Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!? Continued

[Biscusting]

Lost the other thread, can’t believe it filled up so fast.
CF ex friend has sent further message to say how sad she is about the loss of our long standing friendship, all she can do is try her best under difficult circumstances...

Thank you everyone for helping me form measured responses.

Now is it possible to block someone from sending messages or calling?

[Mix56]

I know you are ready to block now, but your parting shot should be,

^My understanding of your mental health issues, has no correlation with you having humiliated me on social media.
it is clear that you don't like me, my house, or my my husband.
All further get togethers would be pointless^

[ScattyCharly]

I would just block her now and cut contact.

[MeMyShelfandIkea]

Interesting how she had the mental clarity to write what sounded like a relatively articulate "review" including comments on dry conversation and slow wifi, but her ishoos mean that she cannot be expected to have the mental clarity to realise she was being fucking rude.

Apparently MH issues also make you a liar seeing as she said she was rating the weekend in general yet her actual words were "‘all in all I’d give her two stars."

[PorkyPortia]

Just ignore her now
She is just attention seeking again

[Gemini69]

OP you have the patience on a ruddy Saint I tell ya.... she is a pure CF.. oh and thanks for the new thread..

anyone got a link to the Loose Women thing...

[raisedbyguineapigs]

She's talking out of her arse saying her MH condition made her slag someone off on facebook! What condition exactly is that? Complete lack of self awareness to then assume she would be welcome in July and guilt tripping you into it when you said no! Let her turn up if she wants but then give her the address of the Travelodge!

[Elspeth12345]

I would not send her the link. You know she has mental health problems, which whilst not being an excuse for her nasty review, could result in a crisis if she feels publicly shamed.

She did something unpleasant that her your feelings but the whole thing really needs to end now. She could end up self-harming or similar otherwise.

[Elspeth12345]

• hurt your feelings, not her your feelings

[redshoeblueshoe]

I have a relative with severe MH problems, but I still make it clear that them, that is not an excuse to behave like an idiot

[LagunaBubbles]

Mental health issues or not its her responsibility what she does now. There is no mental health condition I can think of that would make someone do this.

[Groovee]

I can't believe how she will not take responsibility for her actions.

Think you are well rid!

[Hisnamesblaine]

What have I missed? Last thing I see was the C.F. defriending OP on facebook?

[Myotherusernameisbest]

does anyone have the link to the loose women segment?

[Saturdaygap]

But she apologised and took it down, didn't she?

What does mumsnet want her to do now?

I think all this piling on is cruel, particularly so as she has mental health difficulties.

It's a mistake on stupid pointless social media. Let's pick on someone else now, eh?

[Gemini69]

She’s just replied with a long ranty response.

I’ll summarise, it’s lengthy and rambling:

Apparently it’s people like me that don’t understand MH and make the conditions harder for sufferers, she thought we were good friends and that’s about give me take, she’s crushed that I can’t separate her from her condition. She’s opened up to be about her problems and she’s doing why she can to manage it.

Well I can assume the visit has definitely been cancelled rather than postponed then!

Time to block I think

Probably because as OP said above ... in her last page of her previous Thread ... the 'Friend' is not sorry atall.. in fact rather the opposite.. and gotten even ruder with it....

[Starlight345]

No loose women were a bit omg.. It was so odd how Coleen introduced it though.. it was very I heard from a mate rather than lazy picked it up off MN. She read out the whole 2 star review.

Even more gasps when she said friend was still wanting to stay soon

[BMW6]

Saturday she only apologised to get free accommodation in July. And she unfriended OP from Facebook before she apologised. And she's trying to use her MH issue as an excuse for really shitty behaviour.

[ciderhouserules]

OP - having D&A doesn't mean that people lose all their manners.

Your 'friend' is a CF and I hope she was watching this morning! It might not hep her depression but it might give her a bit of insight into why you are annoyed? Rather than 'I've apologised, why can;t I get more free accomodation?'

[BMW6]

Oh and what could she do to make amends? Well the first thing is to acknowledge how awful she has been and recognise that of course she will not be welcome into the OP's home for the foreseeable future!
Sending ranty texts blaming the OP for not accepting piss poor behaviours because she doesn't understand people with MH issues is not the way to go about making amends.

Plenty of posters who also suffer MH issues have pointed out that those issues do not excuse or explain rude entitled behavior

[hellsbellsmelons]

What does mumsnet want her to do now?
Sod off and leave OP alone - I think that's what generally would be the best idea here.

She may have MH problems, but she...

Directly insulted OP
Directly insulted her DH
Insulted her cooking skills
Her hosting skills
The size of her house
Her furniture choices
Her decorating choices and skills
All of this was very personal and done on a public platform for all to see.
No friggin' way is that to do with mental health issues.
That's just fucking rude and inconsiderate and disrespectful and down right insulting!

[Grumpyoldblonde]

The whole thing is just unbelievable. She's nutty as Nutella.

[pigmcpigface]

So sick of the use of MH issues to excuse poor behaviour.

I would say there's been plenty of give and take in this relationship. The give has been all on the OP's side, and the take all on hers. And to top that off, she's been fucking rude.

[Dobby1sAFreeElf]

Now is it possible to block someone from sending messages or calling?
I think most phones have this option somewhere!

all she can do is try her best under difficult circumstances
of completely her own creation

[ChasedByBees]

If she doesn’t get why she behaved so unacceptably, I don’t think you’ll get through to her. You’ve been incredibly kind in your responses. Just let her know for sure that she’s not invited and move on.

[DragonMummy1418]

@hellsbellsmelons

She may have MH problems, but she...

Directly insulted OP
Directly insulted her DH
Insulted her cooking skills
Her hosting skills
The size of her house
Her furniture choices
Her decorating choices and skills
All of this was very personal and done on a public platform for all to see.
No friggin' way is that to do with mental health issues.
That's just fucking rude and inconsiderate and disrespectful and down right insulting!

This absolutely!
I have a few mental health issues but that doesn't mean I am ignorant and downright rude to people I supposedly care about!