to want to go braless even though DP disapproves?

[TikiMara]

Been with DP for 3 years. When I'm not at work I tend not to wear a bra. I have c cup boobs. Not tiny but not big either. I don't have significantly protruding nipples (not that it would matter if I did!). Problem is, I love going braless, it's so comfy and I just prefer it. DP hates it. Thinks it's inappropriate (no, I don't wear anything see through or massively booby). He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not) and I may as well be naked... AIBU to think, 'my boobs, my choice' ?

Jockstraps. That's what he should be wearing.

Presumably your tops are not the equivalent of a cyclist's shorts. Seen here to compare with Charlie Dimmock's.

You realise that is indeed entirely fine, right?

Lol. Here we go round again. You do what you wish. Ok? And if you like a bit of that, fill your boots. 🤣

I never wear a bra, 30F, my nipples are always on point.

So what makes Your happy!

How about "respect one another's wishes".
That works both ways. As in he should also respect her wishes (and comfort) to go braless.

What makes *you happy

What's funny about pubes?

Everyone has them, male and female?

What should we be expected to remove now so as not to be unintentionally humorous?

Our toes? Our eyebrows?

The one where some folks were saying it was fine to go to a public pool with uour pubes hanging out th side of your swimsuit.

No, the one where you were haranguing me for being worried about negative judgement of women with hairy legs, because you don't give a shit and neither should anyone else and there isn't even any such thing as societal pressure. So you should be super proud of me on this one, right? I am defying societal expectations all the way here!

But you did think hairy legs were unattractive and, no surprise, you also think going braless is inappropriate. You honestly seem a little confused on where you stand with regards to women's personal freedoms to make decisions about their own appearances. Technically it's your choice, but you better make the right choice, yeah?

It’s obviously your body, your choice but I HATE the thought of my boobs swinging about

I can assure you I find nothing funny about seeing a strangers pubes at the public pool. I totallyrespect your right to have your pubes on public display. You deserve my right to not do so.

Live and let live, that's my motto.

And yes, I'm highly amused. 🤣🤣🤣

lol, I'm a 36HH and live in a very hot country, I often wear boob tubes without a bra. I wear one for work but at the weekends i rarely wear one

Hang on hakarl. Stop right there, we can all read that thread and it's a different one to what is being discussed. You are also misrepresenting me, so you either have me confused with someone else or you are just angling for a fight. My viewpoint on that thread, made repeatedly was to do as the op pleased but to possibly both compromise to please each other.

I think that was the thread someone posted a link to so I'm happy for it to be read.

I don't like seeing massive boobs half out of clothing when I'm out and about - say, in Tesco's.

But I absolutely support a woman's right to dress however she likes. I don't think Sandra with the GGs jigging up and down trying to reach the biscuits on the top shelf exactly ruins my day. For all I know Sandra is highly offended by my comfy shoes and frumpy haircut.

Sandra and I can both fuck off, imo.

So unless your bralessness is alongside bondage gear on the school run, who cares? I think people might notice you're not wearing one and have an opinion, but sod 'em. If I can cope with Sandra, your dp should cope with you!

the difference is that Sandra making people cringe for her and looking ridiculous has nothing to do with anyone. People are free to embarrass themselves.

Hating to see your own wife going braless is not the same - and frankly, I support everybody's freedom but I am also free to judge or mock them accordingly.

I won't let my daughter go braless outside, for her own good.

Tell him you’ll wear a bra when he wears a jockstrap.

No, wait. A codpiece.

what kind of trousers or shorts do the men wear in your world that a jockstrap would make a difference to the way they look. Puzzling!

DH has a pair of grey tracksuit bottoms he likes to wear, where his willy outline is VERY MUCH on display. When my family come round I ask him to change, and he is mortified at the idea they might see his willy and does so. Does that make me controlling!? I do think it's a bit horrible if someone has saggier breasts without a bra, but ultimately it's none of my business. Surely someone's husband is allowed a say though?

Also btw, briefs for men ARE similar to a bra. The whole point of them, as opposed to boxers, is to offer "support".

@thenightsky I think even Charlie Dimmock wears a bra now judging by her gardening programme.

Oh for god sake what a dick, if you don’t want to wear a bra don’t. Tell him to piss off.

I have a friend who’s ‘D’P thought and vocalised exactly the same thing to her. Turns out he was a controlling abusive shitbag. You might want to figure out why he thinks he has autonomy over your body OP.

Mine are smaller than yours, and I have never worn a bra. Hate 'em (find them horrible and uncomfortable). But it's nobody else's business.

BTW, there's no "swinging about" from me. If only.

He is allowed an opinion yes.
He is not allowed to tell her she must wear a bra when out and about as he is worried people might look at her boobs. Its HIS insecurity talking.

Men look at boobs whether they are covered up or not. Its their problem not ops.

I can assure you I find nothing funny about seeing a strangers pubes at the public pool.

I have a question. Where do pubes end, and leg hair begin?

I ask this because DP is rather hairy. If he wears swimming trunks (we are in a place where trunks are expected rather than shorts) then which bit is it that he should be removing, and which bit is perfectly acceptable leg hair?