain.

None of this is OP's fault. She is allowed to post in aibu! And to seek support and advice. That is exactly what MN and AIBU is for!! . It was all done anonymously. It is not OP's responsibility nor fault that media has picked up on this and obviously agree it was not on.

I think OP has dealt with it kindly, and has subsequently been gaslighted back by FF who has used her MH as an excuse for her uncalled for humiliating unneccesary post being nasty about OP, her house and her DH. FF is continuing to behave in a CF expecting OP to let her stay again, and being emotionally abusive in a long ranty text, just because OP said no & has set some gentle & reasonable boundaries to protect herself and her DH from more stress.

"It's turned into some sort of witch hunt almost far beyond the level of retribution for the misdemeanor."

This is a great exaggeration.

The vast majority of threads that are picked up by the media aren't seen by those concerned. I know because the bastard DM have lifted three of my past threads. The churn of content on their site is so great that even when something is on the front page, it is generally only there for a couple of hours, before falling right down.

If you really care about this practice, then we should form a band of social media vigilantes who pursue the journos who write these stories on social media and hound them on Twitter. That might actually be effective in making them aware that there is such a thing as journalistic ethics.

Ok maybe a bit dramatic to say Witch Hunt. It has been in several papers, on Loose Women, the radio and popped up all over Facebook, with some really ridiculous comments slating the friend and wishing bad things for her, which I find absurd. She's hasn't killed someone.
I was surprised how it snowballed.