to want to go braless even though DP disapproves?

[TikiMara]

Been with DP for 3 years. When I'm not at work I tend not to wear a bra. I have c cup boobs. Not tiny but not big either. I don't have significantly protruding nipples (not that it would matter if I did!). Problem is, I love going braless, it's so comfy and I just prefer it. DP hates it. Thinks it's inappropriate (no, I don't wear anything see through or massively booby). He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not) and I may as well be naked... AIBU to think, 'my boobs, my choice' ?

Im sure mens would be absolutely fine to strap their cock and balls up with strappings and bits of metal and hooks every day.

I generally only wear Molkes now, which are incredibly comfortable. Cant cope with underwires at all

Can I just state that I do not wear skin tight tops or tops which show excessive cleavage. Definitely not anything sheer either without a bra!

DP is not controlling. This was a passing discussion, he wasn't dictating to me what I can and cannot do and was smiling as he said it. Not aggressive etc.

I didn't say that nobody would look. Of course some people will. I'm sure some people do regardless of the bra! Just like people look at bottoms. I just thought it was extreme to insinuate that everyone would be fixated on my breasts. The way he put it made me think of a reversed lynx advert!

My boobs don't rest against my belly I'm a c cup! They don't really swing either! They just kind of sit there...

Sorry, haven't had a chance to read all the comments but absolutely will!

Definitely not unreasonable to not wear a bra. It's your choice. It's not a mandatory piece of clothing. If he thinks everyone is staring at your boob's then that's his issue, not yours.
I'm a C cup too and very rarely wear a bra. Even my current pregnancy DD cup boob's have hardly seen a bra!

Your partner can have an opinion, then it is up to you whether you take any notice or not.
If he's normally not controlling and is fairly laid back about things, then perhaps you should respect his opinion as it's obviously important t enough for him to mention it. If he's an opinionated arse, then ignore him totally.

I see his point. I feel totally indecent if i don't have a bra on, even in my own home regardless what i'm wearing.
The only time mine are free is while i shower, otherwise i always have a bra on, i don't understand how anyone can be comfortable without.

If I was able to, I'd never wear a bra. Sadly with my FFs its not a remotely attractive sight, therefore I spend all day strapped into a firmly hoisted boulder holder.

I greatly envy you OP and think you should do what you like!

I sometimes go out without a bra, I'm only a B cup but people stare! Women as well as men, in a shocked/disapproving sort of way. I guess without a bra boobs jiggle a bit when we walk so people stare. I don't like the attention so most of the time I wear a soft non wired crop top type bra or sports bra.

Sadly going braless out of the house seems to get the same response as wearing PJs outside.

Buy him a jockstrap and tell him that when he agrees to wear that every single day then you will wear a bra.

I’m a c cup too, but mine are like torpedos if left loose - outward thrust, and very jiggly. No way could I go without a bra outside. But if yours sit quite close to your body OP then go for it.
It does seem weird that your DP would even notice if you’re braless or not, but maybe my DP is just a bit vague when it comes to these things.

The answer to this will always be your boobs your choice. The deeper deeper decision is how much do you let your partners discomfort influence your choice.

Most tops it's fairly obvious when a woman is braless, breasts dont really just sit there when we move about, not real ones anyway. The fact he's saying you may as well be naked would indicate it's very obvious indeed. Like that image of Charlie dimmock, her top was neither overly tight or low cut, nor was it sheer, but it's very clear she isn't wearing a bra.

So. Again this is a personal choice and what you're personally comfortable with. Most women do wear a bra, vest or crop,top, either for comfort or discretion, if you don't want to, you don't have to, and it's up to you how much stock you take of your partners discomfort when making that choice.

Are you reading, Daily Shit?
You'll be wanting this online in the morning.

Personal choice

But don't just look in the mirror whilst you stand over, walk towards the mirror

I did this with a top with "inbuilt bra", and I thought it was fine (humble c cup)... it was a bit jelly-belly when I walked/jogged/bent over

But was ok when standing still

Thing is, no one's opinion on your body or appearance actually matters. Other people are free to hold their stupid opinions, and to express them, if they must, but they can't enforce them. I don't shave or wear bras because I don't want to. As yet, no one has called the police or pelted me with stones. I have no 'respect' for other people's wrong opinions, anyway - why should I?

I have a question. Where do pubes end, and leg hair begin?

At the groin.

I hate not wearing a bra. Even reading this thread makes my boobs ache 😂

It is your choice, first and foremost.

However he may have a point. And it’s okay for him to have an opinion. Just not try to enforce it!

If my DP was wearing thin shorts and it was a bit, Er, not leaving much to the imagination, then I’d probably say something! But if he didn’t want to change, well it’s not the end of the world. Same with you, it probably is obvious at work that you are not wearing a bra. Consider it. But if you don’t want to change, so be it! I certainly think it’s every persons right to dress how they want.

@Bluntness100 didn't say I may as well be naked  they're not that obvious!

@EndofSummer work is the only time that I always wear a bra other than in the winter when I know my huge jumper is NOT coming off!!

An example of something I might wear...

Your boobs, your choice. Tell him you’ll wear a bra if he does

It's weird how a woman going braless gets many people up in arms ... but a woman wearing a bra and a low cut top so that the breasts are kind of served up in a "bra platform" on show, is seen as perfectly fine.

Which goes to show once again that women's breasts are only allowed to be part of our sexual appearance, and not in any way simply a (useful for babies) body part.

bridesmaidinchief

Thank you 😂 I am absolutely howling.

I'm 100% in agreement with your body, your choice, but tbh I know I would make myself and everyone around me incredibly uncomfortable if I went out of the house braless and so I don't. I do have very prominent nipples though so maybe it's different.

Op, sorry, in your initial post you specifically state he said you may as well be naked if you re read it.

He thinks everyone is staring at my breasts (they're not) and I may as well be naked

Completely your choice. He has an opinion, but that’s all it is.