Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!? Continued

[Biscusting]

Lost the other thread, can’t believe it filled up so fast.
CF ex friend has sent further message to say how sad she is about the loss of our long standing friendship, all she can do is try her best under difficult circumstances...

Thank you everyone for helping me form measured responses.

Now is it possible to block someone from sending messages or calling?

Completely missing the point, but this is why I hate people staying with us. Too much judgement, effort and stress all round. I suspect we'd be 1 star rated

I just wanted to add my support to the OP. It must have been very hurtful to read her so-called friend's comments. And I agree with others saying this has NOTHING to do with MH issues.

I said this on the last thread. Perhaps it won’t get so lost on this one. The only reason I could see her acting like this is if she is part way through therapy and she’s just learnt to stick up for herself. Ie a person with very low self esteem, who has never done so finally finds their voice may go far too far in the opposite direction. Then with further therapy regulates to a happy medium. I suspect she’s been jealous of you for a long time Biscuit. This is the only reason I can see for the scathing review.

I’m sure you’re tempted to show her a link. But that would make you just as unkind as her.

You are not responsible for her mental health. If you do decide to reply, I would not get involved in a discussion on her mental health. She’s trying to hook you in to an “I’m right, you’re wrong” fight. She’s in a bad place emotionally to not be able to admit she’s wrong that’s for sure. I’d choose something off this or the other thread, which simply says. “I’m sorry you feel that way. You are no longer welcome in my home.” First sentence optional. Then ignore any future communication or Facebook memes you may find out about.

MummyoflittleDragon's post is wise, so many home truths contained in her words.

It's true that you are not responsible for your friends MH and well-being but you should protect your own state of mind by not continuing to deal with this particular friend and her weird comments.

MrsCrabbyTree . Thank you. That brought a tear to my eye. My mother, brother and sil think the exact opposite of me. It means so much to me to be called wise after all the abuse and vile names I’ve been called for so very long. 😘

Loose women is still not on catch up. Anyone else found it, YouTube etc?

Wow! Just read the other thread and been amazed by your (ex) friend's cheeky fuckery and rudeness.

Tempting as it maybe to send the Loose Women link, I wouldn't if she has genuine MH problems. However even if she has, it doesn't excuse her unbelievable rudeness and downright nastiness.

Before you block her and remove her from your life (rightly so - who needs 'friends' who hurt and publicly humiliate others to make themselves feel better??) you do need to confirm that July is cancelled. Then block and delete. As part of her journal of self discovery, maybe it will make her pause to reflect how her selfish actions affect others, as it's clearly something she needs to work on.

Mummyoflittledragon, I'd like to echo that I think your post was a good one.

If I was that much of an arsehole I think I’d be depressed too. OP has been extraordinarily patient so far, I think I’d have hit the “oh just go fuck yourself” stage by now.

My ex had depression, has had several episodes over the years we were together. All that happened was his crap behaviour got worse.

Both our DCs have depression (as a result of being with ex). Their behaviour has been generally still fine.

It's the person, not the illness. I do hope my ex gets better, more for the sake of the DCs, as I won't be going back, regardless. But I don't tolerate his shit any more.

This has also popped up on my Fb feed. She'll see it, def sooner or later.

Has she posted any PA comments on Facebook, have you heard from her?

She's just full of rubbish

To take another angle on this. This woman has been dragged up and if she doesn’t know how to behave this will have taught her a hard lesson.
She is probably depressed because she doesn’t get how the world works under normal circumstances.
Hopefully she will learn and be able to move on from this.

Torvi that resonates with me to some extent. My ex can be a dick and when depressed that behaviour is often worse. I hope he manages his depresion better, but I suspect some of that behaviour HE attributes to his MH is his personality.
I won't tolerate shittiness and make it clear he should take responsibility (like breaking his daughter's birthday present by throwing it out of a moving car).
This "friend" needs to treat people with respect. Having not done that she cannot then accuse them of being unsupportive when her apology is "oh I am ill" not "i was wrong". Also the op is not obliged to forgive but this woman appears to think that.

Has she been named a "zilla" yet or anyone done an amusing poem?

buttercup 🤣🤣 'zilla' really has has its day hasn't it!

Reviewzilla doesn’t have the best ring to it.

Tripzilla?

Twoandahalfstarzilla?

Thanks Torvi.

What about facebitchzilla? As in having a bitch on Facebook. Or if you don’t like to use bitch, twofacedzilla? Would amalgamate her attitude with the 2 stars with Facebook. Prefer the former though....

2starzilla?

If someone has a god-complex then "the person generally believes they are above the rules of society and should be given special consideration".

So, godcomplexzilla ?

It would be ReviewZilla surely?

Woah woah woah so because she is an attention seeking little smart arse who abused a friends hospitality. She is now pull in the mental health card. Tell her to stop contact in you and that suffering from depression does not give her the right to be a monumentous cwunt.

I am concerned already that this will end up in the Daily Mail. But I feel you have acted really well in this situation OP.