What a weird night/day...

[ColdStarFish]

Bit of an odd story and I'm not sure what I want/expect replies wise but here goes...

Back story, currently 24 weeks pregnant with DD1. Working full time and generally knackered 24/7.
So, last night I worked a late shift at work. Finished at 11pm and drove home as per usual.
DFiance was at home and normally goes up to bed before I'm back.
I get home at 11:30pm and the house is in darkness so assume he's upstairs. Go to open the door and it's locked. The dogs at this point are barking the house down - intruder alert, (we have four big dogs). Try my key in the lock and it won't go in because his keys are in the other side of the door.
Tried to call his mobile - not answering (probably on silent).
Tried to call the house phone - doesn't hear that either.
Try the back door, same scenario.
Chucked stones at the bedroom window - nothing.
So I go back around to the front of the house.
I then tried to reach the keys through the letter box, my hand was too big to get anywhere near the lock or dangling keys. Tried to hook them with a long stick but the stick was the wrong shape and no use.
Then I tried to remove the letter box. Luckily had access to a screwdriver but couldn't remove both sides and so this was useless too.
Tried the windows, all closed and feasibly I wouldn't have been able to scramble up or get through any of them
Tried to push the key out but couldn't do that either.
By midnight I decided to give up. With no money on me I had no choice other than to sleep in my car.
I had an old rug in the boot (used for the dogs) so I curled up under that, had raging heartburn all night, horrific cramping from being contorted into weird shapes and slept for about 3 broken hours in total.

DF sent me a message saying sorry, asking where I was at 7ish this morning and that he had unlocked the door. I was in McDonalds at this point as I was desperate for a wee & treated myself to a cup of tea.

I got home and went straight to bed and I've been here pretty much ever since.

DF has been lying on the sofa all day and not once has he apologised verbally to me. He's just slothed there watching TV (supposed to be working). I asked if he was feeling ok and he says he has stomach ache.

AIBU to want to shout at him?
I'm sure it was a mistake and he didn't mean to lock his pregnant fiancée out in the cold all night but the lack of verbal apology and the fact that he's done sod all all day makes me a bit annoyed really.
If it were the other way around I'd at least have made an effort to show I gave a shit about my mistake.

Good point @YouTheCat
Something doesn’t add up.
Are you not suspicious OP?? You seem very accepting of the situation and only annoyed by his subsequent reaction.

Just for context - our neighbours on one side are deaf and the other side are rarely at home.
Never had any complaints about the dogs. Most of the time they are quiet but I'm quite pleased that they barked thinking an intruder was trying to break in. They did stop when they realised it was me (after approx 30 seconds).

Huh?

That’s awful.

Can you get new locks to make sure it never happens again? The sort with a keyhole outside and a twisty knob on the inside?

Are you sure he was in?
The fact that his first reaction was to apologise by text suggests he knew it was his fault you weren't in. If he was genuinely slept through it, surely his assumption would be that you hadn't come home yet?
A bit odd, IMO.

I had a housemate who could sleep through anything. Nothing could wake her.

My ex used to do this to me. It was just part of his mind games.

We hadn't had an argument and everything was fine when I left for work so I don't think it was malicious.

Don't know where he would have gone if he was out as his van was there, so would have been somewhere on foot. Equally not sure how he would lock the door and leave the keys on the inside and then be able to exit the house...

This has happened once before ages ago.
He can be a heavy sleeper and he is working quite hard at the moment but I'm pretty certain the same circumstances would have woke me, although granted it doesn't take much.

Deaf neighbours! What are the chances of that...

Could he have taken some drugs? That'd explain how he could've slept through all the noise and right through the night, and why he's not feeling well today and not working.

WHAT the HELL did I just read......

Why haven't you asked him about it?

It doesn't make sense...why are you not furious that you had to sleep in your car? How can you only be upset that he hasn't apologised? I am genuinely baffled by your acceptance of this shit.

Something is very off here.

HOW HAVE YOU NOT ALREADY SHOUTED AT HIM?!?

I'd have been fucking livid.

I'm sorry but that's just utterly shit. He should be falling over himself to apologise and be horrified that he locked his pregnant fiancee out all night!!?? WTAF?

Watch out there OP, not just the lack of thought the night before (leaving fucking keys in the door!?) but the total lack of empathy the next day would be ringing alarm bells for me. Seems all a bit weird.

I've been in your DF situation... twice.

Although I always apologised. A lot. I wear ear plugs to sleep. DH was working overnight and returned home at 2am. I'd left keys in the door. I didn't hear his attempts to get in.

He was bloody furious, understandably. Even the two kids didn't wake up either.

I wouldn't have pretended nothing was wrong though.

I have done this a few times, but I would always wake up (sometimes takes a few minutes) when DH calls my phone.
I would apologise for forgetting to take key out & leaving him at the door.

I would have asked why he hadnt heard anything, was he on medication or something?
Does he have headphones on in bed? How could he not have heard the dogs, knocking etc strange & even stranger his reaction or lack of.

The dynamics of your relationship sound very skewed. Both your reactions are odd.

I think I haven't asked him because I'm too tired for a confrontation. I'm really worn down with work and completely knackered and I don't have the energy for shouting.

It's not difficult to understand how it happened fgs. He's a heavy sleeper (my 6 year old was screaming for me the other night, I didn't hear a thing) and he left the key in the door. My DH does this all the sodding time and I get really pissed off with him as I can't get in then. Thankfully it's not been at night as I don't tend to go out in the evenings, but it's easy to see how it happens. My brother it a heavy sleeper who never wakes up through massive storms (neither do I) or his alarms. Some people are like that without it being drink or drugs.

Oh but YANBU OP. He should be bloody grovelling to you today!

DF has been lying on the sofa all day and not once has he apologised verbally to me. He's just slothed there watching TV (supposed to be working). I asked if he was feeling ok and he says he has stomach ache.

My guess is he has been boozing or up all night shagging.
Either at home or not getting back until morning.

Stomach ache my foot.

He's shagged out or hungover.

I once slept through an earthquake.

My Dh was outside for a few hours. I woke up to go to toilet and realised he wasn't there.

It's absolutely outrageous that he didn't apologise. My DH would be absolutely beside himself if he had done that to me. I would be livid at him!