to want to go braless even though DP disapproves?

[TikiMara]

Been with DP for 3 years. When I'm not at work I tend not to wear a bra. I have c cup boobs. Not tiny but not big either. I don't have significantly protruding nipples (not that it would matter if I did!). Problem is, I love going braless, it's so comfy and I just prefer it. DP hates it. Thinks it's inappropriate (no, I don't wear anything see through or massively booby). He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not) and I may as well be naked... AIBU to think, 'my boobs, my choice' ?

Does he wear a bra under his clothes? No? Then he may as well be naked too.

You know the answer to this one. He is not the boss of you. You wear what you want to wear.

He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not) and I may as well be naked

I agree your boobs your choice, but I'm curious to know what kind of tops are you wearing to make him suggest this?

YANBU. It's your body, they're your boobs. He can fuck off trying to police what you wear.

They’re your boobs, you do what you like xx

Burn that bra!

Tbh you could be braless in skintight white with nipples like the rivets on the titanic and he STILL wouldn't be entitled to comment and other people STILL wouldn't be entitled to stare at your boobs! Your body, your choice, up to him to lump it tbh.

Tell him when he starts wearing a bra every day so will you!

If you don’t want to wear a bra then don’t, totally your choice in my opinion. I have been guilty of seeing women with their chests touching their waistline and thinking “you should really wear a bra” but that’s just me being judgy in my head and would never say it out loud! I wear a bra when I leave the house, only as it would feel odd to me not to, but once at home it comes off!

Wtf? Yanbu. He's being very very strange to try to get you to wear something you don't want to. No one is staring at your breasts- but if they were, so what? What's his problem? People can look, a cat can look at a queen ffs!

Your breasts. Your choice. He is controlling in other ways?

bridesmaidinchief

Nipples like rivets on the titanic !
Very funny
Tears rolling down cheeks

Does he specifically want you to wear a bra or is he saying ‘that white t-shirt is see through, I can see your nipples and you should put something (doesn’t have to be a bra, could be vest top) underneath.’ Two very different things. But no don’t wear a bra if you don’t want to. Although keep in mind that most tops, particularly if they are fitted and light coloured probably reveal a lot more than you think, especially in sunlight.

A lot of the women I know take their bra off as soon as they get in after work. It's more comfortable. If you don't want to wear one, then don't.

YANBU at all, I hate wearing bras and have found the necessity to always wear a bra for almost two years of breastfeeding a total PITA. I’m never wearing one again once dd is weaned!

Your DP has absolutely no say in what you wear, he sounds controlling and jealous, not qualities I would want in a partner.

There is nothing rude or offensive about a hint of nipple through a top, and if people do look what does it matter? Much better for everyone to see the shape of natural breasts in day to day life rather than padded, hoiked up in a bra boobs imo. Look up @theslumflower on instagram, she is very articulate on issues surrounding this topic.

Tomorrow, frown in the direction of his crotch and then produce a cricket box with the words 'At least have SOME decency... put this on please, and don't let me see you without it again.'

I have size 34GG boobs and I have been known to leave the house without a bra now and then. Not often as it is uncomfortable without support but certainly not because anyone might find the old chaps swining in the breeze an issue.

Even if people are staring at your breasts, it's not for him to say that it's wrong. You're not his property.

If you're comfortable then carry on, it's your choice

It's absolutely your choice and he can wind his neck in.

I have to ask though, if you take your bra off do you not get all sweaty from your boobs lying against your belly?

I never wear one. Men don't wear dick bras do they?

Nope!

When you say “ not at work” do you mean when you’re at home, slabbing around, then yanbu, my bra is the first thing removed ( through the sleeves!) when I get in.
However, if it’s when you are out an about socially or shopping etc, have a critical look at what you’re wearing and see if he has a point

I hate bras. I also have c cup boobs (when not pregnant) and I can go braless easily depending on the top of course. It's none of his business what you wear or don't wear. I am currently using up my braless time before I start breastfeeding again.

In the privacy of your home - yanbu
Out and about - yabu

No he doesn't "own" you but does his opinion not matter to you

I wouldn't want my partner do go topless on a hot day like many men do - I would hope that he would respect that

And before anyone says I wasn't comparing toplessness with not wearing a bra