to want to go braless even though DP disapproves?

[TikiMara]

Been with DP for 3 years. When I'm not at work I tend not to wear a bra. I have c cup boobs. Not tiny but not big either. I don't have significantly protruding nipples (not that it would matter if I did!). Problem is, I love going braless, it's so comfy and I just prefer it. DP hates it. Thinks it's inappropriate (no, I don't wear anything see through or massively booby). He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not) and I may as well be naked... AIBU to think, 'my boobs, my choice' ?

It's completely up to you. If you can get away with it do it. I'm a 34F so if I did it I would look indecent and I wouldn't out of respect of my husband.

I recently stopped wearing a bra at all. I just got fed up with it and society's perception of breasts and their shape. My husband is very encouraging of my choices.

It's brilliant!!!

I'm a 34F so if I did it I would look indecent
Why do 34F breasts look indecent?

In public they would look indecent if they were completely on show which they would be if I went without a bra.

Only because society makes a natural body an issue.

People who are going to stare at boobs will stare no matter what you wear. I've started wearing those sportsy flimsy things that give enough support so I don't knock myself out on the school run but that's it. Anyone who cares is just going to have to learn to cope.

People should be able to wear what they want to wear, as long as it won't increase risk of harm (e.g no flip flops in a lab).

That said, for all the bra-haters; I too hated bras for years. Thought the underwire was an invention of the devil. Till I was properly fitted for a bra and now have a collection of beautiful, comfortable underthings, and better control of my bad back.

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People who are going to stare at boobs will stare no matter what you wear

To be fair that's not quite true. I wouldn't notice a woman's chest if she was wearing a bra and covered up, but if she was obviously bra less or wearing something revealing, I'd prob look and as said, not in a sexual way, I'm straight, more it's really not something you see very often, most women dress more discreetly. Hence why it garners attention.

And I think any woman over an a cup knows full,well it garners attention. Just like a tight or low cut top does.

And I think any woman over an a cup knows full,well it garners attention. Just like a tight or low cut top does.

Post after post on this thread saying how you can ALWAYS tell if someone isn't wearing a bra, it ALWAYS looks unprofessional, it's ALWAYS attention seeking. OP is a C cup therefore the above MUST be true

Except I'm a D cup, and I posted earlier to prove a point. Side by side photos of me wearing a shirt today to work - one with a (C cup) bra underneath and without. And posters kept saying 'well obvs you can't tell you're braless because of the size of your boobs, it's fine for you to go braless because it's not obvious at all'

My point being it's ridiculous for people to make sweeping statements.

I am a D cup FFS - and every poster who commented said 'well clearly it doesn't apply in your case because it's not obvious'

Which would somewhat contradict the notion that anyone over an A cup knows it garners attention. Some women can go braless and it won't garner any attention at all. Most can't. It's a massive generalisation!

How can my breasts indicate my level of professionalism? They can't. And I wont' wear a bra just because some people don't like it when I don't!

There is evidence to show that bras are bad for posture and contribute to sagging.

Years of not wearing one hasn't made mine sag.

I wish I could get away with not wearing one but my breasts were never designed that way sadly.
Cup letter is not a standard size, it is relative to the band size. Breast tissue varies from person to person, as is shape and form. Mine are very soft, watery tissue and were pendulous, down and outward pointing and bottom heavy.
A bra for me is entirely a functional piece of equipment, nothing to do with dignity. I wore a tight band and underwire to place my breast tissue back onto my rib cage (I had 2” underhang) and to stop wobble as my breast tissue is highly mobile. A tight band is uncomfortable but not nearly as much as the weight of the downward pull. I have stretch marks down both breasts the weight was so bad.
I have now had a reduction and uplift, with the overhang completely removed (no pencil staying there now!) and no longer a 30H. I will always have to wear a bra because the soft tissue is still very mobile and I find it uncomfortable when they move about so much but at least now I can wear a more relaxed 32 or 34 band and don’t need the pressure or the underwire to hold them up so I wear very comfortable bras now. If they weren’t so mobile I too would go bra less as it is a function I just wouldn’t need it for. What it looks like to others I care not a jot, I am not on the planet for the aesthetic pleasing of others.
In short, we are all vastly different and our Bras do different things for each of us. What is unreasonable is to judge others on our own experience and standards which may not be relevant to others.

If I had firm small to medium sized breasts, I wouldn't wear a bra for love nor money.

As it is, I have mammoth mammaries (which sound like PoshJock's - pre surgery (only bigger)) and it would be too uncomfortable with out the industrial scaffolding that is require to tame them.

Honestly, I wouldn't notice if people are wearing bras or not unless they are jogging and there is exaggerated bouncing. Wear what you want, it's nobody else's business, including your boyfriends.

bananafish81 Not all D cups are the same size... bras have sister sizes and a D for one person can be the equivalent of an A cup. You shouting about your D cup breasts means nothing really. I could tell which was a bra and which wasn’t but the fact you are wearing a loose fitting shirt makes all the difference. Wear a tighter top or a standard T-shirt and it would be more noticeable.

Also, the angle matters. And movement. It’s not just about being noticeable or not. I wouldn’t leave the house without a bra because my saggy tits would be swinging all over he place and knocking people out. Not to mention I’d probably be in agony from the hang, I have stretch marks from the weight of them pulling down.

same in our house but other way round wife always going mad about me not wearing boxers under jogging bottoms

rwalker I imagine that’s not a good look then lol

I wouldn’t know cos my partner lives in cargo pants or the one pair of jeans he owns.

+1 to Bridesmaidinchief for her titanic nipples.

I would agree with quack. And if you'd posted a video of you walking I'm fairly sure it would be obvious.,plus from what rhe op posted she doesn't dress like you. She posted an image of a close fitting t shirt as more her style.

Of course it would be visible if I was wearing something more tight fitting

Quite clearly whether or not it's possible to go braless without it being noticeable, will depend entirely on the outfit, as well as the size of the boobs in question.

But some posters were saying it's ALWAYS possible to tell if someone is braless. That it's ALWAYS unprofessional and OBVIOUSLY seeking to garner attention. Which I think is a sweeping generalisation.

The top I was wearing today it would have been very obvious if I hadn't worn a bra. Doesn't mean that's ALWAYS the case though.

bananafish81 Some people can always tell though. Even with your loose fitting shirt and a crap angle, I was able to tell as were other posters. Besides, like Bluntness100 said the op gave a picture of the type of clothing she would wear and it would be obvious. Your view on your breasts with your outfit on that one particular day and still noticeable, is anecdotal. I don’t really see what you are trying to prove? I’d agree with you that it may not always be attention seeking but I can imagine with a larger bust and close fitting tops it could come across that way. In any top I would argue, with movement and flow of the garment you would always be able to tell. Some people have a knack for things like that.

OK - it's always obvious. I shall await silent judgement by my colleagues about my lack of professionalism!

bananafish81 I wouldn’t and haven’t said it’s unprofessional. Noticeable, yes but unprofessional? Nope, I wouldn’t think so.

I don't wear a bra to work. No one has said anything and it does not affect my ability to work!

Why all the discussion about whether one can judge whether a bra is being worn?

If one accepts that wearing a bra is not compulsory (which I hope we do! ), then looking for signs of one is rather pointless.

GladAllOver I don’t think anyone goes looking to see if a bra is being worn or not. More that it’s somethig that is noticeable because it’s not seen often.