Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!? Continued

[Biscusting]

Lost the other thread, can’t believe it filled up so fast.
CF ex friend has sent further message to say how sad she is about the loss of our long standing friendship, all she can do is try her best under difficult circumstances...

Thank you everyone for helping me form measured responses.

Now is it possible to block someone from sending messages or calling?

I have had mental health problems, I know they can all present differently but I would have been far too anxious to post anything remotely like that.

OP I hope you have sent a proper response to this CF? Make sure she knows she is NOT welcome at all, ever again.

You can't just block her and say nothing as she'll likely turn up in July.

Make it clear she's not welcome.

That other thread has a 1,000 posts!

Depression does not provide a free pass to unkindness.

^^this. I really don't think this is down to her depression. I've been depressed (like many others here I'd imagine) and would never have dreamed of treating people in this way.

I once knew a narcissist who claimed depression for extreme rudeness when I called her out. Don't buy it OP. Your replies have been classy and to the point. Don't fall for it.

TBH I do get that the friend has some form of mental health problem. It's not exactly usual to do as she has done. There's a dissociation from reality right there.

It's not your job, OP, to act as her counsellor or psychiatrist. Just remember that.

I can only find the Loose Women episode from Friday 8 June :( Where is todays?!?

GOsh, this has been fascinating. I have a friend with anxiety and depression who behaves EXACTLY like this. She says Facebook is where she puts 'all her shit'. Then, when people are offended by what she has says about them/ people they care about, she gets furious with them. Because facebook is where she puts 'all her shit'. And them being upset with her sends her into anxiety and she can't leave the house, which is all their fault apparently. For being 'bitches'.

She’s an absolute piss taker.
I’d bet money She’s gonna keep at you to try and still stay in July. Block, block, block!!

You shouldn't feel guilty about the MH issues - such a good, longstanding friend should have told you if they are indeed that bad - even if not, I don't think counsellors mean writing it down for potentially the whole world to see, particularly when dissing a good friend who put themselves out for you. Bin her and block her and don't stand for it.

I am amazed that she has not just taken total responsibility for this. In her shoes I would apologise freely and crawl off into a corner to weep at my own stupidity. I would not deny that I did anything wrong and YOU were the problem, especially so I could have a free staycation with people I insulted.

I hope she misses the Loose Women thing though as that would be stressful for anyone, never mind someone with depression and cheeky-fuckery .

1. What a total bitch - blaming MH issues for being a bitch makes her even worse.

2. WHAT DOES BIGPIERRE KEEP SAYING!?! This is the third thread where I have missed his clearly questionable comments as they have already been removed, without getting to laugh at/be shocked by his outrageousness

She sounds nuts! More like a drama queen than anything else. Social media is not the place to air your MH issues.

I can’t believe she thought she was still coming to stay!!!

Well I’ve just watched loose women for the first time ever, thanks OP.
I have MH issues, under pressure or when feeling emotional, I can say some dickhead things. I still apologise and recognise it’s wrong, and they only ever happen in the moment. They are never long, thought out, written insults though. There’s no excuse to play the victim at all, or claim you have complete immunity to insult who you like.

Wow!

I had a friend who used to play the victim after being incredibly nasty, it’s tiresome and I’m glad I will never see her again

I had a friend invite herself to stay after I'd recently split with a long-term boyfriend. I thought it was nice she'd come to cheer me up a bit.

She spent the whole weekend making a play for my ex and then kicked off when I refused to help her get to the railway station at stupid o clock on Monday morning.

I had to very clearly explain why I was upset I'd felt she'd used my flat as a B and B after spending no time with me at all but tried to pull my ex. Her excuse was she was devastated as she really liked him and was not likely to ever see him again after we'd split! She didn't understand why I could be upset with her.

She later played the MH card which, to be fair, had/has been a factor in many previous and subsequent situations. I've been very wary of her ever since, it's forgiven but not forgotten as how she acted hurt.

Send her this

Ohcrepe, that won’t do - it has too many stars

OP didn't know of the MH problems until EXF started to justify her 'faux pas'...... It's a tad late to play this card. (albeit possible)

She's making it worse by blaming this on MH

If she really does have mental health issues , she'd do better to learn the manners which will prevent her from triggering negative reacrions in other people.

Sounds familiar Whiteonred. Biscuit, you don't have to have anything to do with her.

I have anxiety and know a lot of people with various mental health conditions, including depression. Not one of them acts like a CF. For this CF to blame her CFery on mental health issues is despicable.

Unbelievable behaviour !

I'd struggle to not send her a link to the LW show where they discussed this, her trying to use MH as an excuse is extremely insulting to anyone who suffers with MH and might (although I doubt it) be enough of a shock that it helps her consider this me me me attitude she has.

Or be the bigger person, leave it and carry on with blocking any way she can make contact, no one needs a person like her in their lives.

Was she always such a nightmare at uni?