to want to go braless even though DP disapproves?

[TikiMara]

Been with DP for 3 years. When I'm not at work I tend not to wear a bra. I have c cup boobs. Not tiny but not big either. I don't have significantly protruding nipples (not that it would matter if I did!). Problem is, I love going braless, it's so comfy and I just prefer it. DP hates it. Thinks it's inappropriate (no, I don't wear anything see through or massively booby). He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not) and I may as well be naked... AIBU to think, 'my boobs, my choice' ?

I always go braless at home. However, If people wewre coming round and I had a flimsy top on then I would put one on.

Why do I not go to the supermarket in my pyjamas?
Because I've got some f'in self respect that's why.
If you leave the home dress properly.
And no I do not wanna see the outline of someone's protruding nipples - why the f--- would i!?

I predict this is going to go similarly to the recent body hair shaving thread. Lots of people saying well technically it's your choice, but you really should consider allowing your partner to dictate to you on this. Technically it's your choice but maybe he has a point. Technically it's your choice, but it is inappropriate. Etc etc.

No. It's really simple. It's your choice, none of his business.

As my 20 year daughter frequently says - "Free the nipple, Mum!"

I don't, I'm more comfortable in a bra, due to saggage, but as long as you have an item of clothing covering your top half, what on earth is the problem?

.Your breasts. Your choice. He is controlling in other ways?

Controlling? Or expressing an opinion to his lifelong partner? Ffs why has it always got to be about control? How about "respect one another's wishes".

He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not)

That's because it's what he does - stare at other womens' breasts !

It's entirely different to the pubic hair debate! This is about something everyone can see not just your partner.

Clearly, it's not the same as going naked. Tell him to sod off.

Your body wear what the hell you like (or not)
What a fuss over a bodys natural parts.
Bet he doesnt wear a bra but he has nipples!
A friend of mine rarely wore a bra nobody was ever phased by lumps in her t shirt. We all survived the horror of it all.😀

Tell him to grow the fuck up. Just cos you are female everyone thinks they have a say in how you should look sod that.

but as long as you have an item of clothing covering your top half, what on earth is the problem?

Exactly, it's the same for camel toe and cock and balls, as long as somethings covering it it's fine if we can all see the outline of it.

Classy stuff.🤣🤣🤣

If that was the opinion of my DP I'd respect it and wouldn't go braless outside the house. I wouldn't want my DPto go topless in a shopping mall/wherever like many do in the summer and he'd respect that too. If I told him his trousers were too tight and everyone could see his bits, he'd change his trousers no question (after laughter!)

How about "respect one another's wishes".

What the hell is it to do with him?
Why does he get to tell her she has to bundle herself up in elastic straps and an extra layer of clothes?

It's entirely different to the pubic hair debate! This is about something everyone can see not just your partner.

The thread I was talking about was about women shaving in general, leg and armpits included, so very much an issue of public appearance. You might be thinking of a different thread. Interestingly on that one I said that I do shave but don't want to and was told all the judgement was in my head and I shouldn't give a shit what 'random strangers' think.

Now here's an issue about my appearance where I truly don't give a shit what anyone thinks. But people will tell me that I should.

I have to ask though, if you take your bra off do you not get all sweaty from your boobs lying against your belly?

Why would OP's boobs be resting against her belly? She's a C cup.

I'm a D cup - a 28D (which is a sister size to a 34A). My boobs can't get anywhere near my belly, there's not enough of them!

I go braless all the time - it's great!

Even if I wear a bra you might see my nipples! It's lace and I have them pierced...

I frequently go without a bra and am also a C cup. It's totally your business and naff all to do with him.

Do you look like this lady?

Errr he's her partner...ffs he's not asked a friend or a complete stranger!

The thread I was talking about was about women shaving in general, leg and armpits included, so very much an issue of public appearance

Yes, I thought immediately of that thread too. The one where some folks were saying it was fine to go to a public pool with uour pubes hanging out th side of your swimsuit.

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charlie dimmock looks fine in that pic

Tell him he has to wear really tight pants, see how he likes it.

I only wear sports bras/crop tops, hate wearing bras, will put one on if going somewhere posh but hate wearing one.

Tell him tough titty you'll do what you want.

This reminded me of the person on another thread saying when they are at the gym changing rooms it's good to see all different shapes and sizes of bodies and it reminds them that not every body is perfect. Maybe if people (mostly women I would say) didn't comment that they think women are trying to get attention because they go braless, wear a thong on the beach (I know I'm derailing slightly) it would let others see we are all different shapes and sizes and you should be proud of what you've got. Really the only naked/semi naked bodies we see are of models or celebs. It would do the world good to see the average jane walk around without a bra etc

Errr he's her partner...ffs he's not asked a friend or a complete stranger!

It's clear you don't know what I'm talking about. The shaving thread was an OP who didn't want to shave but her partner thought she should. It then developed into a general discussion about societal pressures on women to look a certain way re body hair. There are also societal pressures on women to look a certain way re their boobs and nipples. The comments posters are coming out with are almost exactly the same stuff.

If you want to read it, www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3242434-should-I-shave. Then you can stop reacting with faux disbelief to my comparison which obviously went over your head as you hadn't read what I was referencing.

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Yes, I thought immediately of that thread too. The one where some folks were saying it was fine to go to a public pool with uour pubes hanging out th side of your swimsuit.^

You realise that is indeed entirely fine, right?

Your breasts. Your choice. He is controlling in other ways?

there's always one

Partners are allowed to have an opinion, and showing them respect has nothing to do with being controlling. Some women do not like their male partners to have a moustache, wear sandals with socks, a onesie, a vest when they are in public.
If you don't wear a bra, it shows, we all know that. The man cares. The OP is free to do whatever she wants, but her DH is free to have an opinion.

I personally feel more comfortable with support, and I am not huge. That's also a personal choice.