Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!? Continued

[Biscusting]

Lost the other thread, can’t believe it filled up so fast.
CF ex friend has sent further message to say how sad she is about the loss of our long standing friendship, all she can do is try her best under difficult circumstances...

Thank you everyone for helping me form measured responses.

Now is it possible to block someone from sending messages or calling?

If there's one thing that really does piss me off it's when people "use" a diagnosed condition to excuse really bad behaviour/manners etc.

Yes, there are certain conditions that can encourage antisocial behaviour, but that's not the case here.

This woman did not use FB to say how she felt, personally (which, if the therapist had said anything like exF said she did, is what the therapist would have meant) - she used it to belittle her host (the OP), her DH, the house, the décor, the food and really the whole stay. That's not excusable, that's extremely poor manners.

And then she compounded it by unfriending the OP when the OP picked her up on it - rather than holding her hands up, apologising whole heartedly and being properly ashamed (which, in all honesty, still wouldn't have cut it for me). And THEN she went in for CF at the next level of expecting to be allowed back to the OP's house!

Nope.
And when she didn't get her own way, she went in for some bullshit rant about how people don't understand MH issues? GAAAHHHH!

Actually, many people DO understand MH issues, and they understand far better than the exF that using your MH issues as an excuse to be a mean bitch is unacceptable.

I think you'll be well rid of this ex-Friend, Biscusting, I really do.

Remember a prick is still a prick whether they have poor MH or not.

You can definitely block her on all social media & your phone!

She's trying to deflect blame from this happening by being vague 'our friendship ending' and all that bollocks, as if she wasn't the direct cause

A few years ago I behaved badly towards a good friend. We were both having a hard time. She removed me from Facebook and pretty much cut all contact. It was a hard lesson but I don’t judge her or blame her one bit. It was me that lost a good friend. I apologised many times and occasionally send her a message and I get short and polite replies. I don’t think your ‘friend’ has taken any responsibility for her actions. None of us are perfect, we all do stupid things sometimes. But if we don’t recognise and learn from our mistakes we are doomed to repeat them.

Drop her, block her. Life is too short to hang onto friendships that are so high maintenance.

I have MH issues and I wouldn’t dream of slagging anyone off on Facebook so she needs to stop using that as an excuse and just own the fact that she’s a rude horrible obnoxious little twat.

A friend of mine who was suffering from depression got herself into a terrible state on a night out and end up throwing a beer over me because of some imagined slight. It didn't really bother me much at the time until we were chatting a few days later and she said her therapist had told her she shouldn't apologise to me because it would be demeaning and bad for her self-esteem.

Once I told her what I thought of her therapist, she did indeed apologise. There may even have been flowers.

Like many, I have experience with MH and while it has gotten me to do some truly awful stuff, this is something I would never! And no therapist would suggest blasting it all over social media

If anything, they recommend journaling and avoiding things that may trigger bad feelings like spending too much time online

Also mental health issues run on a spectrum. If she was experiencing psychosis then maybe, her actions are beyond her control

But depression doesn't work like that. You still have a handle on yourself no matter how bad you feel

Was your friend like this at uni? You said you were quite good friends then?

She doesn't sound like she was having a psychotic episode.

I have bipolar disorder sometimes that means my impulse control is shit and awful things spill out of my mouth before I can put a sock in it. I try really hard for it not to happen but sometimes I can't stop it and I feel horrible about it and sincerely apologize. I don't expect people to not be hurt just because it's related to my mental health condition, nor do I expect it not to affect our relationship.

That is a lot different then someone sitting down and writing an extremely rude review of their free stay at a supposed friend's house then posting it to Facebook. Then trying to blame it all on their mental health to the extent it sounds like she expects an apology. Dafuq.

@BigPierre wtf??

Im not 100% sure that will solve the OPs problem bigpierre

BigPierre 😮

Call me suspicious, but I'm not sure @BigPierre has read the thread.

Big P saves the day

Is it meant to be funny? Because it isn't.

I suspect BigPierre may have (purposefully?) misunderstood the thread title.

Oh, cross post. Now I'm really confused...

Big Pierre is putting some.....unusual posts on other threads as well.

Is BigPierre feeling ok..?