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What a weird night/day...

209 replies

ColdStarFish · 25/04/2018 21:29

Bit of an odd story and I'm not sure what I want/expect replies wise but here goes...

Back story, currently 24 weeks pregnant with DD1. Working full time and generally knackered 24/7.
So, last night I worked a late shift at work. Finished at 11pm and drove home as per usual.
DFiance was at home and normally goes up to bed before I'm back.
I get home at 11:30pm and the house is in darkness so assume he's upstairs. Go to open the door and it's locked. The dogs at this point are barking the house down - intruder alert, (we have four big dogs). Try my key in the lock and it won't go in because his keys are in the other side of the door.
Tried to call his mobile - not answering (probably on silent).
Tried to call the house phone - doesn't hear that either.
Try the back door, same scenario.
Chucked stones at the bedroom window - nothing.
So I go back around to the front of the house.
I then tried to reach the keys through the letter box, my hand was too big to get anywhere near the lock or dangling keys. Tried to hook them with a long stick but the stick was the wrong shape and no use.
Then I tried to remove the letter box. Luckily had access to a screwdriver but couldn't remove both sides and so this was useless too.
Tried the windows, all closed and feasibly I wouldn't have been able to scramble up or get through any of them Hmm
Tried to push the key out but couldn't do that either.
By midnight I decided to give up. With no money on me I had no choice other than to sleep in my car.
I had an old rug in the boot (used for the dogs) so I curled up under that, had raging heartburn all night, horrific cramping from being contorted into weird shapes and slept for about 3 broken hours in total.

DF sent me a message saying sorry, asking where I was at 7ish this morning and that he had unlocked the door. I was in McDonalds at this point as I was desperate for a wee & treated myself to a cup of tea.

I got home and went straight to bed and I've been here pretty much ever since.

DF has been lying on the sofa all day and not once has he apologised verbally to me. He's just slothed there watching TV (supposed to be working). I asked if he was feeling ok and he says he has stomach ache.

AIBU to want to shout at him?
I'm sure it was a mistake and he didn't mean to lock his pregnant fiancée out in the cold all night but the lack of verbal apology and the fact that he's done sod all all day makes me a bit annoyed really.
If it were the other way around I'd at least have made an effort to show I gave a shit about my mistake.

Hmm
OP posts:
speakout · 25/04/2018 21:33

How did he sleep though the dogs barking?
Do you have a huge house?
Had he been drinking?

YouTheCat · 25/04/2018 21:34

What a tit! I'd be livid.

flubdub · 25/04/2018 21:37

I would be fuming and sulking!
Is he a particularly heavy sleeper??

Justinecase1985 · 25/04/2018 21:37

Wtf?! I’d be furious. Beyond furious.
Is he normally that much of a deep sleeper? I would like to think that OH would wake up when I came into bed, or at least sense my presence.
What if something had happened? It’s a bit worrying that he would have waited until 7am before thinking something was afoot.

JazzyJefff · 25/04/2018 21:38

OMG I would of gone fucking mental! 👊🏼

Ginkypig · 25/04/2018 21:38

Why have you not asked him what the fuck he was playing at?

He left his pregnant partner locked out of the house all fucking night and hasn't even explained how or why never mind apologised.

Wtf!

Are you ok now though, have the cramps calmed down.

ColdStarFish · 25/04/2018 21:39

Our house is far from massive, it's a small 3 bed terrace.

Don't think he had been drinking (no evidence anywhere). Not been close enough to him to smell anything on him.

I don't know how any of the noise I was making didn't wake him up.

Doesn't fill me with confidence for when DD is crying in the night. Looks like I'll be pretty much on my own being as a practical attempted burglary didn't wake the idiot up.

OP posts:
mynameismrbloom · 25/04/2018 21:40

What?

I would have called the emergency services assuming he was incapacitated or worse.

Is he a drinker?

WowserBowser · 25/04/2018 21:40

Was he drunk?!

ColdStarFish · 25/04/2018 21:40

I haven't asked him @Ginkypig because I don't really want to speak to him right now.

Maybe I'll talk to him tomorrow.

Annoyed at his uselessness.

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YouTheCat · 25/04/2018 21:40

What would you have done if he'd done this and you had a baby with you? Sleeping in a car with a little one isn't really an option. What if it'd been freezing cold (as it was only a few weeks ago)?

TheDinosaurRoars · 25/04/2018 21:41

I would have called the police and asked them to do a welfare check because I am amazed a normal person can sleep through that so I would have assumed something awful had happened to him.

SabineUndine · 25/04/2018 21:41

Could he possibly have locked you out on purpose for some reason?

SchrodingersCatepillar · 25/04/2018 21:41

This doesn’t bode well for him being available to tend to the baby overnight!

Fuckingnamechanging · 25/04/2018 21:41

(we have four big dogs)
small 3 bed terrace

Bet your neighbours love you

candlefloozy · 25/04/2018 21:41

That is really strange. How did he not wake up? Similar thing Happened to me recently. I have a door to porch and then another door. I got into porch but other door had dead lock on. Left on by my child. Hub was in bed so didn't hear me knocking for ages. I kept ringing but it was on silent. He eventually heard me after 15 mins. But was sorry about it. It was just an accident. But he still said sorry.

JustVent · 25/04/2018 21:42

Something dodgy going on and I can’t figure out if it’s the hairy footed kind or if this is true than the DF is up to something dodgy.
Who doesn’t wake up to door bells and 4 barking dogs?

Juells · 25/04/2018 21:43

That is all so strange Hmm

You must be very easy-going not to have blown the roof off when you finally got back in the house Hmm

YouTheCat · 25/04/2018 21:43

Leaving his keys in one door could just be an oversight (tiredness, drunk etc). Leaving his keys in both doors seems more deliberate to me.

TemptressofWaikiki · 25/04/2018 21:43

He would be sleeping in the car for the next few weeks if he had done that to me!

ColdStarFish · 25/04/2018 21:43

@YouTheCat I don't know 😞
Obviously I wouldn't have slept in the car with LO, I'd have had to check into a hotel and beg them to accept payment in the morning and got him to pay for it.
I really have no idea.

He does drink but not normally anything excessive just the odd beer every now and again and as I say there was no evidence in the house that he'd been drinking at all.

OP posts:
JustVent · 25/04/2018 21:43

fuckingnamechanging that’s exactly what I thought.
Small 3 bed house and 4 large dogs? Hmm

fuzzywuzzy · 25/04/2018 21:44

Is he on medication? How did he sleep thro the dogs barking, the phone going the stones against the windows etc.

ColdStarFish · 25/04/2018 21:45

We always leave the key in the back door, it's never removed.

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speakout · 25/04/2018 21:46

I would have called the police too.

No way would I have slept in the car.

He was either:

  1. Drunk.
  2. Medicated.
  3. Pissed off with you and doing this deliberately
  4. Not actually at home- out and then sneaked back in later.
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