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Original poster

To have wanted to stab this woman at the ATM

232 replies

user1485342611 · 25/04/2018 17:17

I went up to the ATM this afternoon and got there a split second behind another woman so just smiled at her and stood back.

She then proceeded to put her card in and out a couple of times doing different transactions, took out another card and did the same and then did a transaction on a third card. By the time she was finished there was half a dozen people waiting in the queue.

AIBU to think she was a selfish cow who should have let me go ahead when she knew she was going to be ages?

OP posts:
Buzzlightyearsbumchin · 25/04/2018 17:19

How would she know you weren't going to be ages?

Total non issue.

unclejel · 25/04/2018 17:20

I think you need to work on your anger issues. I'm not sure wanting to stab someone for making you wait a few minutes is good enough reason to knife somenone

RoseWhiteTips · 25/04/2018 17:21

Yes she was annoying but feeling like stabbing her?
Overreaction much?

Original poster
user1485342611 · 25/04/2018 17:21

Not literally like stabbing her. It's just an expression.

OP posts:
youngnomore · 25/04/2018 17:21

You’re U for thinking she should have let you go first. But Not U for being mega pissed for taking her sweet ass time. Didn’t you say anything? Like hurry up woman look at the queue.

MyotherUsernameisaPun · 25/04/2018 17:22

Presumably you weren't in a hurry as you let her go before you, so it seems a bit of a non-issue. I would probably have been irritated at the general situation if I'd been in your shoes but I wouldn't have blamed the other person if I'd offered them the space before me.

liz70 · 25/04/2018 17:22

Cash machine rage! Grin I think some people must be negotiating a mortgage on a house at a point, the time they take. But no, ywbu to want to jump the queue, and besides, how would she know that you were going to be quick? Just suck it up and queue quietly and patiently like a true Brit whether you are one or not.

Sirzy · 25/04/2018 17:22

I do get frustrated by faffers at cash points but you can’t do anything about them so no point getting wound up!

Doofenschmirtz · 25/04/2018 17:23

"I went up to the ATM this afternoon and got there a split second behind another woman"

So she got there before you and you had to wait your turn. She didn't do anything wrong.

YABU

notacooldad · 25/04/2018 17:24

I think you need to work on your tolerance skills!

Sidge · 25/04/2018 17:24

Crikey. Not an expression I've ever used.

"Person gets incredibly angry at another person using an ATM machine for its intended purpose".

HildaZelda · 25/04/2018 17:24

I was in an ATM queue not so long ago and the woman up front was like this. Card in, card out, card in, card out. She did this without about five different cards. It was lunchtime, clearly a lot of people on a short lunch break and finally the man in front of me went "Are you applying for a mortgage up there or something?"

PinkCalluna · 25/04/2018 17:25

Look at it this way, did you need the cash so badly that you would have joined the queue even if there had been 3 people in it?

If yes, then what’s your issue.

If you didn’t really need it that badly you could have left to find another ATM.

sometimes you need to queue. It’s character building.

IWishYouWere · 25/04/2018 17:25

YABU it's not funny to joke about stabbing someone. You need to get a grip. Biscuit

Original poster
user1485342611 · 25/04/2018 17:25

Good for him Hilda. I wish I'd had the nerve to say something.

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ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 25/04/2018 17:28

AIBU to think she was a selfish cow who should have let me go ahead when she knew she was going to be ages?

So just you? What about all the people behind you? Should she have stood back and let them all go ahead of her?

YABU she was using the machine. You’d have had to wait just as long if 3 other people were each doing one transaction infront of you.

lovesugarfreejelly63 · 25/04/2018 17:28

User, I usually have to stand behind someone at the ATM who appear to be holding a fistful of cards. They then draw out money on each one, (in between answering their mobile phone)! much tutting and sighing in the now formidable queue. I continue to stand quite patiently, slight shuffling of feet now and again, and try to think kind thoughts!Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.

JacquesHammer · 25/04/2018 17:29

Woman in front of you uses cash machine for its intended purpose?

Can’t say it would induce such rage in me.

Do you usually find yourself getting angry over minor things?

RaininSummer · 25/04/2018 17:29

It is pretty weird to do that many transactions at an ATM so i think i would have got pretty wound up but not to the point of considering stabbing :) Probably some light huffing and puffing and glancing at my watch.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 25/04/2018 17:32

I’ve been in her position having to draw money off all my credit cards to lodge into my rent account when housing benefit fucked up my claim. I was massively stressed out by it so anyone commenting behind me in the queue would probably have found me going ten times slower just to spite them.

A4710Rider · 25/04/2018 17:32

When I used to commute by bus you'd get a certain type of person who was just so rage inducing.

  1. Stand in queue.
  2. Get on bus.
  3. Ask the driver how much it was to such and such.
  4. Look surprised.
  5. Root around handbag/purse/wallet
  6. Continue to root around finding pennies and two pennies to make up the fare like it's some kind of crime to use silver coins.
  7. Walk slowly down the bus holding onto every support beam.

Drove me mad.

windermerebell · 25/04/2018 17:33

I can do better there was a women at the o or cash point for miles yesterday who not o my tried 3 different cards but then rang the bank standing in front of the cash machine demanding that they increase her overdraft there and then. The man who said something got told the fuck off

JacquesHammer · 25/04/2018 17:33

Continue to root around finding pennies and two pennies to make up the fare like it's some kind of crime to use silver coins

Or you know maybe they’re rooting around to find enough money to ride the bus...

windermerebell · 25/04/2018 17:34

Not sure what when wrong with the word only in that last post

LastOneDancing · 25/04/2018 17:34

I'm with you OP, definitely not the stabbing bit, but if you both got there at the same time and she knew she was doing a three card shuffle, then it would have been polite to let you - who is most likely using the ATM like 99% of people to do one transaction - go first.

No it's not the law, yes I'm sure she was in a hurry too, yes everyone has the same right to the machine etc etc Hmm but its a thoughtful thing to do if you're going to be a while.