Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!? Continued

[Biscusting]

Lost the other thread, can’t believe it filled up so fast.
CF ex friend has sent further message to say how sad she is about the loss of our long standing friendship, all she can do is try her best under difficult circumstances...

Thank you everyone for helping me form measured responses.

Now is it possible to block someone from sending messages or calling?

Absolutely Skywest, she is just being rude. She also posted that snide quote about MH on her page (I hate those bloody things, they always seem to be posted by drama Queens and/or people looking for "you okay hun?" replies...) and she hadn't actually refriended OP?

She was extremely rude, she panicked when realised was caught out and unfriended Op. Then sent BS message blaming her MH. THEN sent CF message presuming she could come back in July, not even asking.

This is nothing to do with MH, it's just rude. And it makes me so cross when people try to blame MH for their poor BEHAVIOUR. Like most MH problems have had a huge negative impact on my life - my own, my family's, my friend's MH. From depression to bi polar and more. CF like this using it as an excuse cheapens the true costs of MH. This is just rude!

No idea why behaviour was in caps... Bloody phone

OP - have you replied to the latest message?

Oh heavens. This has gone much further.

I have been lurking and just had to put in a name suggestion...
TripAdviZilla

It’s ok op.

You’ll be glad to know she’ll never speak to you ever again. It’s in the DM.

Win, win 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hmm, OP hasn't posted on here since yesterday afternoon... hope this hasn't blown up into something terrible for her.

OP are you ok?

Also hoping the OP is OK. It's one thing wanting to get something off your chest on an anonymous forum. Quite another for your humiliation and response to be aired on TV and in the Mail.

I still want to know what Big Pete said.

Hoping OP is okay and not further humiliated by LW and DM picking this up; you did nothing wrong. Also agree that @Mummyoflittledragon gives sensible wise advice; I have been following MN much longer than I've been posting and often find myself nodding along to her posts.

vanilla I only caught the first comment but it was about impregnating the CF friend. Seriously that random a comment.

I am no expert but behaviour like this is not my experience of depression and anxiety - which typically attacks the sufferer's own self worth and the hatred, criticism and judgement is directed inwards not outwards.

People like this exist. We once agreed to let a 'friend of a friend' stay with us (we also live in a popular tourist destination). We took her out and she did not put her hand in her pocket once - disappearing when the bill arrived for coffees, for lunch, for dinner. She openly criticised our home and told us what she would have done differently.

When she left, she gave us a really really cheap bottle of wine - obviously the cheapest one in the shop. She posted on Facebook that she had had a great time and spent hardly any money with an emoji wink. I think like you, she didn't realise we were friends on Facebook. She will never darken my door again.

This thread seems to littered with excuses as to why she might do this. Might be true, might not be true - none of us will ever know. The older I get though, the more I realise that we really don't have to put up with people like this, regardless of the reason they behave why they do.

Actions have consequences. If you treat people badly then you need to expect that they won't want you in their life. You are not adding any value. There doesn't have to be a massive falling out or an endless analysis about it.

I really like the idea that some people are radiators and some people are drains. Find and spend time with the radiators in your life.

Jesus the DM are so fucking predictable
Guest posts a TripAdvisor style review of her FRIEND's home online
dailym.ai/2MikvFH

I agree with @BuenosAires being a bitch is not a MH trait, OP's visitor took advantage of her good nature by inviting herself initially and then going on facebook and slating not only her home but also her spouse.

IF you have MH issues and someone said "yes sure come over for the weekend" even though it was inconvenient for OP. I would not write up such a nasty scathing report but show a bit more gratitude for someone taking me out of my bubble for the weekend, being kind and accommodating and allowing me to stay for free and then when I reinvited myself for later in the year say that I was welcome.

She is only using her MH as an excuse that is if she has an issue to get herself out of being pointed out to being a nasty ungrateful bitch. Kinda like those celebs who apologise after the fact.

OP, as everybody else has pointed out having MH issues does not give anyone a free pass to publicly humiliate you and I hope you do tell her that before you cut her out/unfriend her. You not having HM issues are not inferior to her either, neither does it make it alright for you to receive. So, she writes down how she feels? Is this how she felt during yours and your DH's hospitality?? And like pp have pointed out you posted on an anonymous forum while she humiliated to all your direct friends and colleagues possibly!!

I sincerely and for you own good I hope you have learnt your lesson and in the future challenge people appropriately early enough and when you have the first opportunity. She has taken advantage of you being too soft on her. Take care.

I think now that this is ‘piblic’ stop discussing this in social media before you lose the moral high ground.

TwoStarZilla made the choice to post something demeaning publicly. Hard lesson for her really. I'm sure she won't be mentioned by name.

I think when something like this goes "viral" it's the modern day equivalent to a public stoning in front of a baying crowd. I'm uncomfortable about it.

I'm surprised this woman has any friends at all. She needs a massive reality check.

Anyone care the write a quick update on what’s happened? Saw the original post but lost it now...

I didn’t real the majority of the last thread, however I was totally gobsmacked by the audacity of her having read your opening post alone.
I would have sent her a link to b & bs and other accommodation in your area. I would write......

“Dear ,
Please find a link attached for all accommodation currently eligible for review and rating on trip advisor and able to be shared via social media as you wish.
As you can see - and as you already know - my house is not on there, this is because I do not own nor run nor provide guest accommodation for a fee.
However, seeing as you had the audacity to go behind my back and rate me in such a manner amongst your peers and all and sundry for me to read, I’ve taken the liberty of attaching an invoice for the experience.
Account details contained within, lay,ent required by close of business tomorrow

Yours,
Biscusting “

Fire with fire 🤗

My DP has some very significant mental health issues (all properly diagnosed) and she can be offhand with people and sometimes appear rude ie forgetting to say goodbye to her parents when we leave, or sitting quietly and not engaging in conversation when there’s a few of us chatting but she was horrified by the FB review.

Having MH issues can result in a few missed social cues but not out and out rudeness like that, that’s just being an ungrateful arse.